Masturbation Tips: What’s Too Much? | Men’s Health

Can You Masturbate Too Much?See when spanking the monkey becomes a serious problemBY MARKHAM HEID, JULY 16, 2014IMAGE FROM THINKSTOCKinShare What’s your number? Whether you masturbate twice a week or twice a day, you probably have a set figure in your head when it comes to your favorite pastime. Match or exceed that mark, and you start wondering whether you’re doing it too much. Here’s the good news: There’s no magic number when it comes to a healthy masturbation habit, says Dan Drake, a certified sex addiction therapist and clinical counselor. “However often you masturbate, it’s not a problem until it starts affecting your life in negative ways,” Drake explains.So when does a harmless exercise turn into a harmful addiction? Here are the physical and psychological symptoms that may indicate you need to holster your hand and give your boner an extended breather.

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Where Sex Meets Addiction

 

Susan Cheever is a sex addict. She wants you to know that she has had sex — a lot of sex — with all sorts of men. She has committed adultery. She has been up to hanky-panky in hotel rooms. She has made eyes at lawyers and book salesmen and the guys from the moving company. … more

Book Review – ‘Desire – Where Sex Meets Addiction,’ by Susan Cheever – Review – NYTimes.com

Unwiring & Rewiring Your Brain: Sensitization and Hypofrontality – Your Brain On Porn

Porn addiction is a learned behavior, so your challenge is to unlearn porn use as an automatic response to stress, anxiety, boredom, loneliness and so forth. When the urge to look strikes, stall for time. Tell yourself that you won’t look for at least 15 minutes, and immediately distract yourself by turning your attention to a pre-selected alternative activity. Examples: a breathing exercise, a physical exercise routine, meditation, making your favorite healthy snack, putting on some music you like, recordi

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10 anti-masturbation devices

It’s happened to all of us at one time or another. You’re in your bedroom, Playboy in hand, rubbing and tugging with all your heart’s content when BOOM! Your parents walk into your room, fresh laundry in hand and you sir, are literally caught with your pants down. Take heed, good boy and follow the righteous path of abstinence from one’s self. If you can’t do it alone, our list of oobject-approved devices will help quell your inner demons in no time.

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4 Reasons Why Men Like Porn | Covenant Eyes

One of the tasks of a good friend or accountability partner to someone who is entrenched in pornography is to help them understand their own heart. Why do they run to porn again and again? Solomon reminds us that “The purpose in a man’s heart is like deep water”—we often can’t see our own motivations—”but a man of understanding will draw it out” (Proverbs 20:5). A wise friend helps to draw out of others the deeper motivations they are unable or unwilling to see in themselves.

As an accountability partner, it is important to understand the allure of pornography: What deeper motivations keep men coming back to it again and again? What are good accountability questions we can ask to get to the root of the problem?

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”Karezza: Sex, Please…But, Hold the Orgasm!” | Reuniting

Is “edging” a form of Karezza with yourself?

…If having an orgasm wasn’t going to define your sexual experience and you were just going to breathe in your lover’s scent, enjoy the feeling of their body rhythmically moving to the sound of your hearts beating, where would you go in that experience? By changing how we view our sexual experiences with one another, from something we must “achieve” to something we can enjoy, the entire experience opens to us like a flower blooming….

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Understanding Compulsive Masturbation – Oxbow Academy addiction treatment program

Of all the types of sexual acting out, compulsive masturbation is one of the most secret and isolative. The person engaging in this sexual activity is often the last to seek help, often not seeing or understanding their behavior as problematic. This is often related to familial, societal, or religious shame associated with the act of masturbation. Many clients report that their internalized messages around masturbation are that the act itself is “dirty”, “shameful”, or “sinful.”

While most sex addicts actively seek treatment, pushed by some obvious consequence of a legal, occupational, health or relational type, the solitary nature of the compulsive masturbator’s behavior leaves their actions less subject to the direct consequences of other forms of sexual acting out. The addict engaging in compulsive masturbation seeks therapeutic intervention for help as a last resort, seeking relief from anxiety, obsession, isolation and the inability to seek or maintain healthy intimate relationships. Some compulsive masturbators do experience consequences through the viewing of inappropriate materials i.e. child pornography or through masturbating in inappropriate places i.e. the workplace or an automobile. However, the most frequent consequence of compulsive masturbation is a life devoid of intimacy, removed from feeling and filled with hidden shame.

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