married guys

a masturbator wrote:

I would be interested in having a dialogue with married guys who are sexually active with their wives but who are secretly addicted to masturbation. How do you balance your career, family and secret addiction? If you are into cum denial and would like to encourage and challenge each other…even better! Email me or respond here and let’s talk.

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I’ve been a life-long masturbator-edger, am married,wife and I have a sex life. I am in my sixties and I have the same long edging sessions almost daily I have been having for years.
My wife slowly became aware of my tastes and habits … not surprised, more turned on than off in fact. She accepts (even “enjoy” – although she would not talk about it) my edging sessions before we finish up having sex together.
Just a few aspects of a somewhat harmonious situation I would say.
I could of course expatiate more on that of course. I drop a few lines on my life and experience on onania.org as comments and edgingdenialclub as well…

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For many years I was both a chronic masturbator and a fairly regular fucker. It was quite a balancing act. Now at age 60 I can’t stay hard in a pussy anymore.

I am in my second marriage. Oddly both of the women I married seem to have had rather low sex drives. I did not plan it that way on purpose but now I wonder if that was not simply coincidence. Perhaps subconsciously I chose those women so that it would not interfere with my jacking off.

I never counted but I know that I have fucked my hand way more than pussy. Probably something like a 50:1 ratio over my whole lifetime.

For quite a few years things were pretty balanced: once or twice week with the wife and several times a week solo.

My only regret is that I never found a woman who I could be open with about it, who would share my masturbation passions with me. Those women are rare.

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I am also married but have preferred my hand to pussy for a long time now. After 10 years of marrage my wife started to lose interest in sex (her sex drive was never that strong) and at 1st I was upset, but has I found men to talk to online that liked jerking off also, I was content with using my hand for my orgasims. That lasted for about 5 years then I met an older married man online that took me under his wing… and incurraged me to masterbate more and more, he helped me understand how wonderful self-sex could be. After a few years of his help I have fully converted to masterbation, and no longer care for pussy. I have never had a sex life as good as i do now… I love my penis, my hand and the orgaisms I have talking with other married masterbaturs….

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Greetings,
My 60 year old dick got into my wife’s vaj yesterday afternoon for the
first time in about 2 months. I have to say it was a struggle. Not because
I had to talk her into it. She was eager for it after all that time. No.
Even with lots of slippery lube, it was still a struggle getting it in. The
velvet tunnel had acquired restrictions from long weeks of non-use. After
the struggle of pushing past the bottleneck, the rest was discomfort from
being squeezed by the narrowing.

Remember in your youth when you had to think about baseball cards to avoid
squirting too soon. I had to think about comedienne, Mo’Nique, taunting me
to stroke myself in order to ultimately reach a disappointing squirt at all.

BTW our hot water heater is on the fritz. So this morning I had to go
without a shower. My dick was uncomfortably sticky with the residue of
vaj-juice and dried out lube. While my wife was away at church I put some
porn stills on the TV and my dick in my hand. Had to powder it with talcum
to make the stroking comfortable. So nice to get back to the usual method
of invoking a squirt. Oooh so nice.

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For many years I was both a chronic masturbator and a fairly regular fucker. It was quite a balancing act. Now at age 60 I can’t stay hard in a pussy anymore.

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i remember the last time i was fucking my wife (about 7yrs ago), i had alot of trouble staying hard, that had been goiung on for a while, but i never had a problem beeing hard when i jerkedoff. thats when i started to understand that i prefered my hand to pussy. i have not looked back since that day. i still love looking at females, but really just love to sit and stroke myself for hours at a time. anyone else feel this way?

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I miss pussy and would fuck if I could. But hand is best.

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I love looking at pussy as I stroke my demanding cock- have fucked a few
times- prefer my hand- no small talk- no performance anxiety- all around
better to me- my cock never talks back- just spits at me.

i remember the last time i was fucking my wife (about 7yrs ago), i had
alot of trouble staying hard, that had been goiung on for a while, but i never
had a problem beeing hard when i jerkedoff. thats when i started to
understand that i prefered my hand to pussy. i have not looked back since that
day. i still love looking at females, but really just love to sit and stroke
myself for hours at a time. anyone else feel this way?

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pussy carries great overhead, ask Adam.

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One of the things I miss most about fucking was that the fresh memories from it always made good jack-off material later.

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It’s been close to 15 years since I’ve had sex with the wife and I don’t miss it. I’d rather follow my daily routine of beatin’ off three or four or five times a day than trying to get my limp dicklet even half way interested in trying to enter the wife’s pussy.

I have been addicted to masturbation for well over 50 years and during both of my marriages my masturbation to screwing ratio has always been very heavy on the masturbation side.

I can’t say that I wish I had dedicated myself to solosexuality earlier but I’m sure glad that I’m a completely addicted to beatin’ off now.