It’s been a while for me, but today I remembered when I stopped trying to quit being a compulsive masturbator. It was so relieving admiting that I am a complete addict, and that I will likely never change. Before that I had always felt a little guilty – I was still binge masturbating (close to what I do now; around 6 hours on weekdays, 10 – 12 on weekends) – but I tried to maintain somewhat of a social life, and would often try to quit, usually just lasting a few days.
The moment of accepting who I am came after my last attempt at quitting. I hadn’t edged that whole work week (Monday through Friday), but as I came home on Friday I passed an adult video store. While I didn’t go in, just thinking about all the wonderful porn and perverts in there got me so hard, I went home and immediately started edging, furiously watching porn on the internet. I edged through the whole weekend, cancelling plans to see friends, totally captive to the BBWs and gangbangs I was watching online. At that moment I accepted who I was. There have only been a handful of days I haven’t edged at least 2 hours since then – and that was about 7 years ago.
Now I am a hermit masturbator, who doesn’t need to worry about my “friends” bothering me because they stopped calling a long time ago. I know I will never have a “normal” family life, or social life, but this is who I am. I am ashamed at what I have turned in to, but that just fuels me. All I want now is more humiliation porn, as I sit in my masturbation cave and edge my life away. I need this so badly….. Continue reading
“We also see people with physical injuries from masturbating up to 12 times a day – lacerations on penises are common, internal and external injuries on women, for female sex addicts exist, too.“I even had a client who was left incontinent from excessive use of sex toys.”
Rob, who suffered alcohol and drug addiction himself before retraining at Bath University, believes more should be done to recognise that this is a medical condition.
He reveals: “Dopamine is the neurochemical of desire. It’s perfect for pornography. You get one big hit and an overload, flooded with dopamine and whatever it is you are looking for, it will never, ever be enough.
“It’s why you can’t say to a teenage boy, ‘Please stop looking at pornography and get on with your homework you smutty boy’. It’s not possible for him to stop. This is a physical dependency.
“Lots of people watch pornography healthily in their lives. There are lots of people out there having lots of great sex lives and still leading normal lives.
“The tipping point into addiction is consequences. It’s when you wake up in the morning and physically need something over anything else.
“The people presenting here in my clinic are not having a good time. The consequences are ruining their lives – they’re about to lose their partners, they’ve been caught looking at porn at work, masturbating in public or they’ve crossed the legal line. We treat offenders here.
A masturbator wrote:
I am lucky in that we are empty nesters, meaning kid grown and gone
and have a two story house with a office/tv room upstairs. The wife
almost never comes up stairs, but she had rather me keep my nasty
filthy habit out of her site anyway. So I can come home get naked and
play with myself for hours on end with out any intrusion. Back in my
younger days, meaning 40’s and 50’s I would masturbate and cum daily,
some times twice or more in day, but now happy with just masturbating
every day and maybe cumming every couple or three days. Now try
to “save it up” so will have something to spurt. If standing up and
have my balls and cock tied just right can shoot 6 or 8 inches. It
just normaly cums out no shooting. The best I have been able to do in
past several years, conditions were just right I guess, was about 2
1/2 feet. I had my balls and cock tied and was straddling the edge of
a coffee table stroking so that my balls were hitting aganist the
table (every sence I can remember I loved to have my ball hitting
aganist something and just like the sound as they hit) and I shot
over and across the table.
A day in the life of this Masturbator
by Buddy Whackitt
I’m a compulsive masturbator. I don’t think I’m an addict but the compulsion is so strong and the habit so well-formed I might as well be.
What follows is a description of a typical day for me. I work from home in my own office in a private corner of the house. Although my wife and kids are home pretty much all the time the location of my office gives me hours of privacy. I think just going down into my office and sitting behind the computer is a strong trigger for my behavior. I feel like pulling down my pants pretty much from the moment I sit down.
Worry about masturbation shrinking the penis from A Catch-22 situation « Happybutworried’s Weblog
I’ve said on here several times that my shrinkage seems to be related to masturbation in some way. That is, despite all accepted medical wisdom, I can’t shake the notion that there is some correlation between what I’m experiencing and the amount of times i’ve had one off the wrist.
Over the years I suppose I’ve been afairly heavy masturbator but I suppose most guys in their teens and twenties are. I’ve asked numerous doctors if I could have damaged my penis in some way but all say no. That makes it hard to stop. In particular, I think I may have damaged my penile tissue by trying to masturbate too early. … A Catch-22 situation « Happybutworried’s Weblog
What is Compulsive Masturbation?
Among all the kinds of sexual acts, compulsive masturbation is one of the most secret and isolative of them all. But, what is compulsive masturbation addiction. A man or a woman who compulsively masturbates with or without the use of porn is often the last to seek help, often not seeing or understanding their behaviour as problematic. Most of them masturbate after watching some of the BEST FREE PORN VIDEOS. Their hidden behaviour is often related to past trauma, familial societal or religious shame associated with the sex act and intimacy. People have internal beliefs about masturbation as one of the “dirty,” “shameful,” or “sinful” act it.
While most sex addicts actively seek treatment when they pushed by some obvious external consequence of the legal, occupational, health, or relational type, the solitary nature of the compulsive masturbator’s behavior leaves his or her actions less subject to the direct consequences of other forms of sexual acting out. The sex addict engaging in compulsive masturbation more often seeks help for anxiety, obsession, isolation, and the inability to seek or maintain healthy intimate relationships. Some compulsive masturbators do experience consequences through the viewing of inappropriate materials (e.g., child pornography), through masturbating in inappropriate places (e.g., the workplace or an automobile), or due to self-injury. However, the most frequent consequence of compulsive masturbation is a life devoid of intimacy, removed from feeling, and filled with hidden shame. Continue reading
Hi, my name is John!
I am 44, and have been a chronic, compulsive masturbator as far back as my memories go. I can remember being 7 years old and putting a hook lock on my bedroom door (I told my mom it was to keep my little sister out) and would spend hours every day stroking my cock even at that age. At age 14 I got hooked on porn (I had an 18 year old friend with an extensive collection I saw just about daily). My addiction has grown every year until where I am at now; it is all that matters in my life, and I love being this way. I have not had sex with my wife in 6 years, as I can only get it up for my hand now. I masturbate throughout the day, including driving and when at work, and when time permits, sometimes for 5 or 6 hours straight without cumming (I love to edge). There are times I jack so much my cock can no longer get hard, but I stroke it limp then. Usually I’m up on Friday and Sat. nights masturbating until the sun comes up. Continue reading
How Much Masturbation is Too Much? – Psych Central
by Michael Ashworth, Ph.D.
June 13, 2007
Oh, the classic masturbation question — how much is too much? Do people who are in a relationship masturbate? Oops, Delilah’s getting carried away here and asking the questions instead of answering them…
More to the point: Individuals vary tremendously in how much they masturbate. Some folks wouldn’t dream of it, while others masturbate two or three times in their lives, and others two or three times a day. (And those aren’t the only options!) There are no deleterious effects of masturbation itself, and it shouldn’t matter whether you’re single or in a relationship.
On the other hand, since you’re worried about how your masturbation may be affecting your relationship with your partner, here are a few things to think about to help you decide if it’s a problem or not:
- How is your health? Has it changed in any way since you increased your masturbation?
- Are you satisfied with your life — career, relationship, friendships — or are you using masturbation as an escape from things that are bothering you?
- Is your penis or clitoris sore or bruised?
- Do you have any problem orgasming or ejaculating alone or with your partner?
- Do you still have sex with your partner? Are you having an amount of sex that you’re both content with?
You see, it’s not about how often you masturbate but about how you’re living the rest of your life. As long as masturbation is a part of your life and not instead of your life, you’re fine. When masturbation becomes an escape from problems in your relationship, or it begins to affect your health, or turn into a substitute for real life experiences, then you should consider slowing down on your stroking and dealing with who and what’s around you.
Addicts speak about their habits
hi, i am a 42mm whose is a chronic addicted bator. I have tried hard to resit my addiction but i constantly fail. The power of my cock is to overwheming and i cannot resist the need to masturbate. Even as i write this i am using one hand. the other is slowing moving up and down my rock hard cock. Pre cum is dripping out of the head as i get nore and more gooned writing this for everyone to read. I would love to chat with other hard core bators and i thank Richard for this and his other great sites..Hail cock!! Continue reading
A masturbator said:
I’ve been waiting for this for sooo long. Spent the holidays with the in-laws and didn’t have an opportunity to spend quality time with my genitals. Sure, I made myself cum everyday but no time to just kick back and really enjoy myself.
Last week, I was debating about whether I should spend the days after Christmas at our lake condo. That decision was made when we scheduled some repair guys at the house today. Oh well, I guess I will just have to lose myself in internet porn and phonesex for hours and hours every day while the wife is at work. All I’m going to do is masturbate. Continue reading