About Richard Lovel

Richard Lovel is a severely chronic addicted masturbator. He blogs about masturbation to satisfy his own compulsion and support others sharing his addiction. He is the creator and manager of Onania . Org/asm and the Masturbation Addiction Support Hotline.

Are you addicted to masturbation?

Are you addicted to masturbation? Or suspect you may be? Are you spending more and more time masturbating? Do you think about masturbating, even when you are not doing it? Have you tried stopping or cutting back, but just can’t seem to give it up? Does the thought that you may be losing control excite you to masturbate even more?

If you have discovered this website, then you may already be addicted to masturbation, perhaps incurably so. If that possibility disturbs you, then you may be “in denial” about your addiction. The first step in coming to terms with masturbation addiction is the forthright and honest admission of your condition. 

Are you addicted? These tests and articles may help you find out.

Audio programs to help you identify and come to terms with your masturbation addiction

Onania . Org/asm offers  podcasturbations (audio recordings) may help you determine whether you are addicted, and admit to yourself your compelling need for masturbatory gratification.

 

About Onania . Org/asm

Onania . Org/asm is about…

  • Sharing the joy and challenge of living with masturbation addiction
  • Masturbation articles, fiction, and audio programs
  • Personal accounts of chronic masturbators
  • Support for masturbators and their partners
  • Managing masturbation addiction in your life

Onania . Org/asm is not about…

  • Judging you for over indulging in masturbation
  • Getting you to stop or cut back
  • Providing professional advice, consultation, or therapy

Onania . Org/asm expresses my personal experiences living with masturbation addiction and a life-long  fascination with masturbatory behavior — especially in its more chronic and compulsive manifestations. Here I reveal my innermost needs and conflicts. But it is more than a personal mental ejaculation. It is a resource for people living with masturbation addiction, dealing with uncontrollable urges. Here you will find a wide range of articles, fiction, and audio programs dealing with the subject of chronic masturbation.

Onania . Org/asm is intended for adults over the age of 21. If you are a minor seeking information on masturbation, see Wikipedia

But please, before you proceed into the site, heed the  Warning for Satire-Impaired


More About Onania . Org/asm

About Me

I am a masturbator — a chronic masturbator. I am incurably addicted to the unnaturally strong sexual gratifications a male achieves only through practiced self-stimulation. I am married and heterosexual, but my fundamental sexual orientation has become autoerotic. Masturbation has become my only mode of sexual expression; animates my erotic fantasies with bizarre and extreme scenarios; consumes my time with reading and writing about it; and drives me to personally connect with fellow male onanists.

But along with the indescribably delicious rapture experienced during extended masturbation, I feel conflict and anxiety about my habit. I must admit to myself that the pleasure comes at a cost in time, accomplishments, and relationships. I often feel that I do it “too much”, neglecting responsibilities and ambitions; from time to time try to stop or cut back, but always fall back into unrestrained self-indulgence. The sense of personal enslavement and lack of self control feeds a shame response, which has become eroticized over time and is now inseparable from the act of masturbation and only stimulates me to greater excess. To borrow a phrase, “I am ashamed because I masturbate, and I masturbate because I am ashamed.”

About You

Your presence here, your discovery of this dark corner of the Web is not accidental. You share the experiences I  describe. Like me, you are a chronic masturbator. Perhaps even an addicted masturbator. You may know and acknowledge your masturbatory nature, or you may be just now discovering it. You are welcome here, and I promise you are not alone.

If this self-awareness is new to you, it may be difficult to accept. The world is not kind to chronic masturbators. We are objects of pity, or derision. We are not “real men”. We hide our nature to avoid ridicule and embarrassment. You know this; you feel ashamed and guilty for what you are becoming. But it’s OK, I understand. You are a masturbator. It is not something you can stop or control. You are welcome here, and I promise you are not alone.

That is why you have come here: to feel that you are not alone. You want, you need, you must know that others feel the call of our own flesh and willingly surrender to it. You want to know how another masturbator handles himself, what fantasies he has, what toys he uses, whether like you he is in rut for his own hand or feels the sweet sad emptiness after a spurting release. You are welcome here, and I promise you are not alone.

Perhaps you have a partner but find yourself uninterested or even incapable of partner sex — your male organs feel so much better in your own hands. You want to know if others no longer enter their partners, and wish only to copulate with themselves. You are welcome here, and I promise you are not alone.

So many secrets you want to know, and to reveal your secrets in turn. And you instinctively know that only another chronic masturbator can understand how you feel and accept you without judgement. You are welcome here, and I promise you are not alone.

About this Site

 

I operate this site both as a personal hobby and a voluntary service for the community of chronic masturbators. It is completely non-commercial: I don’t make money from it, and support it entirely from my own resources.  I don’t track cookies, or keep or resell any personal information on visitors. 

The site is male in focus, both because I am male and I believe that males make up the vast majority of addicted masturbators. Chronic masturbation is a behavior that cuts across all sexual preference lines, and adult men of all sexual orientations from straight to gay will find much in common here.

Women also are fully welcome to enjoy the site (and post comments), whether you are a chronic masturbator yourself, the partner of a masturbator, or simply curious about male masturbatory habits. Female partners of male masturbators have a special role: your help and understanding can assist the addicted male to control his habit and maintain balance with other priorities in life. I invite ladies to contact me personally by email if you have questions.

Chronic masturbation is a major social and personal challenge facing males today. Once in the grip of masturbatory addiction, it is virtually impossible for the male to free himself from the habit. For some it can take over his life, leading to loss of esteem, career achievement, social ties, and family well being. Shame and embarrassment, fear of humiliation and ridicule, prevent us from openly discussing our issues with family, friends, or counselors. This site may help those struggling in silence.

However, if you reject your urges and sincerely wish to escape your masturbatory habits, then beware: you will find no help or comfort here. I offer only the cautionary example of a soul who long ago lost that battle and unconditionally surrendered to living with habitual and chronic masturbation addiction.

Where did the name “Onania” come from?

The name Onania comes from a seminal work Onania; or, The Heinous Sin of Self-Pollution on the dangers of masturbation published anonymously in London in 1723.

see also

About Onania . Org/asm

Onania . Org/asm is about…

  • Sharing the joy and challenge of living with masturbation addiction
  • Masturbation articles, fiction, and audio programs
  • Personal accounts of chronic masturbators
  • Support for masturbators and their partners
  • Managing masturbation addiction in your life

Onania . Org/asm is not about…

  • Judging you for over indulging in masturbation
  • Getting you to stop or cut back
  • Providing professional advice, consultation, or therapy

Onania . Org/asm expresses my personal experiences living with masturbation addiction and a life-long  fascination with masturbatory behavior — especially in its more chronic and compulsive manifestations. Here I reveal my innermost needs and conflicts. But it is more than a personal mental ejaculation. It is a resource for people living with masturbation addiction, dealing with uncontrollable urges. Here you will find a wide range of articles, fiction, and audio programs dealing with the subject of chronic masturbation.

Onania . Org/asm is intended for adults over the age of 21. If you are a minor seeking information on masturbation, see Wikipedia

But please, before you proceed into the site, heed the  Warning for Satire-Impaired


More About Onania . Org/asm

About Me

I am a masturbator — a chronic masturbator. I am incurably addicted to the unnaturally strong sexual gratifications a male achieves only through practiced self-stimulation. I am married and heterosexual, but my fundamental sexual orientation has become autoerotic. Masturbation has become my only mode of sexual expression; animates my erotic fantasies with bizarre and extreme scenarios; consumes my time with reading and writing about it; and drives me to personally connect with fellow male onanists.

But along with the indescribably delicious rapture experienced during extended masturbation, I feel conflict and anxiety about my habit. I must admit to myself that the pleasure comes at a cost in time, accomplishments, and relationships. I often feel that I do it “too much”, neglecting responsibilities and ambitions; from time to time try to stop or cut back, but always fall back into unrestrained self-indulgence. The sense of personal enslavement and lack of self control feeds a shame response, which has become eroticized over time and is now inseparable from the act of masturbation and only stimulates me to greater excess. To borrow a phrase, “I am ashamed because I masturbate, and I masturbate because I am ashamed.”

About You

Your presence here, your discovery of this dark corner of the Web is not accidental. You share the experiences I  describe. Like me, you are a chronic masturbator. Perhaps even an addicted masturbator. You may know and acknowledge your masturbatory nature, or you may be just now discovering it. You are welcome here, and I promise you are not alone.

If this self-awareness is new to you, it may be difficult to accept. The world is not kind to chronic masturbators. We are objects of pity, or derision. We are not “real men”. We hide our nature to avoid ridicule and embarrassment. You know this; you feel ashamed and guilty for what you are becoming. But it’s OK, I understand. You are a masturbator. It is not something you can stop or control. You are welcome here, and I promise you are not alone.

That is why you have come here: to feel that you are not alone. You want, you need, you must know that others feel the call of our own flesh and willingly surrender to it. You want to know how another masturbator handles himself, what fantasies he has, what toys he uses, whether like you he is in rut for his own hand or feels the sweet sad emptiness after a spurting release. You are welcome here, and I promise you are not alone.

Perhaps you have a partner but find yourself uninterested or even incapable of partner sex — your male organs feel so much better in your own hands. You want to know if others no longer enter their partners, and wish only to copulate with themselves. You are welcome here, and I promise you are not alone.

So many secrets you want to know, and to reveal your secrets in turn. And you instinctively know that only another chronic masturbator can understand how you feel and accept you without judgement. You are welcome here, and I promise you are not alone.

About this Site

 

I operate this site both as a personal hobby and a voluntary service for the community of chronic masturbators. It is completely non-commercial: I don’t make money from it, and support it entirely from my own resources.  I don’t track cookies, or keep or resell any personal information on visitors. 

The site is male in focus, both because I am male and I believe that males make up the vast majority of addicted masturbators. Chronic masturbation is a behavior that cuts across all sexual preference lines, and adult men of all sexual orientations from straight to gay will find much in common here.

Women also are fully welcome to enjoy the site (and post comments), whether you are a chronic masturbator yourself, the partner of a masturbator, or simply curious about male masturbatory habits. Female partners of male masturbators have a special role: your help and understanding can assist the addicted male to control his habit and maintain balance with other priorities in life. I invite ladies to contact me personally by email if you have questions.

Chronic masturbation is a major social and personal challenge facing males today. Once in the grip of masturbatory addiction, it is virtually impossible for the male to free himself from the habit. For some it can take over his life, leading to loss of esteem, career achievement, social ties, and family well being. Shame and embarrassment, fear of humiliation and ridicule, prevent us from openly discussing our issues with family, friends, or counselors. This site may help those struggling in silence.

However, if you reject your urges and sincerely wish to escape your masturbatory habits, then beware: you will find no help or comfort here. I offer only the cautionary example of a soul who long ago lost that battle and unconditionally surrendered to living with habitual and chronic masturbation addiction.

Where did the name “Onania” come from?

The name Onania comes from a seminal work Onania; or, The Heinous Sin of Self-Pollution on the dangers of masturbation published anonymously in London in 1723.

see also

Are you addicted to masturbation?

Are you addicted to masturbation? Or suspect you may be? Are you spending more and more time masturbating? Do you think about masturbating, even when you are not doing it? Have you tried stopping or cutting back, but just can’t seem to give it up? Does the thought that you may be losing control excite you to masturbate even more?

If you have discovered this website, then you may already be addicted to masturbation, perhaps incurably so. If that possibility disturbs you, then you may be “in denial” about your addiction. The first step in coming to terms with masturbation addiction is the forthright and honest admission of your condition. 

Are you addicted? These tests and articles may help you find out.

Audio programs to help you identify and come to terms with your masturbation addiction

Onania . Org/asm offers  podcasturbations (audio recordings) may help you determine whether you are addicted, and admit to yourself your compelling need for masturbatory gratification.

 

Semenarche and Imprinting

“Semenarche” (also called Spermarche https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Spermarche ) is a powerful experience for most pubertal males. One study finds:

The first ejaculation, biologically significant in sexual and reproductive functioning, was found to be psychologically meaningful but socially invisible. …. All of the boys in the group had sex education in school, yet many felt unprepared for their first ejaculation, which occurred earlier than they expected and before formal education. … Common responses to semenarche included surprise, curiosity, pleasure, and confusion. Most subjects did not tell anyone that this event occurred and many boys initially confused ejaculation and urination. The association of the first ejaculation with sexuality makes it a charged event. Psychosocial and developmental difficulties in sexual education for young males are noted.

In my case, I entered puberty ignorant about sexual intercourse and masturbation. I was vaguely aware that a man made a baby by doing something with his penis to deposit sperm (whatever that was) in a woman. I didn’t know how often it happened; maybe once per baby? And I had no idea that manual sperm releases were possible. I had experienced a couple of “wet” dreams (really dry orgasms) but had not connected that with sex. What I did know was that my penis was erect often in the bath, and that felt really, really good. I spent more time playing in the tub, rubbing my little pubertal penis, playing “periscope” by instinctively thrusting my hips out of the bath water, grabbing it in my hands, etc. I had no idea what I was doing; I just did what felt natural.
One day I was sitting naked on the edge of the tub, soapy penis in hand, rocking and squirming, when the most amazing feeling overtook me. It felt like a sneeze coming on, but infinitely more compelling. As the feeling grew I was scared — what was happening? Was I having a heart attack? If so, I didn’t want it to end. Then it was over. I didn’t realize that I had ejaculated; if there was more than a drop, it was lost in the soap suds.

Continue reading

Podcasturbation-21-0325: Pussy-Free: Give up, Give in, Get off

Podcasturbation-21-0325: Pussy-Free: Give up, Give in, Get off

Are you a pre-pussy virgin? Are you a mature former pussy-fucker? Struggling against being pussy-free? It’s time to give up the struggle, give up on pussy, give in to your permanent pussy-free life. And enjoy the reward of getting off to living pussy-free. This podcasturbation will help.

https://soundgasm.net/u/onania_org/Podcasturbation-21-0325-Pussy-Free-Give-up-Give-in-Get-off 

Listen to All on Soundgasm https://soundgasm.net/u/onania_org

Podcasturbation-21-0108: You are My Special Good Boy

Podcasturbation-21-0108: You are My Special Good Boy

Are you a good boy? A special good boy? Many chronic masturbators need the comfort and reassurance that they are good boys, especially in that vulnerable moment of ejaculatory climax. You were Mommie’s special good boy. And now you are MY special good boy. 

https://soundgasm.net/u/onania_org/Podcasturbation-21-0108-You-are-My-Special-Good-Boy

Podcasturbation-20-1229: You are Addicted to Masturbation

Podcasturbation-20-1229: “You are Addicted to Masturbation”. You can deny it, but you can’t escape. A session to help you accept and surrender. Reinforcement, chanting, and ejaculation encouragement and aftercare. You can’t help it.

https://soundgasm.net/u/onania_org/Podcasturbation-20-1229-You-are-Addicted-to-Masturbation

 

Podcasturbation #20-1119: Thank You for Not Fucking

Podcasturbation #20-1119: Thank You for Not Fucking

Are you a pussy-free male masturbator? A penis-free female masturbator? Has chronic masturbation replaced fucking in your life? I’m glad. It is good, and not just for you. It is good for your partner or potential partners, and good for society. If you are fuck-free, I hope you stay that way. If you are heading that way, here are some points of encouragement.