In the Onania Masturbator Forum, a Masturbator Wrote:
Seems pretty obvious to me, but few people will openly and honestly discuss this. The article says that 96% of the 2000 men surveyed masturbated, but not how often, which would have interested me. Also that the average age they began masturbating was 15, which seems a year or two (or in my case three) later than I would guess.
Why we do this thing we do
https://metro.co.uk/2018/05/02/men-mast … s-7514120/
Seems pretty obvious to me, but few people will openly and honestly discuss this. The article says that 96% of the 2000 men surveyed masturbated, but not how often, which would have interested me. Also that the average age they began masturbating was 15, which seems a year or two (or in my case three) later than I would guess.
From the article: “The top three reasons why we masturbate are to achieve pleasure, to relieve sexual tensions, and to de-stress. Other popular reasons include to aid sleep, to deal with boredom, their partner isn’t up for sex, and to help improve sexual performance.”
Thinking about this, I don’t think most of these apply to me to any significant extent — I have basically always done it for pleasure. But there is another reason — sexual excitement. I like thinking about sex, anticipating the next time I can do it, and enjoying the naughtiness of actually doing it. I guess I am a true enthusiast, I just like sex, and masturbating is the easiest way to for me to enjoy it.
I realize that the point of the study was whether masturbational sex was a positive factor in interpersonal sexual relationships and performance. Well yes, understanding my own sexuality has allowed me to concentrate on the quite different thing of sex with another — I can do a commendable job of pleasing a partner while also pleasing myself.
As to the question of whether masturbating has made my sex life better? Well, yes, obviously, since my sex life has always been predominantly masturbational. Sex with myself is consistently on a par with the very best sex with another person. But solo sex is excellent every time and sex with another is sort of a crap shoot. My sex life has been truly excellent largely because I can do it (almost) whenever I want, (almost) as often as I want, (usually) for as long as I want, and in exactly the way that suits me best.
Except for a few intense two-or-three day binges with a new partner, I have never let a relationship occupy more than a small fraction of my sexual attention. In a steady relationship it is more like a ten-minute fuck twice a week versus a four hour wank every day. Masturbation wins!
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