a masturbator said:
I think several other chronic masturbators here will also attest to this
phenomenon. Some of us tend to grow more and more dependent on manual
stimulation, to the point we can no longer penetrate a loving and willing
partner. I call it “masturbatory impotence”.
In my case, I am now functionally impotent as far as sexual intercourse
goes, due to excessive masturbation dependency. I have become so accustomed
to the intense gratification I get in my own hand that the stimulation of
intercourse is insufficient for me to maintain erections. I either fail to
penetrate, or go limp after penetration.
I freely admit that there is a large psychological component to this, and it
may never happen to you, or most other chronic masturbators. I simply find
masturbation more exciting and rewarding; I have little difficulty staying
erect for long solo masturbation sessions or for receiving handjobs. And if
I lose erection temporarily during masturbation, there is no performance
anxiety associated with it; I simply stroke a bit limp and the hard returns.
But in sexual intercourse there is a performance anxiety that makes me more
likely to loose erection and less likely to recover if lost.
Age is a factor; when I was younger and more physically vigorous I could get
it up for both intercourse and masturbation, usually in the same day. With
age intercourse competency became increasingly marginal and then failed
altogether. Interestingly, as a teenager I had so much performance anxiety I
rarely erected the first time with a girl; it took a lot of “relationship”
before I could copulate successfully. So perhaps the seeds of masturbatory
impotence were there all along.
By the way, the performance anxiety also happens sometimes in masturbating
on webcam or in my self-made masturbation videos. Somehow the mental effort
of balancing the “audience expectations” with my own inner excitement can
cost me an erection. I still love to webcam (and often with full erection),
because of the exhibitionistic thrill.
I masturbated myself impotent in my late 40s and I love it.
I truly believe that you can never masturbate too much and that if your dick still gets hard you aren’t masturbating enough.
My circumstances relate closely to your post. I used to be a competent copulator but masturbation triumphed and I am now a coitally impotent post-pussy fetish masturbator no longer capable of penetration due to masturbation induced erectile dysfunction or “masturbatory impotence”. I am a submissive pussy-free leg connoisseur erectile dependent on manual stimulation triggered by the sight, sounds and small of female stiletto high heeled footwear.
My circumstances relate closely to your post. I used to be a competent copulator but masturbation triumphed and I am now a coitally impotent post-pussy fetish masturbator no longer capable of penetration due to masturbation induced erectile dysfunction or “masturbatory impotence”. I am a submissive pussy-free leg connoisseur erectile dependent on manual stimulation triggered by the sight, sounds and small of female stiletto high heeled footwear.