a masturbator said:
Hi, All,
I love this group because I love the situation of a female being in
charge of the male’s masturbation. However, there’s more than one
way for this to be the case and I can’t help noticing that most of
those writing are viewing this situation in the same way. It seems
that the situation most members are interested in is one in which the
female remains clothed and proceeds to enjoy humiliating the male,
dominating him and ridiculing him.
Whilst I don’t in any way deride this scenario, there are others in
which the female is in control, one in particular that I have enjoyed
with several females over the years and I’d like to outline it to
members in case there are others that would enjoy a similar situation
but feel the only situation available is the ‘Dominant Female–
Humiliated Male’ one.
The situation I encountered many years ago (when in my mid-thirties)
was with a younger female (she was 19 at the time) I’ll call her
Linda. She’d had a sheltered upbringing and was very well brought
up. The only child of a woman whose husband (Linda’s father) either
died or left home when Linda was eight years old. As a result, she
had virtually no experience of males but knew, from contact with
other female friends, that guys like to masturbate. Of course, she
knew that SHE liked to masturbate, too, but her upbringing left her
with the belief that masturbation was something ‘nice’ people didn’t
do, didn’t even think about. She became fascinated about
this ‘sinful’ activity and ultimately obsessed with the idea of
watching a male do it.
She spent many hours making a plan of how she could achieve her ends,
working out all the problems and how to avoid them. One day she put
it all into operation. She was in my local bar on a Saturday night
and picked me out, I have no idea why, and gave me the ‘Hi!’ sign. I
left my friends (who were argueing over someone I didn’t know) and
made her acquaintance, thinking I must know her from somewhere but
had failed to recognise her in these surroundings. That, however,
wasn’t the case, she had simply ‘picked me up’, not something that
happened to me too often. We talked until the bar closed, I later
discovered I had been ‘interveiwed’, then I invited her back to my
place for coffee. To my surprise she accepted. Once in private the
situation changed.
Almost the first thing she said, once we were in private, was “I
don’t want to have intercourse with you.” I had been desperately
thinking of a suitable ‘line’ to open negotiations but she beat me to
it. The subsequent discussion was almost unbelievable. She went on
to tell me, quite frankly and openly, that she wanted to watch a man
masturbate and wanted to learn how to do it. That wasn’t all she
wanted to do. As time went on it became obvious that she wanted to
get totally involved in masturbation, watching each other, doing it
for each other, acting out each other’s masturbation fantasies and
more. She laid down a set of rules, amongst which were these:
I must never start things, it must always be up to her.
I must never suggest anything unless she asked for suggestions.
I must never complain.
I must never attempt to have intercourse with her.
I must not ‘recognise’ her if, by chance, we happened to meet
accidentally elsewhere.
And so on. At the end she declared that she knew most guys wouldn’t
want to know and she supposed she’d have to put up with the usual
five or six minutes of grunting (which is how she described
intercourse with her boyfriend) and keep looking till she found a guy
willing to stick to her rules.
Naturally, I volunteered and for the next two years enjoyed a
fantastic secret association. The whole point about this is that
here was a female that wanted to be able to watch a man get himself
turned on and masturbate to orgasm but, because of her upbringing
etc. she didn’t want anyone that knew her to be aware that she had
that desire and was able to fulfill it.
Since that fantastic initiation I have been fortunate enough to
encounter several other ladies of varying ages, the oldest being 48
(or so she said) who had either the same or a very similar
fascination. In all cases the association was secret, at least one
was married.
Now, I don’t know how common this secret desire is amongst otherwise
perfectly respectable ladies, but I do know that once the lady is
convinced that a) I enjoy doing it for them and b) no-one else is
ever told about it, they really let themselves go and enjoy the
association. I have had females ask whether males ever masturbate in
a public place, whether they cum in their pants, whether they ‘use’
something like a pillow or a cushion to rub against and many other
things and demonstrated the act to them, usually whilst they,
watching with eager and excited concentration, masturbated
themselves, cumming almost immediately after they see me beginning to
ejaculate. I have had ladies masturbate me whilst we stood, fully
clothed, by rubbing my erection from outside my pants until I
orgasmed and ejaculated inside my clothes, always in private of
course, although fantasising we were somewhere else where there were
people about.
Many females get an enormous thrill out of openly masturbating
themselves in front of a guy and watching his reaction, sometimes I’m
forbidden to touch her or myself, just watch (and suffer!). Some
enjoy doing things they would otherwise do only in private, such as
straddling the arm of a chair and slowly moving against it whilst
talking about what they were doing and why, and using the filthiest
language that they’d never dream of using with anybody else. In
fact, I was often surprised to discover some had a vocabulary you
would only expect from an uninhibitted sailor!
Having the female in control of whether we meet, when we meet,
whether or not we masturbate, who is to cum, how they are to cum,
ensures that whenever we meet I know she is feeling in the mood. Of
course, it takes practically no time at all for a guy to get in the
mood when he’s with a female that he KNOWS is in the mood. The
opposite isn’t always true, though, as most guys can attest. How
many times has a horny guy been told “Can’t it wait till the
weekend?” or “I don’t feel like it.”?
So the female is in control of every meeting, but isn’t dominating
the male. All I have to do is share her secret fantasies and act
them out for her, never doing anything she didn’t specifically ask me
to do. One described the arrangement as like having a man in a
cupboard and when I asked what she meant, she explained that it was
as if she had a man in a cupboard, nobody knew he was there, he never
came out and embarrassed her but whenever she wanted to do something
with a man she could fetch him out and do, watch, or have done to
her, exactly what she wanted, never have to ‘pay’ for it by doing
something he wanted in return, and then put him back in the cupboard,
where he remained until the next time she wanted a little secret fun.
She kept her address secret, I did not have her phone number and in
fact never knew her as anything but Linda. She explained that,
should she ever tire of doing this, all she had to do was stop seeing
me and she wouldn’t have to endure phone calls, letters, being met
out of work etc. I would simply never see her again. Since none of
her friends ever saw or heard about me they didn’t know I existed so
none would ask her what had become of me. That gave her a lot of
protection, as did another aspect neither of us had thought about
until one evening she said, “I LOVE doing this, you CAN’T embarrass
me as you don’t know my friends so you can’t tell them anything.”
Then, after a second’s pause, she said, “In fact, if you ever DID
tell them, they’d never BELIEVE that I’d do anything like this!”
Almost before the words were out of her mouth she realised the
significance af that remark. “That’s right! Nobody would believe
you anyway! Ooooh! I can do anything I like!” and proceeded to
stand spread legged in front of me finger-fucking herself and
repeating the words “Fuck, fuck, fuck my cunt.” Another example of
the importance of keeping the whole thing completely private so not
even your friends know you’re meeting someone.
My only problem with this is finding the next lady that would like to
do this sort of thing. I usually have to wait for a suitable
conversational opening, then hint at my secret pleasure (wanking
for/with a lady) and watch for any reaction. I just wish there was
some way for a guy to let a woman know of this without actually
saying it as those for whom it isn’t an attraction are usually
disgusted by the thought. Those that ARE attracted often love it
because (as they love to say) it IS so disgusting, yet it’s harmless,
costless, and you can’t catch anything or get pregnant, if that’s a
concern.
And it’s ALWAYS satisfying for both parties.
Who could ask for more?
Rick