by Palmlover » Sat Apr 27, 2024 9:10 am
I love this subject and this will be a somewhat lengthy response (sorry), but I just love reading about other peoples journey’s to becoming chronic masturbators and look forward to reading them all.
I’m soon to be 65 and my normal daily routine usually involves 6-8 hours of masturbation, not necessarily all at once, but spread out somewhat throughout the day.
Obviously I’ve been masturbating since I first “discovered” it when I was 13. Even though I was raised in a small, conservative town and in a religious household, I don’t ever recall feeling guilty or uncomfortable about it. The subject was never discussed in either a positive or negative manner. I did have two much older brothers so I guess my parents just understood that “boys will be boys”!
You alluded to the Era in which we grew up. In my little town (Simon & Garfunkel anyone?) the girls simply didn’t put out (at least not that I knew of) so masturbation was my sole form of sexual release. As there was no easy access to porn, no internet, no VCRs, etc., just maybe the rare occasion of getting a Playboy or Penthouse from a friend, most of my masturbation involved fantasizing about the girls in school. Because of all this masturbation just seemed normal to me. It was fun, I enjoyed it, and it felt so damn good, so I did it as often as possible and continued to do so as I got older.
I didn’t have full-blown sex with a woman until I was 19. It was great, no doubt about it, but the opportunities were few and far between so masturbation was still my main source of sexual release. By now I was in the military and suddenly had easier access porn, mostly skin mags (Chic, High Society, Gent, Juggs, etc.) which was great and definitely took my masturbation to the next level! When VCRs became widely available (early ’80s) I invested in one mostly for the sole purpose of watching adult videos. That kicked things up, masturbatorially speaking, another notch!
I got married at 22 to a woman almost 20 years my senior. This was my first opportunity to have sex on a regular basis. She was obviously a sexually experienced woman and she taught me a lot, bless her heart! But even though I had access to pussy pretty much whenever I wanted it, I had been a dedicated masturbator for close to 10 years and I found that I missed my “alone time”. Fortunately my wife (we eventually divorced and she has since passed) was fairly open minded about porn and didn’t mind it at all, no doubt in part because of her previous marriage to another military guy. She didn’t mind my porn mags and we often watched porn videos together. It just seemed natural to me to incorporate my love of masturbation into our sex life and quite often she would lick my balls and eat my ass while I masturbated looking at a porn mag or watching a video. She acted like this was all quite normal no doubt, again, from experiences in her previous marriage.
Slowly but surely this became a bigger and bigger part of our sex life. I absolutely loved it and I was still young enough where we could do that and I could still fuck her properly whenever she wanted. Despite all this though, I still found myself craving more alone time. Masturbation was, after all, my first love and, as they say, you always return to your first love! Like many people here have done (and are still doing), I started waking up earlier so I could enjoy an hour or 2 of uninterrupted self-love, and on the few days I got home from work before she did, I would indulge in my favorite pastime.
She often worked on Saturdays so, like many others here, I looked forward to spending the day wallowing in masturbatory bliss! My wife knew what I was doing, I made no real attempt to hide it, but she didn’t mind as long as, like I said earlier, she could get properly fucked whenever she wanted.
Gradually my desire for “real” sex with my wife, or anyone else for that matter, waned somewhat. Don’t misunderstood me, sex was still fun and I enjoyed it, but I simply knew that I would rather be masturbating, if that makes any sense. There’s no muss or fuss with masturbation, no performance anxiety issues, no worrying about pleasing a partner, etc., etc., etc. You only have to worry about yourself and you know exactly when, where and how you want to be stimulated. Anyway, we divorced shortly after I retired from the military. I lived alone for a handful of months and I took full advantage of my alone time. It was great to just freely walk around naked and watch porn & masturbate if that’s what I wanted to do and, believe me, I did it a lot!
Purely by coincidence I ran into an old flame of mine from my youth. We started seeing each other regularly and we eventually got married. This is the wife I’ve been writing about these past couple of years. Again, read some of my older posts if you want the whole story.
Much like my first marriage, the sex was great for the first few years, but once again I started missing my masturbation time. She did not care for porn but she knew that occasionally I partook in it. Out of respect for her I was discreet about it and only did so when I was home alone.
Fast-forwarding through a lot of things, we got divorced 9 years ago. Not because of any cheating or abuse or my masturbation. It was very amicable and we have since remarried. We were apart for 7 years and it was during this time that I became a confirmed, dedicated solo/pornosexual. I had a real breakthrough, a true epiphany, and realized and accepted the fact that this was definitely the lifestyle I had always wanted to live and I embraced it completely! I dropped all pretenses that I was anything other than a chronic masturbator and I dove headfirst into the lifestyle, submerging myself in it totally and completely. I bought a Venus for Men hands-free masturbation machine, a few Fleshlights, a Quick Shot and a wide assortment of cock rings, dildos and butt-plugs. As I said, I went all in! Watching porn and masturbating my days away became the norm and it was absolutely wonderful! Don’t misunderstand, I didn’t become a shut-in or a masturbation hermit. I still had a social life and I got the things done that needed to be done, but by far the largest majority of my time was spent with penis in hand! I pursued and invested in anything that could enhance my masturbation experience.
When we got back together I told my ex exactly how I had been living my life, how happy it made me, and that I truly loved it. Somewhat surprisingly she said she was cool with it and she could live with it! We’ve been back together for almost 2 years now and she has been true to her word. Obviously some adjustments had to be made in some other aspects of my life, but as far as my porn and masturbation habits go, nothing has changed with the exception that we do usually masturbate together most every day. To me the biggest and best thing that has happened is that we both admitted that, at this stage in our lives, we would both rather masturbate than have “real” sex (you know what I mean). For me that is great because it removed any possibility of having “performance anxiety”. To try and satisfy her desire for penetration, I’ve bought her numerous dildos and vibrators plus a Sybian, and a top-notch fuck machine that she can attach whatever dildo she wants and she can get fucked as hard & fast or as slow & easy as she wants. We also “help” each other, kissing fondling, groping, licking and sucking each other, etc., to enhance our masturbation and it’s great! What’s so freeing and wonderful about it is that we both know what feels best for us and we can provide it for ourselves. We both prefer to do it to ourselves so there’s no pressure whatsoever to perform and no worrying about if the things you are doing are pleasing your partner. We lay next to each other and happily masturbate while watching each other masturbate. It’s great!
Back to addressing the OP’s questions, I simply never recall feeling any shame or guilt over my masturbation. To me it was a completely natural thing to do. As there was (and still is) a stigma attached to it, I didn’t advertise the fact that I was a chronic masturbator, but I never felt ashamed of it. The above story shows how my masturbation habit changed over the years, from quick jerk-off sessions, trying to cum as fast as possible, to prolonged, hours long sessions that took up, and still do take up, most of my day. There’s absolutely no question that masturbation got better and better over the years! The mental and physical state I get into from hours and hours of masturbation is simply indescribable! I crave being in that state and strive to get there every single day!
by DrDave » Thu May 02, 2024 2:19 pm
Same here. I’ve masturbated all my life, but it has changed as I grew older. In the beginning, the purpose was to achieve orgasm. Now the purpose is to work myself up to a state of very high arousal and stay there as long as possible. I love that feeling of masturbation bliss, the exquisite sensations in my penis as I masturbate for as long as I can. I love to stare at my penis as I masturbate it, just looking at the source that produces the ecstasy I’m feeling. Another thing that’s changed with age is gooning. I used to sort of freak out whenever I would get so excited I would start babbling. Now it is the desired goal. I want to get so drunk on masturbation that I really cannot control myself. The loss of control and the inability to stop masturbating is exhilarating. I literally just want to keep doing it forever when I’m in that state of masturbation intoxication. Of course, I masturbated frequently when I was younger, but overall I masturbating more now than I did then. My sessions are much much longer. The level of arousal I achieve is much higher. The orgasms I eventually experience are just magnificent. —
by Gillh » Sun May 05, 2024 6:45 am
I am 77 year old, married male. We have been married for 51 years and have a wonderful relationship. Unfortunately, my wife has sex play far down on her to-do list. For 75 she looks fantastic. We masturbate together mostly. Very exciting to do.I have some ED issues so penetration is difficult. There is not oral sex wither way for her. I miss it. I masturbate regularly. She knows I do and does it by herself also. It is very exciting when she tells me she did. I told her it is not necessary to tell me. We need our private sex lives, too. We both enjoy vibration to cum. I do it 2-3 times per week alone. I can edge for a long time and make a lot of pre-cum. I have a bi sex side and have had a few experiences. Mostly mutual masturbation. I have done it on cam, too. Very nice to chat and cum together. I have done it with a group on cam a few times. Very nice! I prefer women, men, couples my age or order. It helps to watch mature, amatuer couples porn on line. I enjoy reading all the Older Masturbation postings and hope to friends. It is quite stimulating to learn about other’s sexual desires and experiences.
by Palmlover » Mon May 06, 2024 6:51 am
My wife & I are 10 years your junior but your story resonates with us. Our sex life consists solely of masturbation, either alone or together. I watch porn and masturbate off & on all day and my wife masturbates by herself fairly often as well. Unlike you though, I want to know if she’s masturbated! It turns me on knowing that while I’m sitting in my sun room pumping my cock, she’s in her bedroom fucking her pussy! After a day filled with solo masturbation (she has orgasms, I don’t) we will normally masturbate together and that’s when I get to cum.
I too have issues with ED and can’t really stay hard enough for actual penetration. Fortunately, we’ve admitted to each other that at this stage in our lives we would both rather masturbate than have “real” sex (you know what I mean) so it’s all good. I’ve bought her numerous toys she can use to fulfill her desires for penetration and she enthusiastically uses them all!
I also enjoy mature amateur porn as I can relate to it so well. I love seeing older couples or groups just wantonly having uninhibited sex! They’ve reached the age where they all know exactly what they like doing and they’re not ashamed to say so! They’re so open about everything as they unashamedly do all the nasty, kinky things they want to do with each other. I love it!
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