Re: Pussy free. Not by choice.
by EarlyBeginner » Thu Nov 30, 2023 6:54 am
Some opinion from an addicted, but also rather pussy experienced masturbator.
1) Yes, penetration sex is the society-normative ideal of happy sex also in most female heads. And this ideal has even become stronger the last years. This society has become a giant beauty competition. Women have one main problem in it, one main question: “Am I (still) attractive enough in this society to be on the successful side?” And the gender relationships are one important playground. Have a man and have sex with him! And here the female target is confirmation and self-affirmation: “Am I attractive enough for him that he has a stonehard erection inside me and spectacular orgasm?” And here now the even more special, little silly ideal: “Is he able to give me an orgasm as well, guaranteed handsfree/clitorisfree by penetration only?” Many couples and women chase this ideal their whole life long as crazy.
2) The simple truth: 80% of women are not able to orgasm by penetration only. The clitoris must help. This fact has been well known by statistics, and funnily my sexworkers whom I have joined the last years confirm this: “I can cum at my clitoris only”. (It is not difficoult to get an honest speaking level with many of them.) On the other hand, sure, penetration is lustful for most women, up to a limit before orgasm. The lust might be the combination of real indirect stimulation of the clitoris plus the psychological success factor, see above.
3) As for me personally: My lady and I were engaged for 30 years (until she sadly left me and this world), and we had sex seldom, but not bad. I took care that she had orgasm everytime. She was able to fulfill the ideal of orgasm only by penetration with the cowboy style, she had to ride sitting on me like a crazy rodeo cowboy. Enough clitoral friction this way. One day she said to me: “I am too old for this now.”. Fortunately we had developed penetrative positions during which her clitoris received clitoral stimulation simultaneously. The last years we both quit our hot sex life. Stressy jobs, all that stuff. Maybe we could have started after both retired. No more opportunity for this. I have got erectile dysfunction problems since her death, but I am happy with my masturbation pleasures. And when I watch my sexworkers and my present lover lady masturbate to real orgasm I still have hard erections. Hard enough for nice finger work.
4) Some suggestions for the pussyfree folks here:
– Tell your woman (or the woman you will catch soon?) sensitively that you have read about the 80% unable and ask her honestly: “What about you?”.
– I think the ideal of sex together can be fulfilled without penetration. If the small penis is able to get a little hard at least. One position is called the sledge technology. The woman sits on you and rubs her clitoris at your penis. Your faces could be close together for kissing and whispering the horny or silly love rubbish. Two people in love and horny for each other.
– Buy a strapon dildo for yourself. Her advantage: She can choose the size.
– Does she coincidentally want to receive orgasms which she had never experienced before? Buy her a “Womanizer” with the little opening for her clitoris. Watching her should make you forget your problems.
5) Come on, some more adventures waiting for you. Do not resign. Just my little wish for you.
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