TOO MUCH OF A GOOD THING

From TOO MUCH OF A GOOD THING – Dr Dick’s Sex Advice

Today, I will start with a declaration. A “Thus Sayth Doctor Dick,” sorta deal. I know I’ve said this before, but it bears repeating. I reject the concept of sex addiction, that is floating around in the popular culture these days. I know this will rankle a bunch of you, but you need to get over it. Ya see, there ain’t no such thing as a sex addiction. Period!

That being said, I hasten to add that there are sexual compulsions, plenty of ‘em. However, compulsions are not addictions and addictions, while they may involve irresistible impulses, are not the same thing as compulsions. Get it? Got it? Good!

Check it out. With the help of my handy-dandy dictionary, a good place to start in all such discussions, I discovered these two very distinct definitions.

Addiction — a need for and use of a habit-forming substance (as heroin, nicotine, or alcohol) characterized by well-defined physiological symptoms upon withdrawal. Broadly: persistent use of a substance known by the user to be harmful. A state of physiological and psychological dependence on a drug.

Compulsive — driven by an irresistible inner force to do something; i.e. a compulsive liar.See! Different words. Different meanings. Not a particularly complex notion to grasp, right?

And listen, just because a bunch of pseudo-intelligent afternoon talks show hosts banter the two concepts about like they were interchangeable doesn’t make it so. In fact, we do ourselves a huge disservice by jumbling these two very specific concepts. Because finding the proper intervention for either an addiction or a compulsive behavior will be as specific as the problem itself. One thing is for certain; misidentifying one of the things, as the other will surly complicate the problem solving. It’s kinda like going to the doctor with a headache, and when the doc asks where it hurts, you point to your stomach. It simply won’t do.

more at TOO MUCH OF A GOOD THING – Dr Dick’s Sex Advice

Join the Onania Masturbator Forum

 

The Onania Masturbator Forum

is  a supportive, affirming community of people living with chronic addiction to masturbation. The focus is on our lives as addicted masturbators, and the pleasures / conflicts / impacts related to our compelling habit. If you (or a partner ) are addicted to masturbation, you are encouraged to join. Here are some samples of the discussions:

Click to View or Join Forum

In Onania Masturbator Forum  we freely share our masturbatory fantasies and techniques, including extreme excessive practices used to intensify autoerotic gratification. We explore our conflicts about the costs of masturbation addiction on career, family, friends, and life goals. We process residual feelings of shame, guilt, and humiliation that for some attach to chronic masturbation.

Unlike other pro- or anti-masturbation groups, the Forum is value-neutral and non-judgmental. We make no assumption that masturbation addiction is inherently good or bad, or that chronic masturbators should seek to change their behavior. Each member is free to form and express his own opinions without fear of criticism or judgment. We offer understanding, encouragement, and validation — both to those still struggling with their compulsions and to those finally reconciled to permanent and incurable masturbation addiction.

Onania Masturbator Forum welcomes both male and female masturbators (and partners of masturbators), from gay to straight in sexual orientation. Though a large percentage of the members are male, ladies are encouraged to join and are treated with respect.

 

Are you addicted to masturbation?

Are you addicted to masturbation? Or suspect you may be? Are you spending more and more time masturbating? Do you think about masturbating, even when you are not doing it? Have you tried stopping or cutting back, but just can’t seem to give it up? Does the thought that you may be losing control excite you to masturbate even more?

If you have discovered this website, then you may already be addicted to masturbation, perhaps incurably so. If that possibility disturbs you, then you may be “in denial” about your addiction. The first step in coming to terms with masturbation addiction is the forthright and honest admission of your condition. 

Are you addicted? These tests and articles may help you find out.

Audio programs to help you identify and come to terms with your masturbation addiction

Onania . Org/asm offers  podcasturbations (audio recordings) may help you determine whether you are addicted, and admit to yourself your compelling need for masturbatory gratification.

 

About Onania . Org/asm

Onania . Org/asm is about…

  • Sharing the joy and challenge of living with masturbation addiction
  • Masturbation articles, fiction, and audio programs
  • Personal accounts of chronic masturbators
  • Support for masturbators and their partners
  • Managing masturbation addiction in your life

Onania . Org/asm is not about…

  • Judging you for over indulging in masturbation
  • Getting you to stop or cut back
  • Providing professional advice, consultation, or therapy

Onania . Org/asm expresses my personal experiences living with masturbation addiction and a life-long  fascination with masturbatory behavior — especially in its more chronic and compulsive manifestations. Here I reveal my innermost needs and conflicts. But it is more than a personal mental ejaculation. It is a resource for people living with masturbation addiction, dealing with uncontrollable urges. Here you will find a wide range of articles, fiction, and audio programs dealing with the subject of chronic masturbation.

Onania . Org/asm is intended for adults over the age of 21. If you are a minor seeking information on masturbation, see Wikipedia

But please, before you proceed into the site, heed the  Warning for Satire-Impaired


More About Onania . Org/asm

About Me

I am a masturbator — a chronic masturbator. I am incurably addicted to the unnaturally strong sexual gratifications a male achieves only through practiced self-stimulation. I am married and heterosexual, but my fundamental sexual orientation has become autoerotic. Masturbation has become my only mode of sexual expression; animates my erotic fantasies with bizarre and extreme scenarios; consumes my time with reading and writing about it; and drives me to personally connect with fellow male onanists.

But along with the indescribably delicious rapture experienced during extended masturbation, I feel conflict and anxiety about my habit. I must admit to myself that the pleasure comes at a cost in time, accomplishments, and relationships. I often feel that I do it “too much”, neglecting responsibilities and ambitions; from time to time try to stop or cut back, but always fall back into unrestrained self-indulgence. The sense of personal enslavement and lack of self control feeds a shame response, which has become eroticized over time and is now inseparable from the act of masturbation and only stimulates me to greater excess. To borrow a phrase, “I am ashamed because I masturbate, and I masturbate because I am ashamed.”

About You

Your presence here, your discovery of this dark corner of the Web is not accidental. You share the experiences I  describe. Like me, you are a chronic masturbator. Perhaps even an addicted masturbator. You may know and acknowledge your masturbatory nature, or you may be just now discovering it. You are welcome here, and I promise you are not alone.

If this self-awareness is new to you, it may be difficult to accept. The world is not kind to chronic masturbators. We are objects of pity, or derision. We are not “real men”. We hide our nature to avoid ridicule and embarrassment. You know this; you feel ashamed and guilty for what you are becoming. But it’s OK, I understand. You are a masturbator. It is not something you can stop or control. You are welcome here, and I promise you are not alone.

That is why you have come here: to feel that you are not alone. You want, you need, you must know that others feel the call of our own flesh and willingly surrender to it. You want to know how another masturbator handles himself, what fantasies he has, what toys he uses, whether like you he is in rut for his own hand or feels the sweet sad emptiness after a spurting release. You are welcome here, and I promise you are not alone.

Perhaps you have a partner but find yourself uninterested or even incapable of partner sex — your male organs feel so much better in your own hands. You want to know if others no longer enter their partners, and wish only to copulate with themselves. You are welcome here, and I promise you are not alone.

So many secrets you want to know, and to reveal your secrets in turn. And you instinctively know that only another chronic masturbator can understand how you feel and accept you without judgement. You are welcome here, and I promise you are not alone.

About this Site

 

I operate this site both as a personal hobby and a voluntary service for the community of chronic masturbators. It is completely non-commercial: I don’t make money from it, and support it entirely from my own resources.  I don’t track cookies, or keep or resell any personal information on visitors. 

The site is male in focus, both because I am male and I believe that males make up the vast majority of addicted masturbators. Chronic masturbation is a behavior that cuts across all sexual preference lines, and adult men of all sexual orientations from straight to gay will find much in common here.

Women also are fully welcome to enjoy the site (and post comments), whether you are a chronic masturbator yourself, the partner of a masturbator, or simply curious about male masturbatory habits. Female partners of male masturbators have a special role: your help and understanding can assist the addicted male to control his habit and maintain balance with other priorities in life. I invite ladies to contact me personally by email if you have questions.

Chronic masturbation is a major social and personal challenge facing males today. Once in the grip of masturbatory addiction, it is virtually impossible for the male to free himself from the habit. For some it can take over his life, leading to loss of esteem, career achievement, social ties, and family well being. Shame and embarrassment, fear of humiliation and ridicule, prevent us from openly discussing our issues with family, friends, or counselors. This site may help those struggling in silence.

However, if you reject your urges and sincerely wish to escape your masturbatory habits, then beware: you will find no help or comfort here. I offer only the cautionary example of a soul who long ago lost that battle and unconditionally surrendered to living with habitual and chronic masturbation addiction.

Where did the name “Onania” come from?

The name Onania comes from a seminal work Onania; or, The Heinous Sin of Self-Pollution on the dangers of masturbation published anonymously in London in 1723.

see also

About Onania . Org/asm

Onania . Org/asm is about…

  • Sharing the joy and challenge of living with masturbation addiction
  • Masturbation articles, fiction, and audio programs
  • Personal accounts of chronic masturbators
  • Support for masturbators and their partners
  • Managing masturbation addiction in your life

Onania . Org/asm is not about…

  • Judging you for over indulging in masturbation
  • Getting you to stop or cut back
  • Providing professional advice, consultation, or therapy

Onania . Org/asm expresses my personal experiences living with masturbation addiction and a life-long  fascination with masturbatory behavior — especially in its more chronic and compulsive manifestations. Here I reveal my innermost needs and conflicts. But it is more than a personal mental ejaculation. It is a resource for people living with masturbation addiction, dealing with uncontrollable urges. Here you will find a wide range of articles, fiction, and audio programs dealing with the subject of chronic masturbation.

Onania . Org/asm is intended for adults over the age of 21. If you are a minor seeking information on masturbation, see Wikipedia

But please, before you proceed into the site, heed the  Warning for Satire-Impaired


More About Onania . Org/asm

About Me

I am a masturbator — a chronic masturbator. I am incurably addicted to the unnaturally strong sexual gratifications a male achieves only through practiced self-stimulation. I am married and heterosexual, but my fundamental sexual orientation has become autoerotic. Masturbation has become my only mode of sexual expression; animates my erotic fantasies with bizarre and extreme scenarios; consumes my time with reading and writing about it; and drives me to personally connect with fellow male onanists.

But along with the indescribably delicious rapture experienced during extended masturbation, I feel conflict and anxiety about my habit. I must admit to myself that the pleasure comes at a cost in time, accomplishments, and relationships. I often feel that I do it “too much”, neglecting responsibilities and ambitions; from time to time try to stop or cut back, but always fall back into unrestrained self-indulgence. The sense of personal enslavement and lack of self control feeds a shame response, which has become eroticized over time and is now inseparable from the act of masturbation and only stimulates me to greater excess. To borrow a phrase, “I am ashamed because I masturbate, and I masturbate because I am ashamed.”

About You

Your presence here, your discovery of this dark corner of the Web is not accidental. You share the experiences I  describe. Like me, you are a chronic masturbator. Perhaps even an addicted masturbator. You may know and acknowledge your masturbatory nature, or you may be just now discovering it. You are welcome here, and I promise you are not alone.

If this self-awareness is new to you, it may be difficult to accept. The world is not kind to chronic masturbators. We are objects of pity, or derision. We are not “real men”. We hide our nature to avoid ridicule and embarrassment. You know this; you feel ashamed and guilty for what you are becoming. But it’s OK, I understand. You are a masturbator. It is not something you can stop or control. You are welcome here, and I promise you are not alone.

That is why you have come here: to feel that you are not alone. You want, you need, you must know that others feel the call of our own flesh and willingly surrender to it. You want to know how another masturbator handles himself, what fantasies he has, what toys he uses, whether like you he is in rut for his own hand or feels the sweet sad emptiness after a spurting release. You are welcome here, and I promise you are not alone.

Perhaps you have a partner but find yourself uninterested or even incapable of partner sex — your male organs feel so much better in your own hands. You want to know if others no longer enter their partners, and wish only to copulate with themselves. You are welcome here, and I promise you are not alone.

So many secrets you want to know, and to reveal your secrets in turn. And you instinctively know that only another chronic masturbator can understand how you feel and accept you without judgement. You are welcome here, and I promise you are not alone.

About this Site

 

I operate this site both as a personal hobby and a voluntary service for the community of chronic masturbators. It is completely non-commercial: I don’t make money from it, and support it entirely from my own resources.  I don’t track cookies, or keep or resell any personal information on visitors. 

The site is male in focus, both because I am male and I believe that males make up the vast majority of addicted masturbators. Chronic masturbation is a behavior that cuts across all sexual preference lines, and adult men of all sexual orientations from straight to gay will find much in common here.

Women also are fully welcome to enjoy the site (and post comments), whether you are a chronic masturbator yourself, the partner of a masturbator, or simply curious about male masturbatory habits. Female partners of male masturbators have a special role: your help and understanding can assist the addicted male to control his habit and maintain balance with other priorities in life. I invite ladies to contact me personally by email if you have questions.

Chronic masturbation is a major social and personal challenge facing males today. Once in the grip of masturbatory addiction, it is virtually impossible for the male to free himself from the habit. For some it can take over his life, leading to loss of esteem, career achievement, social ties, and family well being. Shame and embarrassment, fear of humiliation and ridicule, prevent us from openly discussing our issues with family, friends, or counselors. This site may help those struggling in silence.

However, if you reject your urges and sincerely wish to escape your masturbatory habits, then beware: you will find no help or comfort here. I offer only the cautionary example of a soul who long ago lost that battle and unconditionally surrendered to living with habitual and chronic masturbation addiction.

Where did the name “Onania” come from?

The name Onania comes from a seminal work Onania; or, The Heinous Sin of Self-Pollution on the dangers of masturbation published anonymously in London in 1723.

see also

Are you addicted to masturbation?

Are you addicted to masturbation? Or suspect you may be? Are you spending more and more time masturbating? Do you think about masturbating, even when you are not doing it? Have you tried stopping or cutting back, but just can’t seem to give it up? Does the thought that you may be losing control excite you to masturbate even more?

If you have discovered this website, then you may already be addicted to masturbation, perhaps incurably so. If that possibility disturbs you, then you may be “in denial” about your addiction. The first step in coming to terms with masturbation addiction is the forthright and honest admission of your condition. 

Are you addicted? These tests and articles may help you find out.

Audio programs to help you identify and come to terms with your masturbation addiction

Onania . Org/asm offers  podcasturbations (audio recordings) may help you determine whether you are addicted, and admit to yourself your compelling need for masturbatory gratification.

 

Onania Masturbator Forum: Caught and then some

In the Onania Masturbator Forum, a Masturbator Wrote:


A while back I used to live with a roommate. One particular morning I had the day off while he went to work. I waited until he left and then sat down at the living room computer, turned up the sound and spent an hour or so masturbating to all kinds of porn before finishing with a long loud orgasm. One of the best parts of having the house to yourself, right?

I went to the bathroom to clean myself up, and froze when I heard my friend’s bedroom door open and someone swiftly walking out the front door. Peeking through a window I saw my roommate’s girlfriend, who’d apparently spent the night and then slept in when he left for work.

My cheeks burned as I realized she’d been twenty feet away from me the whole time and heard every filthy second of the videos I was playing – women moaning as they fucked, and gurgling on giant dicks… the constant wet slap of pounded pussies… the endless male grunting of cumshot compilations… the dirty humiliation of jackoff instruction… toys buzzing… women pissing… and of course all the dialog: “You can’t stop playing with your penis, can you? I bet you’re playing with it right now…” “Uuuuhhh yeah, fuck me fuck me fuck me!” “I’m gonna cum – ah, ah, ah, ahhhh!” And through it all she’d also heard the slick sounds of me jacking off, my own groans, maybe even me talking back to the pornstars as I watched them…

I was shaking with shame, but you guessed it – I was also ragingly hard again, and I immediately sat back down and went through the history of my last session, reliving the best moments while imagining her hearing it through the thin bedroom door. Despite just having orgasmed, I blew another urgent load within minutes.

Naturally that morning immediately became one of my favorite pieces of fantasy material. I imagine her as she’s woken up by an endless pornographic soundtrack. She realizes what’s going on and dresses as quietly as she can. Then she sits and waits listening to it all in agonized embarrassment, knowing she has to hear me cum before she’ll have the chance to sneak out. I wonder whether she was disgusted or aroused – probably both – and of course it’s hot to imagine her reluctantly getting turned on by it all until she’s compelled to lie back, flip up her dress and masturbate along with me.

It’s not the only time I got caught, but it’s certainly the best time.


 

For more like this, join the Onania Masturbator Forum,  a supportive, affirming community of people living with chronic addiction to masturbation. The focus is on our lives as addicted masturbators, and the pleasures / conflicts / impacts related to our compelling habit.

Join the Onania Masturbator Forum

 

The Onania Masturbator Forum

is  a supportive, affirming community of people living with chronic addiction to masturbation. The focus is on our lives as addicted masturbators, and the pleasures / conflicts / impacts related to our compelling habit. If you (or a partner ) are addicted to masturbation, you are encouraged to join. Here are some samples of the discussions:

Click to View or Join Forum

In Onania Masturbator Forum  we freely share our masturbatory fantasies and techniques, including extreme excessive practices used to intensify autoerotic gratification. We explore our conflicts about the costs of masturbation addiction on career, family, friends, and life goals. We process residual feelings of shame, guilt, and humiliation that for some attach to chronic masturbation.

Unlike other pro- or anti-masturbation groups, the Forum is value-neutral and non-judgmental. We make no assumption that masturbation addiction is inherently good or bad, or that chronic masturbators should seek to change their behavior. Each member is free to form and express his own opinions without fear of criticism or judgment. We offer understanding, encouragement, and validation — both to those still struggling with their compulsions and to those finally reconciled to permanent and incurable masturbation addiction.

Onania Masturbator Forum welcomes both male and female masturbators (and partners of masturbators), from gay to straight in sexual orientation. Though a large percentage of the members are male, ladies are encouraged to join and are treated with respect.