I subscribe to 3 hardcore porn channels, Brazzers, TEN & Xtsy, on DISH and, of course, I also stream porn on my Xboxes, PCs & tablet so, from the time I wake up until I go to sleep, porn is playing somewhere, sometimes everywhere, in my house.
I have a sunroom and I recently spent $6,000 remodeling it, new windows, blinds and carpet, and I bought a new, comfy stroke chair and a nice wooden storage cabinet for all my paraphernalia, cock rings, Fleshlights, lubes, etc., and I have turned it into my dedicated goon cave. For all intent and purposes I basically live in my sunroom. I am naked and wear a cock ring most of the time and I spend hours every day in my sunroom watching porn, on multiple screens, and masturbating. I will not lie and say I spend all day doing it, but I do spend the majority of my time stroking my cock, 6 to 8 hours, sometimes 10 to 12 hours.
I wrote all the above so that anyone who reads it will, hopefully, understand just how big a role porn and masturbation play in my life. Like I said, it is my lifestyle and I love it!
A month ago, my ex-wife contacted me and said she wanted us to try and get back together. I will not go into the details of why we divorced but there was no cheating or abuse involved. I never stopped loving her, I did not want to get divorced, and I have always wanted us to be together again. Anyway, I flew up and spent a week with her earlier this month and things went very well, so well that we are discussing getting re-married. We did have sex, a lot actually, and it was better than ever!
We are older and wiser and neither of us wants to make a mistake, so we have been talking a lot about everything, trying to make sure that we both really want this and that it is the best thing for both of us. Obviously, in the spirit of being open and honest, I felt I had to tell her about how my porn and masturbation habits had evolved since our divorce. I was very frank about it all and told her, pretty much verbatim, exactly what I wrote above. I told her that I truly did love it and that I had gotten VERY accustomed to it and, at this stage in my life, I simply wasn’t willing to give it up completely. I also told her that no matter how great sex with her is, that I would still want some alone time to indulge in my habits, that I needed it. I suggested we come to some sort of understanding like, for instance, that she allows me X amount of time every 2-3 days to watch porn and masturbate. I also told her she should know that whenever she left the house for a couple of hours to go shopping or whatever, that is exactly what I will be doing. When we were married that is what I did and I am pretty sure she knew it, but nothing was ever said. This time around, if we do get re-married, I want her to KNOW that is what I am doing! I was very adamant that I was not going to sneak around or try to hide what I do!
Somewhat surprisingly, she took it all very well and said she was sure we could work something out! She has told me numerous times that she does not want to change the way I want to live my life, that she just wants to be with me. She is flying down next week to stay with me for a week and she will get to experience it all firsthand. I fully intend to do what I always do while she is here, walking around naked wearing a cock ring with porn playing somewhere in the house and stroking my cock when I feel the desire to. Of course if she wants to have sex I will happily oblige her!
Please understand that I do truly love her and, because of that, some things about me will naturally and rightly change just from being around her again. But I’ve gotten so steeped in my porn and masturbation habits over the last few years that I don’t think I could be truly happy without it.Who knows, I could be wrong, but I’m not going to pretend I’m happy without it if I’m not, that wouldn’t be fair to me or to her.
When I was visiting her earlier this month and we were talking frankly about everything she told me that in her previous 2 marriages that her husbands would watch porn while they fucked her but that all their attention was on the porn and none on her. She said she just felt like a piece of meat, no better than a sex doll, and that they were just using her as a tool to get off to the porn. When we were married I had suspected that she had had bad experiences with porn but she never told me about it. We used to make A LOT of home-made porn together and she truly loved doing it so it never made sense to me that she loved doing that but didn’t like “regular” porn at all. Now I know why.
One thing makes me think this could all work out though, sexually speaking. When we were married she would occasionally put on fantastic dildo shows for me, getting out all her dildos/vibrators, 5 or 6 of them, and just fuck herself silly for an hour or more with each one, having orgasm after orgasm, while I videoed her and masturbated. I really loved that! Well, when I told her recently about my Venus, she was curious about it and pulled up the website on her laptop. She found it interesting and said she would like to see a demonstration! I told her that wouldn’t be a problem! I then told her about the Sybian for Women and she went to that website as well. While she was reading all about it I pulled up a couple of videos of women just losing their minds while riding one and showed them to her. She got so turned on by it that she stripped off her shorts and panties and started masturbating furiously right there on the couch! Of course I had to help out so I went over and started finger fucking her hard and she had 3 huge orgasms! Then she said “I want one of those”! I told her I would get her one and I have ordered it, I just hope it gets here in time for her visit!
Anyway, the great thing about it to me was she had just masturbated to 3 awesome orgasms while watching porn! After I flew back home I ordered her a Hitachi Magic Wand and 3 different sizes and styles of dildos/vibrators. I took pictures of them and sent them to her and she said she is anxious to get acquainted with them in person and that I may watch and video her to my heart’s content!
All that makes me feel good about our chances to have a really awesome, uninhibited, sex life with my porn and masturbation habits included as part of it. We will see.
Sorry this is so long but I needed to get this off my chest and only you guys on here, my fellow chronic masturbators, can understand and appreciate it. Thank you!
I felt compelled to check in briefly with my situation. At the present time, I am working from home, while my wife is working from an office. As a result, my masturbation is off the chart, masturbating daily, and frequently for long periods of time and multiple times throughout the day. I do like to ejaculate almost every time I masturbate for what that’s worth. Next year, we are moving out of state to an area where we will eventually retire, and as a result, my wife will also then begin working remotely with her same employer. As you can imagine, I am somewhat not looking forward to giving up the 9 hours each day that I can indulge in my favorite activity and being alone. Don’t get me wrong, she knows I masturbate frequently, just probably not as much as I actually do. But she finds anything sexually-related just disgusting outside of our couple of times per month I’m allowed intercourse. If she had an open and more-relaxed attitude toward sex, it wouldn’t be a big deal. But if she walked in on me and some of the things I like to do to myself when I masturbate, it wouldn’t be a pretty site. Even if I had the open conversation with her that you have had with your ex-ex, Palmlover, it would still be shocking and humiliating if she walked in on me. She’s already intercepted some emailed photos I sent to some friends I met when I traveled for work. I love to wear her underwear and nighties, unbeknownst to her (at least previously). It was almost the end of our marriage. So needless to say, I am nude as much as I can be now and I masturbate freely every day knowing that I’ll be back to sneaking one in on occasion when she leaves the house, once we get moved. And I’m not looking forward to losing that freedom. Oh well, sharing this as sometimes hearing someone else’s woes can make us feel better about our own situation, right?
Again, congratulations to you and your wife for reuniting, Palmlover!
separately, i think there is increasing light shed on the “live apart be together (even married” model.i’m hearing about it more often. It may represent a set of boundaries that better enables a person to, for instance, have a serious masturbation practice in the context of a committed relationship. i know a lot of women who would just like a lot of control over their space, and similarly, i think a masturbator would benefit from being able to keep their space set up for masturbation. so i think it’s possible living apart can be a win-win.
i wish you both the best of luck as you explore your situations with your partners.
I live in a rather large 3 bedroom house and I do have a home office which I used to watch porn on my PC and masturbate in but, since my divorce, I saw no reason to limit myself to just one room. When my wife left me I did start smoking again (a bad thing, I know) but I would only smoke in my sun room and still only do. As my time spent masturbating started to increase, I noticed my smoking was cutting into to it as I would take breaks to go in my sun room and smoke. Finally I decided to just start masturbating in my sun room so I could smoke while I watched porn and stroked. I can watch porn on the big screen in my sun room plus I can just turn my head and watch the porn playing on the big screen in my den as well. Eventually I decided to turn it into my dedicated goon cave and that’s when I did the remodeling I mentioned. The only problem is anything going on in the sun room is easily visible from the den and my ex may not appreciate seeing me naked and gooning to porn while she’s trying to watch TV in the den! Then again, she might not mind! We’ll see.
In the spirit of compromise I am willing to confine my activities to my home office once again if that will suit her. But if I do, I will set it up as a true goon cave, adding TV’s to augment the porn on my PC and have all my paraphernalia, cocks rings, lubes, toys and my Venus, in there on full display. Like I said in my original post, I AM NOT going to sneak around or try to hide what I’m doing! She will know full well exactly what is happening, if from nothing else, all the fuck noises of the porn playing and from my grunting and moaning emanating from the room! I don’t expect her to, nor do I ask for her to, be enthusiastic about it or encourage it (though that would be AWESOME!), but I do expect her to at least tolerate it.
Since, if we do re-marry, we will be having sex, I think that it’s possible my need to watch porn and masturbate for hours will diminish somewhat and, if that does in fact happen, that will be fine with me. I have alluded to her that the more sex we have the less my need to masturbate will be (I think!). When she is here next week I will make it VERY clear to her that, basically, the more we fuck or mutually masturbate together or have sex of ANY kind, the less I will feel the need to masturbate and so, in a way, my masturbation frequency will be up to her. If we don’t have sex A LOT then I will be watching porn and masturbating, it’s just that simple!
She flew in last Sunday night (Aug 28) and we got back to my house about 11pm. She was very tired from a full day of traveling and she went to bed in the guest bedroom about midnight. Since our divorce I have only 2 beds, the one in the guest bedroom and the hospital bed I sleep in, due to my chronic lower back condition, in the master bedroom. Anyway, I was too excited to go to sleep and I stayed up till around 2am then went and slept in my bed because I didn’t want to bother her getting some sleep. In fact, we didn’t sleep together at all while she was here but that’s the only thing we didn’t do together!
Quite literally she spent most of the time while she was here in bed just resting. We never sat in the den and watched TV, she pretty much stayed in the bedroom and I, like normal, stayed in the sun room. At 6pm every evening we would go down to the American Legion, have a few drinks and stay for 2-3 hours then come back home and sit at the bar in the sun room and talk till midnight or so then go to bed. We did go bed shopping and “test drove” 5 or 6 different ones and ended up buying a nice adjustable Queen size bed which will be delivered Friday. But on to the good stuff!
The first morning she was here I did exactly what I always do. I sleep naked so, obviously, when I get out of bed I’m already naked! As I normally do, I went to the sun room, sat in my “stroke chair”, put on a cock ring, got porn playing on the big screen TV in the den, took a Viagra and started watching Sports Center on the sun room TV while I browsed through JackinChat and this site on my tablet and casually played with my cock. About an hour or so later she walked through the den and into the sun room to tell me good morning and that she was going to lay in bed for a while. Oh yes, she was naked and she didn’t blink an eye at the porn on the screen or on my tablet or my cock ring and semi-hard cock! Very cool! She went back to bed and I just continued doing what I was doing, just like normal. After an hour or so I got up and went to the bedroom, my hard cock pointing the way, and stuck my head in to see if she was asleep or what. She was just watching TV so I stepped in and she said “Oh, is that for me“? I told her it was if she wanted it, which she did, and the rest is history!
Basically, that’s the way it went all week. I would wake up and just do what I normally do, watch regular TV or watch porn and stroke or play a video game, and she laid in bed. Porn was playing on the den TV all the time. Every couple of hours I would go to the bedroom and we would play. Sometimes I would watch her masturbate while I masturbated or I would eat her pussy or she would suck my cock and give me a hand-job or she would lick my balls and eat my ass while I masturbated or we would fuck or we would do all of the above! She would have 3 or 4 orgasms and then we would take a break. Three times she just laid next to me and talked dirty while I masturbated, telling me I was such a nasty boy for playing with my dick all the time and watching porn and each time that happened I came in her mouth and then she snowballed me, kissing me deeply and feeding me my cum! But whenever I went to the bedroom I switched the TV to porn, it was sort of like background music, and she loved it! More than once I walked by the bedroom and asked her what she was doing and she said “Playing with myself”! As I said in my initial post, I had bought her some vibrators and dildos and they were on the nightstand and she used them regularly. We also both were naked all day until we got ready to go to the Legion. It was all really great!
The first day she was here she unpacked her Sybian and was impressed by it all. She used it 4 times while she was here and had numerous mind blowing orgasms (I videoed it all!). The Sybian has a 45 day trial period and, after the first time she used it, I asked if we should send it back and she emphatically said ”NO”! She said she loved it and was going to use it a lot!
One day I asked her to put on a dildo show for me so she brought all her toys into the sun room, sat on a bar stool, and just fucked herself silly with each one while I videoed her and masturbated. One of the dildos I bought her is 10″ and very realistic. She didn’t think she could take it in her pussy (we’re going to work on it though) but, while she was fucking herself with another one, she grabbed it and started sucking on it and fucking her tits with it. It was very hot! I had brought her Sybian into the sun room earlier and she got so excited from fucking herself with the dildos that she jumped on it and rode it for about 20 minutes and simply went absolutely crazy! She came so hard, so many times that she finally just collapsed! It was truly an awesome sight and I got it all recorded! I told her I wanted her to get hooked on using it, addicted to it, and she said that wouldn’t be a problem! It also important to know that my Venus for Men was right there by my stroke chair on full display the whole time. I didn’t give her a live demonstration but I assured her I would when she moved back in.
So, as I said, everything went better than I ever dreamed it would, especially the sex part! When we talked at night a lot of it was about sex and the things we were doing, did we like it, are we okay with it all, etc. and we both agreed we were. I told her she was a nice girl but she wanted to be a dirty girl sometimes, she just needed permission to be a dirty girl and she had my permission. She told me that was exactly right and absolutely the way she felt! I think I’m going to have a real slut on my hands and I love it!!! Honestly, what more could I ask for? Every day she was here I did exactly what I’ve been doing for the last 6 years, walking around naked wearing a cock ring, watching porn and masturbating whenever I wanted, going to the Legion in the evening, but with the addition of having my own personal porn star and slut I could get off to or off on or off in!
To take the edge off of that a bit, we do truly love each other, I adore her, and we want to be together for the rest of our lives. We are definitely meant to be together. We meet each others every need and we both turn each other on! No, it’s not all about sex, but sex will play a big role and we have agreed that we will play and explore and experiment and we have given ourselves permission to freely enjoy it all.
Well, that’s my story and I’m sticking to it! Hopefully she will be back here permanently before the end of the month. I’ll keep updating everyone as things happen and yes, that means the sex too!
When my ex approached me about getting back together I was thrilled because I do truly love her but I had become so steeped in my masturbation habit, totally consumed by it, that I knew I couldn’t truly be happy if I gave it up. It wouldn’t have been fair to me or to her. I was very frank, open and honest with her about it all, telling her in explicit detail exactly how I had been living my life, not pulling any punches or glossing over anything. I told her that when I was at home I was always naked, porn was playing everywhere and I was masturbating the large majority of the time and that I truly loved it. I told her I was willing to compromise, make a deal with her about it, but that I wasn’t going to stop doing it or try to hide it in any way.
Amazingly enough, so far things have worked out very well, beyond my wildest expectations even. I still get up every morning and get porn playing in the den and the sun room and I sit in my stroke chair, naked of course, and scroll through this site and JackinChat while I stroke my cock. Then I focus on the porn on the screens, lube up my hard cock and get into some serious stroking! My Venus for Men is still sitting right next to my chair and I alternate between using it and my trusty right hand throughout the day, just like before. My ex sleeps late so I have a solid 3-4 hour session every morning. When she wakes up she’ll come into the sun room to tell me good morning and she doesn’t blink an eye at the porn on the screens or me stroking my cock. She spends most of the day lounging in bed watching TV but she has all her toys on the nightstand and she uses them when the mood strikes. Throughout the day I wander back to the bedroom and we play some and she’ll have 3-4 orgasms then I head back to the sun room and resume my “activities”. The only thing that has really changed is I promised her I would only have an orgasm with her and I wouldn’t cum while I was watching porn.
I’m still focused on my porn & masturbation habits but I’m also committed to her having as much pleasure as possible, thusly all the toys I bought her and the Sybian which she just loves! She is having 10-12 orgasms every day and it seems that, as long as she gets that kind of attention, she doesn’t mind me doing what I do. That works out just fine for me! She did admit that she didn’t believe me when I told her that I literally watched porn and masturbated all day but now she knows that I did and I do!
Honestly, it wasn’t easy telling her about my habits. I knew it could be a total deal breaker vis-a-vis us getting re-married but we’re both older and life is too short and at this stage in life it makes no sense to not do the things you enjoy doing. So far she is on-board 100% and I’m so glad I had the guts to be truthful with her about it all.
Sex wise, everything is going great, better than I had ever hoped. I still do my normal daily routine, get up early and watch porn and masturbate off and on all day and she doesn’t mind a bit! The only real change is I only orgasm when I’m with her. She pretty much stays in bed most of the day and masturbates when the mood strikes her which is pretty often! That suits me just fine as one of my goals was to provide an environment conducive to just that and to get her to enjoy masturbation as much as I do. I believe I have succeeded 100% in that! We’ve pretty much settled into a routine of masturbating together a couple of times per day which I really enjoy and apparently she does too. If either of us wants to actually fuck then we will but it’s pretty obvious that we both prefer to simply masturbate. I think it’s a complete win-win for us both!
I really do appreciate everyone’s support during this time. All of your comments and inputs have truly helped and I thank you all. To me it’s just so wonderful to know that it is possible to find someone who supports your masturbation habits, even encourages it, and will even join in! Don’t give up on it folks, it can happen!
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