Masturbation In Marriage

from Masturbation In Marriage: Part III 

…. When a man ejaculates, he receives the greatest natural chemical high that he can possibly experience. Endorphins and enkephalins are pumped through your system straight to the preopticneuron part of the brain, and nothing in the world compares to this experience.
It should go without saying, then, that what we look at before and during ejaculation has a very profound affect on our sexual conditioning. When we release, our brains associate that particular object with sexual gratification. This has amazing implications when you experience sexual release in the embrace of your wife, however many of us come into marriage with our minds already locked onto something else (porn, fantasies, situational conditions) and so the transition to married life is hindered by the things we connected to before our wives.
I mentioned in Part II of this series that the most unhealthy type of masturbation is what author Doug Weiss classifies as “Type C” masturbation; that is, those who masturbate completely disconnected from reality. This an object-focused experience, men in this category objectivify anyone in their fantasies to do anything (picturing the nude model giving oral sex, for example). Many people today claim masturbation within marriage should not only be tolerated, but embraced; that a wife stumbling in on her husband masturbating with a Playboy magazine is a completely normal thing. When it comes to this disconnected, Type C masturbator, however, I could not disagree more. … more Masturbation In Marriage: Part III

Does masturbation make you impotent?

a masturbator worried:

  Are u serious???….your impotence is due to your habit of masturbation????…in that case we’re all due to become impotent soon????…..please say you’re joking or i miss understood u. I love to masturbate a lot, but i also love to fuck pussy and will really go crazy if i couldn’t penetrate pumpum again, so pleeeease clarify John cause I’m worried!!!.

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other masturbators confirmed:

I think several other chronic masturbators here will also attest to this phenomenon. Some of us tend to grow more and more dependent on manual stimulation, to the point we can no longer penetrate a loving and willing partner. I call it “masturbatory impotence”.
In my case, I am now functionally impotent as far as sexual intercourse goes, due to excessive masturbation dependency. I have become so accustomed to the intense gratification I get in my own hand that the stimulation of intercourse is insufficient for me to maintain erections. I either fail to penetrate, or go limp after penetration.
I freely admit that there is a large psychological component to this, and it may never happen to you, or most other chronic masturbators. I simply find masturbation more exciting and rewarding; I have little difficulty staying erect for long solo masturbation sessions or for receiving handjobs. And if I lose erection temporarily during masturbation, there is no performance anxiety associated with it; I simply stroke a bit limp and the hard returns. But in sexual intercourse there is a performance anxiety that makes me more likely to loose erection and less likely to recover if lost. 
Age is a factor; when I was younger and more physically vigorous I could get it up for both intercourse and masturbation, usually in the same day. With age intercourse competency became increasingly marginal and then failed altogether. Interestingly, as a teenager I had so much performance anxiety I rarely erected the first time with a girl; it took a lot of “relationship” before I could copulate successfully. So perhaps the seeds of masturbatory impotence were there all along.
By the way, the performance anxiety also happens sometimes in masturbating on webcam or in my self-made masturbation videos. Somehow the mental effort of balancing the “audience expectations” with my own inner excitement can cost me an erection. I still love to webcam (and often with full erection), because of the exhibitionistic thrill.

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I usually do not post..more of a lurker, but this topic speaks to me.  There is no doubt that
I have become a chronic masturbator, and have had difficulty with maintaining an erection. 
In my case I think that the root problem has at least two seperate causes.  First of all, I
have not had sex with my wife for about 4 years…the reasons are not important, however,
it has forced me to become dependent on my own hand (or someone’s hand) to bring me
satisfaction. I have noticed over the years that it takes more and more stimulation to reach
orgasm, particularly if I do a lot of edge playing (this is what I like best). Second, I have
had heart problems and am on four seperate medications, each of which has a libido side
effect.  Frankly it has been so long since I have been with anyone, I don’t know what would
happen…  Be very interested in sharing experiences with another mature male just to see!
Added to these problems, my penis has shrunk somewhat in size…both length and girth. 
Oh My.

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LOVE IT! LOVE IT! LOVE IT! This latest thread is neat! Yes, I too
would have I/course performance problems! And how delicious it is!
I think folks know of my “masturbation fidelity” cherishings,
and “being limp” except for masturbation fits right in. I mean, a
wife can be confident that Hubby is faithful, because he can only
cumm by masturbation.
The fantasy part of it also is Wifey physically CRAVES orgasm, but
wants the utlimtate safe sex, and so wants a masturbation impotent
husband. Part of the fantasy, if one wants, is to have Wifey “so
big” down below that she is only satisfied with a bigg bigg toy!
What do others think? Also, what do some of the Ladies among us
think? Wouldn’t a husband or partner like WE be appealing?
Also, do we all agree that we need porn to “jump start” our limp
dicks?

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I think this is a very individual and as at least one post alluded to very likely at least (I qualify as I’m no doctor, either) partially psychological thing.  Many guys masturbate like crazy for their lives and do not become impotent.  However, I have seen medical evidence that infertility or lowered fertility is a likely result of constant orgasming for males – basically a life-long pursuit does “wear out” your reproductive capacity.  The only medical things I have read about masturbation and impotence have indicated no causal relationship, however those studies centered more around regular rather than extreme masturbatory habits.
Personally, I prefer masturbation to intercourse strongly, but I prefer sex with other to masturbation a substantial portion of the time, and I do have some pursuits that I pay attention to besides masturbation, so I am not nearly as extreme as some here, though I have gone through many a lost weekend and so forth.  That said, I have never had problems aside from isolated rare instances with being hard for intercourse.  However, I sometimes do cum far too quickly in intercourse OR if I keep going a while I occasionally lose it for a while and can’t stay hard inserted (but quickly will get hard again outside).  But that hasn’t seem affected by masturbation – in fact, it seems that the latter problem of staying hard has gone away over time as I’ve worked my penis so much it is much more capable of “behaving” as I desire, and the former problem of cumming too soon is not eliminated but rarer.  That said, my wife also has thankfully moved away from wanting intercourse much at
all, so I don’t have to do it much these days, and rarely want to.
And btw I’ll be masturbating most of this evening, starting as soon as I get rid of a guest :) around 6 PM-ish Pacific time, feel free to email or IM me, anyone, not sure when I’ll be on, but I will be occasionally and will be interested if anyone wants to talk, preferably but not necessarily females, I love to confess my sissy slut secrets and so on…sorry for the plug – but I’m in the mood.. ;)

Inside a porn addiction clinic

“We also see people with physical injuries from masturbating up to 12 times a day – lacerations on penises are common, internal and external injuries on women, for female sex addicts exist, too.“I even had a client who was left incontinent from excessive use of sex toys.”

Rob, who suffered alcohol and drug addiction himself before retraining at Bath University, believes more should be done to recognise that this is a medical condition.

He reveals: “Dopamine is the neurochemical of desire. It’s perfect for pornography. You get one big hit and an overload, flooded with dopamine and whatever it is you are looking for, it will never, ever be enough.

“It’s why you can’t say to a teenage boy, ‘Please stop looking at pornography and get on with your homework you smutty boy’. It’s not possible for him to stop. This is a physical dependency.

“Lots of people watch pornography healthily in their lives. There are lots of people out there having lots of great sex lives and still leading normal lives.

“The tipping point into addiction is consequences. It’s when you wake up in the morning and physically need something over anything else.

“The people presenting here in my clinic are not having a good time. The consequences are ruining their lives – they’re about to lose their partners, they’ve been caught looking at porn at work, masturbating in public or they’ve crossed the legal line. We treat offenders here.

https://www.dailystar.co.uk/news/latest-news/706855/porn-addiction-clinic-physical-dependency-london-harley-street

 

All types of sexual activity carry some STD risk

from All types of sexual activity carry some STD risk | Health | Reuters

Sexual activity other than intercourse carries some risk of sexually transmitted disease, and doctors should make sure their patients understand that, according to the American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists (ACOG).

Many people may engage in “noncoital” sexual activities such as oral sex, mutual masturbation and anal sex to prevent pregnancy and cut the risk of STDs. However, all of these sex acts come with some degree of STD risk, and it’s still important for people to protect themselves, according to an ACOG expert committee. … more All types of sexual activity carry some STD risk | Health | Reuters

A Catch-22 situation

Worry about masturbation shrinking the penis from A Catch-22 situation « Happybutworried’s Weblog 

I’ve said on here several times that my shrinkage seems to be related to masturbation in some way.  That is, despite all accepted medical wisdom, I can’t shake the notion that there is some correlation between what I’m experiencing and the amount of times i’ve had one off the wrist.

Over the years I suppose I’ve been afairly heavy masturbator but I suppose most guys in their teens and twenties are.  I’ve asked numerous doctors if I could have damaged my penis in some way but all say no.  That makes it hard to stop.  In particular, I think I may have damaged my penile tissue by trying to masturbate too early. … A Catch-22 situation « Happybutworried’s Weblog

SELF-POLLUTION (1890 Medical Journal)

 Masturbators must take heed of these warnings from an 1890 Medical Journal:

SELF-POLLUTION

There are various names given to the unnatural and degrading vice of producing venereal excitement by the hand, or other means, generally resulting in a discharge of semen in the male and a corresponding emission in the female. Unfortunately, it is a vice by no means uncommon among the youth of both sexes, and it frequently continued into the riper years.

 

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