Dear Prudence,
I have been married for seven years, but I am still troubled by how to speak openly about masturbation with my spouse. I masturbate pretty much every morning after getting up and every evening before I go to bed, unless I think my wife and I will make love. The problem is that my wife sees my masturbation as a declaration that she does not please me, which is not true. I enjoy our lovemaking, and I’d prefer to make love to her as often as I masturbate; she’s simply not interested in doing it that often. (Believe me, I’ve tried.) Moreover, she complains that I “take too long” and says she would be more willing if I were “normal” and didn’t last so long. My wife also has suggested there is something wrong with me for wanting to make love or masturbate as often as I do. I accept that I’ll never be able to make love to my wife as often as I would like, but how do I convey to her that masturbation is normal and that she shouldn’t see it as evidence that she’s inadequate?
via My wife hates how often I masturbate. – – Slate Magazine .
Hi
I masturbated during 10 years of marriage .
I did not have to compete with a lover , my competition was her vibrator . 8 inches of shiny chrome vibrating plastic .
Unlike my wife who never masturbated while I was there , I never hid my masturbation habits.
I masturbated openly even in bed at night next to her , I would pull the covers back , take my cock in my hand , and tell her “I need this ” and take pleasure in masturbating . Her comments hardened my cock even more when she told me I was pathetic or she called me a wanker .
I masturbated in the morning if we had had sex the night before , if she wasn’t in the mood , I would masturbate watching porn on TV , and she would go to bed and leave me too it .
I masturbated to all sorts of porn while sitting naked at my computer and would masturbate and cum almost every day .
Masturbation took over and at the end of the marriage I masturbated even more , just to send the message that I would rather masturbate than have sex with her . And so I masturbated ever more , showing her I how I loved my masturbation , and indulged in masturbation when ever I could , and I loved it , lived the pleasure my cock gave me loved the pleasure of flaunting my masturbation in front of her . I masturbated every day , and even 2 and 3 times a day at weekends .
Confirming my position as a confirmed wanker , a chronic masturbator , an addicted tosser ,
“A useless wanker ” is what she called me , and she was right .
I am proud to be masturbator , masturbation is my passion , masturbation is my sexual pleasure , masturbation is my life .
Guy
A chronic life long addicted proud MASTURBATOR .