I too am totally turned on by the unethical therapist dynamic. the thought of someone very well qualified to get inside my head and twist the sexual/emotional knife is sooo intoxicating. knowing i’m falling ever deeper into a head space i will NEVER shake. forming beliefs and strategies that take me further and further away from anything “normal” in the popular/accepted sense is arousing to me. in fact, it is THE most arousing aspect – the idea and feeling of hastening my own emotional UNwell being and/or destruction. for me, unlike others here, i have NOT adopted the feeling that it’s “ok” to be like me. i’m happy that others here are able to get that, but i still feel very much abnormal and my shame is hurtful, emotional, and brings a lot of sadness. luckily i’m a very happy personality type naturally, but when you narrow the focus to sex alone, it’s a dark place. and the vicious cycle that many have recognized and even enjoyed envelops me too. i’m not a drinker or smoker. mercilessly edging & pulling on my poor little tender penis for almost 60 years is the ONLY “high” i enjoy (outside of music). and when you have a lot of angst & shame, it takes a lot of peenie pinching to, at least temporarily, cope.
even though i may not be able to cultivate love of my masturbating self, i’m happy that so many here have. it is also comforting to some degree knowing i’m not so totally alone in getting wrapped up in the M cycle. ha, or maybe i should say Mmmm cycle! i’ve also met some on here that both understand and endure the Mmmm themselves. i’ve enjoyed hearing the experiences and perspectives. Another very special person on here does NOT suffer from my issues but instead enjoys “helping” me “enjoy” my condition. Onania has been wonderful for not only lusty content, but also a place to meet others. nowhere near a cure, but misery loves company i suppose ![]()
lastly, i personally would NOT recommend anyone going to a bonafide psychologist for legit help in breaking these habits. the one time i went to a shrink (with fantastic sexual healing/counseling credentials), it was a horrible AND unhelpful experience. he was a man which was so fucking embarrassing to begin with (i much preferred to go to a woman, but again, his reputation seemed like i’d be an idiot to go elsewhere). i was shocked at his obvious aversion and repulsion as i honestly answered his questions. he truly looked like he had never heard such things before. he made me feel like i was an affliction or pox on all MANkind. he even laughed a couple of times until he saw i was serious. i finally got up the courage to tell him i felt he was judging me and that i didn’t come there for reticule, but for help. he apologized (sort of) but then said that he’d never encountered anyone at all like me and how different i was, etc. after a few more sessions i quit. my takeaway was 1) most people have no idea what its like for me and 2) i honestly don’t think there is any “cure”, so i might as well pursue the joy, even temporary, that i get from my “practice”. no amount of abstinence, meditation, exercise, or even a “healthy” relationship will make a bit of difference. the die has been permanently cast. especially at this point in my life i’m lost and wandering – homeless (sexually speaking). for the record, i think shrinks can be VERY helpful for any number of issues people find themselves in EXCEPT this. i would NEVER discourage anyone from getting help from a professional, but if it’s for stopping masturbation alone – save your money and whatever shreds of self esteem you may have.
Source: (160) Therapy Session – Page 8 – Onania Masturbator Forum