I apologize for the length of this but not really as I was so turned on writing it all! I think it’s important for all of us to know that we are not alone when it comes to our masturbation habits. Also, it’s important for true, chronic masturbators to come to terms with what and who they are and accept and embrace it. Sure, we may be married or have been married and maybe even have children, but deep down we are MASTURBATORS! We prefer masturbation to real sex. … It’s also very important to know that there are indeed women (if that’s your thing) out there who will support your masturbation. I’m living proof of that! …
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by Palmlover » Mon May 01, 2023 12:40 pm
Until I got together with my 1st wife I was basically a solosexual masturbator. I was 21 and she was 39 when we hooked up and she was in her sexual prime and I was simply a horny young man ready to go at anytime. She was experienced and I really wasn’t so she taught me a lot about sex and she was just loving having a young, hard cock available whenever she wanted it. She liked to watch porn and I was absolutely fascinated with porn and quite often we would watch it together and fuck our brains out! Of course I still jerked off occasionally and she knew it but she never said anything negative about it. Gradually, I started watching porn and masturbating more and more but, I was younger and, as long as she got fucked properly whenever she wanted, she didn’t mind. I think part of that was because of our age difference and she was willing to tolerate it to “hang on to her man”, so to speak. Anyway, even with her pussy and ass and mouth available to me whenever I wanted, I came to realize that I preferred watching porn and masturbating, especially after I “discovered” edging & gooning (this was the mid 80s and I didn’t know there was a name for it), over actual sex. Like I said though, as long as she got properly fucked whenever she wanted, she was okay with it and it was good too. I started spending more and more time watching porn and edging and somewhere in my early 30s (this would be in the early 90s) I noticed I was having difficulties staying hard enough to properly fuck but whenever I was masturbating to porn I could stay hard for hours. The beginning of PIED no doubt!
Anyway, we divorced after 17 years and I retired from the military and married my 2nd wife. We were the same age and she was an old high school flame and sex with her was GREAT and I had no problems “performing”. She didn’t like porn and she was raising her daughter so I curtailed my “activities” (hey, I’m a pervert but I’m not THAT much of a pervert!) except for the rare times I had the house to myself. In other words, I quit edging & gooning and would just have a quick jerk-off like I did as a teenager. In the mid 00s I developed some medical issues and was forced to medically retire from my civilian job. Because of my issues and all the medications I was on I found it almost impossible to get an erection. My wife worked and, by now, her daughter had graduated and gotten married, so I was home alone most of the day. Now I had the time and the privacy to resume my masturbatory habits and, with internet porn going strong, all the “material” I needed at my fingertips but it didn’t matter, I couldn’t get hard even for porn! Of course the urge was still there and I was quite the pathetic figure sitting in front of my PC, furiously pounding my limp cock, whimpering and almost crying, trying so hard to have an orgasm! Occasionally, and I do mean occasionally, I would manage to pump hard enough to make myself cum but it was really hard work, no pun intended. Finally, I pretty much gave up. So no sex and only the occasional orgasm from masturbation for about 5 years. My wife left me, partially because of this, but mainly because I just wasn’t in a good place personally and I didn’t blame her one bit. I would’ve left myself if I could!
Not too long after we divorced I found out about a medical procedure that could hopefully correct most of my issues. I had the procedure done and it worked very well and I was gradually able to get off of all the meds I was on. About 3 months afterwards, after living in near constant pain and taking so many drugs for some 10+ years, I noticed some “stirrings” down in my groin! Ever so gradually I started getting hard-ons at night and could even get semi-hard during the day!
So here I was, a single, retired, life-long masturbator with a house to myself and all the time and privacy I could ask for. I invested in a few cock rings and they kept me hard enough to enjoy some masturbation time without it being so much work. Again, gradually (I know I’ve used that word a lot but it’s honestly the best way to describe it), I could stay harder (hard enough) for longer and longer periods of time. Not like when I was younger but it was definitely improving! Of course I had simply gotten older so it’s just natural not to be rock hard all day! Anyway, I got into a daily routine of watching porn and masturbating for 3-4 hours, not all at once, but spaced out during the day, and I would have an orgasm at the end. Gradually (there’s that word again!) each “session” would last a little longer but I would still get to the point where my cock just wasn’t hard enough to continue so I would take breaks to recuperate. Finally I decided to try some ED drugs (I had used some in the past but it was always for “real” sex) so I got online with Roman and started getting 8 doses a month. It felt a little humiliating and depraved to buy ED drugs solely for the purpose of masturbating but it also turned me on too! Anyway, I would take one a couple of days every week and, coupled with a cock ring, I could stay pretty hard all day and I started masturbating for 2-3 hours at a time and it was wonderful! I still masturbated like before on the days I didn’t take it but I really looked forward to those days when I would and get to spend a few hours in masturbatory bliss!
I went on like this for a couple of years then, one day, in the middle of a long gooning session, I had an epiphany! It became crystal clear to me that what I truly was was a masturbator! It became so obvious to me that what I truly loved more than anything else was watching porn and masturbating for hours every single day! Honestly, it hit me like a ton of bricks and something inside of me snapped, like a wall crashing down, and I was suddenly at total peace with myself! I fully embraced and accepted the fact that I was a masturbator, that all I wanted to do, all I had EVER wanted to do, was watch porn and masturbate as much as I possibly could! It truly was a life-changing experience and I’m not being hyperbolic about that!
Right then and there I dropped all pretense that I was anything other than a chronic, addicted masturbator! From that point on I knew my life was going to revolve around my porn and masturbation habits, that EVERYTHING ELSE would be secondary to it! I started buying all kinds of cock rings and other toys, spent $1,000 on a Venus for Men, spent thousands of $$$ remodeling my sun room and turning it into my goon cave. I subscribed to 3 hard core porn channels on DISH to supplement my porn DVD’s and internet porn, and to have porn easily available throughout my house. I hired a housecleaning service and a lawn care service so those things would not interfere with my masturbation. Finally, I got on line with both Hims and Friday Plans to get more generic Viagra. Now I get 20 doses per month from them and from Roman. I NEED 60 doses per month as I take 2 (sometimes 3) a day to keep my cock hard so I can stroke, stroke, stroke all day long! In every context, in every way possible, I committed myself to the solo/pornosexual lifestyle.
For the last 5 + years my life has been wonderful! I’m relatively pain free and I’m drug free. I go gambling in Vegas or Reno/Tahoe whenever I want, play golf whenever I want, and I sit home and watch porn and masturbate as long as I want (a lot!) whenever I want! It has really been a near-ideal existence. I had a couple of girlfriends I ran around with but there was never any actual sex because, by now, my PIED was deeply entrenched in my psyche. I could get hard but I couldn’t stay hard for anything but porn and my hand! I just told them I had ED but we would kiss and hug and grope and I would eat their pussies so they were happy! So….
Last year my ex (2nd wife) retired and she approached me about getting back together. I love her, I always did, and now that I was off all those meds, I was in a good place personally, back to being my jovial self. However, by now I had become so steeped in my porn and masturbation habits that I knew I couldn’t give it up and I wasn’t going to. I flat out told her, very explicitly, exactly how I lived my life and that I wasn’t willing to change. Somewhat surprisingly she said she thought she could live with it! She moved back in for a couple of months and I didn’t change a single thing about my “habits”. I still got up every morning and turned porn on and sat in my sun room, naked, and masturbated off and on all day. We did have sex (even penetrative sex!) but mostly we just mutually masturbated and I never stopped doing what I do or cutting back at all. After those couple of months we mutually decided that we were both happy with our “arrangement” so we remarried.
While we were divorced, my wife told me she didn’t have sex at all and I believe her. She said she didn’t even masturbate! I found that hard to believe because when we were married previously she was not shy at all about using dildos and vibrators and she is multi-orgasmic so it was always a great show! When she moved back in I bought her 2 or 3 vibrators and a Sybian. She started using the vibrators and getting off but the Sybian really blew her away! Since then I’ve bought her a bunch of toys, I think she’s got about 25 various types, and she uses them regularly most every day. She has gotten almost as much into masturbation as I am! She masturbates when the mood strikes, which seems to be fairly often, and it turns me on knowing that while I’m in the sun room watching porn and pumping my cock, that she’s in the bedroom masturbating too! Pretty much every day, at 4pm, I go back to the bedroom and watch her fuck herself with one (or more) of her toys while I masturbate. Normally when I walk in she’s already at it and has had a couple of orgasms already! She cums as many times as she wants and then I either shoot my load on her or she licks my balls and ass while I jack off and cum. Honestly, the only change I’ve made is I only cum when we’re together, well, mostly anyway. She’ll walk into the sun room to ask me a question or tell me something and I never miss a stroke and she doesn’t blink an eye at me or the porn on the big screen. It works out pretty damn well!
I apologize for the length of this but not really as I was so turned on writing it all! I think it’s important for all of us to know that we are not alone when it comes to our masturbation habits. Also, it’s important for true, chronic masturbators to come to terms with what and who they are and accept and embrace it. Sure, we may be married or have been married and maybe even have children, but deep down we are MASTURBATORS! We prefer masturbation to real sex. We may enjoy real sex but, at our core, we know we would rather masturbate and there is ABSOLUTELY NOTHING wrong with that or to be ashamed of! I know, and all you other chronic masturbators know, that nothing compares to the time we indulge in our self-love. For us it’s simply the best!
It’s also very important to know that there are indeed women (if that’s your thing) out there who will support your masturbation. I’m living proof of that! My wife doesn’t necessarily encourage my habits but it seems that it truly doesn’t bother her and she doesn’t mind at all. I’m happy and she’s happy, what more could we ask for?