Tag: Partner

The more orgasms, the less attractive women find men

Posted by Onania Org/asm – June 12, 2010

Instead what he found matched with what we’ve been theorizing. The more orgasms the women had across the board…the more unattractive and aggressive they ranked the pictures of the men.

And the women who only masturbated during that time ranked the men the lowest. (Women engaging in oral sex with a partner and so forth didn’t like the men much either.) The PVI women ranked the men the highest – which suggests that it was the intercourse (deep connection with a partner), not the orgasms, that truly created a sense of loving wellbeing in the women.

 

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National Review: Getting Serious On Pornography : NPR

Posted by Onania Org/asm – April 5, 2010

It looks like left-wing NPR and right-wing National Review finally found something they agree with: you masturbate too much.

Imagine a drug so powerful it can destroy a family simply by distorting a man's perception of his wife. Picture an addiction so lethal it has the potential to render an entire generation incapable of forming lasting marriages and so widespread that it produces more annual revenue — $97 billion worldwide in 2006 — than all of the leading technology companies combined. Consider a narcotic so insidious that it evades serious scientific study and legislative action for decades, thriving instead under the ever-expanding banner of the First Amendment.

According to an online statistics firm, an estimated 40 million people use this drug on a regular basis. It doesn't come in pill form. It can't be smoked, injected, or snorted. And yet neurological data suggest its effects on the brain are strikingly similar to those of synthetic drugs. Indeed, two authorities on the neurochemistry of addiction, Harvey Milkman and Stanley Sunderwirth, claim it is the ability of this drug to influence all three pleasure systems in the brain — arousal, satiation, and fantasy — that makes it “the piece de resistance among the addictions.” … more

via National Review: Getting Serious On Pornography : NPR.

Erotic sexual denial – (Wikipedia)

Posted by Onania Org/asm – March 7, 2010

Erotic sexual denial, also known as orgasm denial, is a sexual practice in which a person is kept in a heightened state of sexual arousal for an extended length of time, without being allowed to orgasm, and is commonly practiced in association with BDSM and sexual bondage. Erotic sexual denial is a more extreme form of orgasm control, in which the subject is ultimately allowed to climax.

An alternative form of erotic sexual denial is the total denial of all genital stimulation. To ensure a total denial of stimulation, a couple may use a chastity device that physically prevents touch to the genitals and/or full erection.

via Erotic sexual denial – Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia.

Orgasm control (Wikipedia)

Posted by Onania Org/asm – March 3, 2010

From Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia

Orgasm control, also known as “peaking”, “surfing”, and by other terms,[1] is a sexual technique involving either an active partner taking control over a passive partner’s orgasm, or one person controlling their own orgasm in sexual intercourse or through masturbation. As it pertains to this page, the orgasm is controlled and held back for an extended period of time as near as possible to the orgasm itself, and then the person is finally allowed to experience the orgasm.

Called “slow masturbation” in Alex Comfort’s The New Joy of Sex (1984)[2]and “extended massive orgasm” in Vera and Steve Bodansky’s 2000 book of the same name, it is similar to the Venus Butterfly technique used in the volume The One Hour Orgasm (1999) by Leah and Bob Schwartz. However, any method of stimulation–manual, oral, intercourse, or with sex toys–can be used by either a single person or by one or more active partners to prolong the sexual experience leading up to orgasm.

In a two-person exchange, a partner will stimulate the receiver, gradually bringing them up to the point high in the plateau phase where an orgasm is actually building, and will then reduce the level of stimulation just below that needed to trigger the orgasm. By carefully varying the intensity and speed of stimulation, and by practicing with the same partner to learn their responses, a person is held in the highly-aroused state near orgasm. This process may be repeated as desired, but at some point repetition may cause the urge to orgasm to become overwhelming. When a partner eventually provides enough stimulation to achieve an orgasm, it may be stronger than usual due to the increased tension and arousal that builds up during the extended stimulation.

Since orgasm control prolongs the experience of powerful sexual sensations occurring during the final build-up to orgasm, the physical demands of being kept or keeping oneself in this highly-excited state for an extended time can induce a pleasurable, almost euphoric state, and at times creates changes within an individual’s perceived consciousness.

via Orgasm control – Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia.

Masterjerker- Masturbation and Screwing

Posted by Onania Org/asm – January 29, 2010

Perhaps some of you think that masturbation is a poor substitute for screwing. This view holds that masturbation is not real sex, but simply a way of relieving sexual tension until the masturbator has an opportunity for genuine sex. And then there are those unfortunate few who can’t seem to connect with the opposite sex and are condemned to a life of solitary masturbation.
However not everyone would agree with this point of view. In fact, some would assert that masturbation is a form of sex at least as rewarding as intercourse with the opposite sex. I, for one, have on occasion masturbated when partner sex was an alternative (see Partner Masturbation ). I’ve also had partner sex and subsequently masturbated later the same day.
Masturbation offers several advantages over partner sex. The most obvious perhaps is that you can get yourself off almost anytime without having to connect with another human being. I know of this personally having spent many years without the company of a woman. I was nevertheless able to have thousands of quality orgasms. When I got married to my ex-wife it would have seemed that all of that was over. Indeed, my masturbation did slow up for awhile. I especially enjoyed the fact that she had a kinky streak. However the frequency of our intercourse dwindled and soon I was back to having sex with my hand.

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Masterjerker- Partner Masturbation

Posted by Onania Org/asm – January 25, 2010

I beat-off to porn and imaginary girlfriends until I was 24 years old. Then, as if by some miracle, a girl had sex with me. This was really great, and we did it quite a few times. But in the end she dumped me, telling me that I was only interested in sex. I was interested in sex, but that wasn’t really all there was to it.
So I went back to masturbating, or should I say, I went back to only masturbating, since I had really never stopped. I did have a few more opportunities to have sex with girls and now I wasn’t about to miss out. Then I got together with my ex-wife (although she wasn’t an ex- at first).
The first time we were in bed together I was really hot on laying her. We both got naked and were starting to get it on when she wrapped her legs around me, grabbed my cock, and started stroking it. It felt so good, I couldn’t tell her to stop, but at the same time I really wanted to screw her. I tried to hold back by orgasm. But then suddenly I thought about how good she was at jerking me off. She must have been experienced at masturbating guys. As soon as those thoughts entered my mind I blew my load all over her hand and my stomach.

Masterjerker- Partner Masturbation

A masturbator’s dream come true

Posted by Onania Org/asm – January 19, 2010

a masturbator said:

I am compelled to share my most wonderful experience with mutual masturbation and is now a fantasy of mine, to have the same experience again.  This was in 1982 and left such an impact on me that I masturbate while thinking about it all of the time.  This fine looking lady of 28 years old had moved into the apartment next to mine after being divorced from her husband.  I had been divorced for a short time myself.  We always said hello to each other when meeting in the hall or at the mail box.  After about 2 months, she asked me to come and join her for a drink or coffee, or what ever.  I said I would love to, so we went into her
apartment.  She asked if I had a girlfriend or not.  I told her that I didn’t at the time.  She went into her bedroom and changed into some loose fitting shorts and a halter top.  Then she put on some real nice music and we sat a drinked coffee and listened to the music for quite a while.  I am a leg man and kept staring at her legs, which were beautiful.  I was embarrassed when she asked me if I thought her legs were pretty.  I told her that I thought they were beautiful.  She really warmed up to me after that and we both went to sit on the couch.  She said I could feel her legs if I would like to.  I never hesitated one second.  As I was carressing her legs, she reached over and began rubbing my penis through my slacks.  It just seemed natural to remove our clothing, so we did.  I was rock hard in a few seconds and as I felt her pussy, it was wet.  For a moment, I figured we would have intercourse and that would be the end of it.  How mistaken I was.  She said she hoped that I
would not be offended that she would not have intercourse with me, although I would be greatly pleasured.  I had been masturbated before by a female more than once, and thouroughly enjoyed it.  I came to enjoy it more than intercourse.  She told me to position myself on my knees with my head down over my arms.  I had no idea what was coming next.  She reached under me, from behind, and started carressing my penis and balls.  Her breasts were rubbing against my backside,  which was a wonderfull sensation.  She continued doing this for about 5 minutes, then stopped.  I wasn’t sure what to expect next but I could surely feel that she wanted control over me and my pleasure.  The next thing I felt was her oily hands fondling my penis and balls again.  She had a vibrating dildo which she oiled up and began pushing it into my anus and fondling my genitals with her other hand.  I just knew I had died and gone to heaven.  The grand finish was yet to come.  I swear she did this for 30 or 40
minutes.  I was in a state of oblivion, for sure!  Then, she took my cock into her hand as she continued with her dildo in my anus.  She very slowly moved her hand up and down on my penis until I ejacualted.  Since I have never been circumsized, she held the skin so no cum would leak out.  She then put her head down under my penis and put it into her mouth, swallowing all of the cum and running her tongue inside the fore skin and the head of my penis until I cum again.  I then began to lick and suck on her clit until she climaxed.  She squirted white liquid all over me, the bed and the wall.  She said it was the most intense orgasm she had ever had. 
  This was truly a DREAM COME TRUE!!!  It is still a fantasy of mine to have this happen again.  I have never been able to find a female remotely interested.  I am extremely happy that I was able to experience this but I am afraid it will never happen again.  No one can ever take the thoughts away from me and I still have intense orgasms, while masturbating, just thinking about and reliving it again in my mind.
  I hope that some of you will enjoy this as I enjoy reading about your experiences.

Ruined Orgasm (Wikipedia)

Posted by Onania Org/asm – January 17, 2010

A ruined orgasm is a technique usually used by the stimulator who is dominating the stimulated during the sexual practice of orgasm denial. The object of orgasm denial is to deny the submissive an orgasm over a long period of time or to allow him or her to orgasm but make it unsatisfactory, awkward or even painful to experience therefore asserting the dominant position of the dominant in the sexual relationship.

This technique allows the physical release of sexual climax while denying or minimizing the satisfaction and pleasure associated with orgasm. The sub is stimulated to the moment that orgasm is inevitable. Stimulation is then stopped by breaking all physical contact with the genitals the moment orgasm begins (i.e. past the “edge”). Alternatively, the stimulator may bring up decidedly non-erotic or nonsexual topics during the orgasm, inflicting non-erotic pain, or stimulating the submissive with an unpleasant smell.

Another technique is to interfere with the orgasm by some sort of constriction. Ruined orgasms expanded to include such methods as Thumbing, Palming, Dictating, Thwacking and several more unpleasant ways for an orgasm to be disrupted or “ruined”. Many of these methods are merely disruptive physical actions that come after psychological or emotional trickery has taken place on the part of the dominant. Deception can play a key role in the effectiveness of a ruined orgasm.

When performed on a man, this practice allows the release of seminal fluid and physical sexual release, but keeps the man in a state of arousal because the orgasm is never psychologically “actualized”. Because stimulation is not continued through the orgasm, that man is left still in a state of want, which allows continued stimulation after a very brief period, unlike after the actualized or completed orgasm which may require a considerably longer refractory period.[citation needed]

When performed on a woman, the effect is similar, but without the ejaculation typical of the male response. The woman experiences orgasmic contractions (though typically less intense than with continued stimulation), but again, the orgasm is never psychologically “actualized”, and the orgasm is considered non-satisfactory. The woman so affected is thus kept in a state of want for a “full” orgasm. Because of the relatively short refractory period in most women compared to that of most men, this practice can often be done many times over a short period of time. If the woman is afterward given a “full” orgasm with stimulation continuing into the orgasmic contractions (and gently afterward, depending on the specific woman), the resulting orgasm is generally very powerful and lasts longer than would be typical.

via Erotic sexual denial – Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia.

Avarice « Easily Aroused (cuckold story)

Posted by Onania Org/asm – January 10, 2010

… Soon, her pace begins to quicken, and her husband sees how hard she is pressing herself down against her lover’s pubis. He looks at her face, sees her eyes screwed tightly shut, sees her teeth gnawing on her bottom lip, and knows that her senses are climbing towards yet another crescendo.

Without warning, her lover reaches up and grips the back of her neck; he tips her over onto her side, then onto her back. He doesn’t wait for her to ready herself; he pushes her thighs wide and thrusts forward, piercing her cunt to her cry of ecstasy. He fucks her hard, savagely, and her husband realises that the stranger is close to reaching his own climax. His laden balls smack against the cheeks of her arse each time he penetrates her, and her breasts bounce wildly in accompaniment.

“Oh, yes! Fuck me hard!” she cries.

The knowledge that the stranger’s semen will soon spurt against his wife’s most intimate flesh, that she wants to feel it erupting inside her, and that he himself can do nothing to stop it, excites her husband more blackly than anything he can ever remember.

He gets to his feet, pumping his cock with a fury he has never felt before. He can feel the pressure building in his face, can feel the sinews standing out along the sides of his neck. He watches his wife’s contorted expression, and then she sees him, sees his pleasure, sees his furious strokes.

“Oh fuck!” she gasps. “Don’t come yet!”

The stranger trembles and emits a drawn-out growl as he spills himself inside her. He withdraws quickly, and her husband looks down at his wife’s dark red, swollen cunt, sees the thick, milky semen already oozing out of her.

Another man’s come in my wife, he thinks.

The sight tips him over the edge. He staggers towards the edge of the bed, almost throwing himself towards her as he explodes, anointing her belly and her pubis with thick streams of his own come. Then, spent, he collapses at her side, gasping for breath as his wife runs her fingers through the seed of two men, blending it against her sex as she uses it to lubricate one final, frantic orgasm. …

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What if I tell him he can masturbate while I fuck him in the ass?

Posted by Onania Org/asm – January 4, 2010

A lady masturbator said:

My boyfriend is a compulsive masturbator.  He stays up late watching
porn movies, and in the morning I find his spunk-filled kleenexes in
the toilet.
   Since I’ve been reading the PeterFiles Web pages, I’ve come to
the conclusion that he needs my loving female guidance.  I’m thinking
about telling him that if he wants to masturbate, he must do it under
my watchful eye.
   At the same time, I’ve been wanting to use a strap-on dildo to
fuck him in the ass.  My boyfriend and I went online to shop for
a dildo and a harness, but he hasn’t been man enough to let me
fuck him yet. 
   What if I tell him he can masturbate while I fuck
him in the ass? 
   What if I tell him that’s the only time he’s allowed
to masturbate? 
   What if I act as his masturbatrix and give him a
handjob as I fuck him in the ass?
   I have a confession to make: I like to masturbate, too.  Does
that make me a hypocrite?  In fact, I’ve gotten kinda hot writing this
post and need to go jill-off right now.  Bye!

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  I hope you had a nice one…
  You’re a very wise and loving female to want to help your
  boyfriend in this way. These males we are so
  fond of have had their hands on their dicks their entire lives!
  It’s going to be tough, but you can help the poor dear gain some semblance
  of control.
  Yes, do tell him that he is not allowed to masturbate unless you are aware
  and have given him permission. Watch one of the porn movies with him (if
  you enjoy that sort or thing). Tell him that he will not be allowed to touch
  himself during the movie, but that if he is compliant, you will give him a
  handjob (or whatever you choose) as his reward for good behavior.  If he tries to
  sneak one you will have to punish him. Here’s where the strap-on might eventually
  be useful, or a few good smacks on his ass. Of course, you know with anal play
  you start slow and small and gradual. And when you do choose to allow him
  his wank, stay with him. Watch carefully, and ask questions. Make it fun
  for both of you.

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Sounds as if … is giving you some good advice.
I think once we guys find our cocks we really do live
with them in our hands our whole life. Masturbation is
fun, it is erotic and you and your bf should enjoy
doing it alone and together as often as you can. Of
course he probably does need your guidance and I can
tell you want to give it to him. One more thing.
Introduce him slowly to the strapon. If he ever lets
you use one on him and you do a good job, (gentle,
loving, yet under your guidance) he’ll be hooked.
I’ve only had the pleasure of one lady using a strapon
on me and I thought I’d died and gone to heaven. It is
that pleasurable when done correctly. His prostate
will forever be greatful to you.  Go for it and
remember; masturbate, masturbate, masturbate (both of
you).