My wife is willingly seduced

a pathetic cuckold masturbator wrote:

My wife is hot. She is 5’4" and around 110lbs. She has perfect tits
and a knock out ass and legs. I often marvel at the fact that she is
MY wife. We’ve been married almost 20 years. She is 41 and I am 43.
I have fantasized for years about her giving herself to another man. I
often bring this fantasy up but it is quickly shot down. Over the
years our sex life has almost disappeared. Even though she is hot as a
firecracker, she does not seem that interested in sex. When we first
met she was a little vixen. If my memory serves me, she gave me a blow
job on our second date. I remember her kissing me and then moving her
head down to my lap. She started rubbing me and asked if I would like
her to eat me. I of course said I would. She said "Oh good. I wasn’t
sure if you liked that or not". The funny thing about that statement
was it implied to me that she was familiar with giving head.
Well from that point in I was getting blowjobs in a lot different
places and times. I quickly realized that I was definitely not the
first man to enjoy this talent of hers. How many others have there
been? I wondered. As the years went by this lovely pastime of hers
disappeared. Within the last 5 years I would have to say we have had
sex maybe a dozen times. I think its been over a year to date now. I
often try to initiated sex with her by kissing her neck and cuddling
her but this always ends up with her getting the giggles and me
masturbating with my head in her lap. She will suggest I play with
myself instead.

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The more orgasms, the less attractive women find men

Instead what he found matched with what we’ve been theorizing. The more orgasms the women had across the board…the more unattractive and aggressive they ranked the pictures of the men.

And the women who only masturbated during that time ranked the men the lowest. (Women engaging in oral sex with a partner and so forth didn’t like the men much either.) The PVI women ranked the men the highest – which suggests that it was the intercourse (deep connection with a partner), not the orgasms, that truly created a sense of loving wellbeing in the women.

 

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Married Masturbator Tim B. [Open Zipper Project]

zipperTim B. describes his life as a chronic mastubator, beginning with accidental self discovery of masturbation as a pillow-humping boy.  Masturbation, and edging, has now become his total outlet, replacing sex with his wife.  Tim has submissive fantasies and fetish for female feet. Describing one of his fantasies, being bound and penis-teased, results in an unplanned orgasm at the end of the recording.

(PS: Don’t confuse Tim B. with the recent interview with Tim W.)

Tim B. invites your email at Timybe@aol.com

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Masterjerker- Masturbation and Screwing

Perhaps some of you think that masturbation is a poor substitute for screwing. This view holds that masturbation is not real sex, but simply a way of relieving sexual tension until the masturbator has an opportunity for genuine sex. And then there are those unfortunate few who can’t seem to connect with the opposite sex and are condemned to a life of solitary masturbation.
However not everyone would agree with this point of view. In fact, some would assert that masturbation is a form of sex at least as rewarding as intercourse with the opposite sex. I, for one, have on occasion masturbated when partner sex was an alternative (see Partner Masturbation ). I’ve also had partner sex and subsequently masturbated later the same day.
Masturbation offers several advantages over partner sex. The most obvious perhaps is that you can get yourself off almost anytime without having to connect with another human being. I know of this personally having spent many years without the company of a woman. I was nevertheless able to have thousands of quality orgasms. When I got married to my ex-wife it would have seemed that all of that was over. Indeed, my masturbation did slow up for awhile. I especially enjoyed the fact that she had a kinky streak. However the frequency of our intercourse dwindled and soon I was back to having sex with my hand.

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Call me Happy Jack

a masturbator who wanted to contribute to the Open Zipper Project audio interviews contributed this instead:

Call me Happy Jack. Not my real name, of course, but it certainly describes my attitude toward masturbation; totally positive. I’ve seen a lot of use of the word chronic regarding self-pleasure, and to me, that just has too much negative connotation. There are other sensual activities humans engage in that are habitual, but we certainly wouldn’t think of as negative – breathing, eating, listening to music, smelling flowers, etc. Masturbation is no less natural than these activities.

I’ve been pleasuring myself for 48 years and have matured from a furtive teen jacker to a master edger. As teens, many of us probably whacked-off for about 5-10 minutes per session, several times a day, every day. It was more about quantity than quality. But for several decades, I’ve been engaging in 1-2 hour sessions, once or twice a week, allowing the desire and anticipation to build in between.

Can you get too much of a good thing? A: possibly. Now, I love a good piece of rare prime rib, but I don’t think I’d enjoy it quite as much if I ate it on a daily basis. It would still be delicious, but there’s nothing wrong with building a little hunger in between treats.

Over the years, I’ve varied my masturbation patterns greatly, and have had several periods where I had the opportunity to indulge on a daily basis. All orgasms are good orgasms, but I think those you hunger for can be a bit more intense and satisfying. Plus, I find that I have greater volume of ejaculate after 2 or 3 days.

But, masturbation, for me, is more than just sexual pleasure; it’s also a great form of mental therapy. It relieves stress. The endorphins released during masturbation are good for you, and I cannot imagine that any serious masturbator would allow him or herself to be distracted by any of the usual sources of stress while loving themselves. You certainly wouldn’t think about work issues or current news affairs or money problems while masturbating. I certainly wouldn’t want to ruin the moment with such thoughts. One of the joys of masturbation is being able to shut out a lot of negative thoughts and emotions and concentrate on pure pleasure.

I enjoy both private masturbation and shared, with my wife. We’ve been doing that for many years and it’s a very liberating experience. Masturbation is possibly the most personal, private activity we engage in, other than bathroom functions, and when you share your most intimate forms of pleasure with your partner, it opens up many doors. It brings self-pleasure out in the open and confirms that it’s not something to feel guilt over, nor that it’s some form of second-hand, inferior pleasure. Masturbation between couples is as valid and beautiful as any other form they share. Those who don’t share it don’t know what they’re missing.

It’s also enjoyable to share masturbation activity (real, virtual, textual, photographic) with others, especially those of the same gender. It gives you a sense of community and the opportunity to share so many feelings, opinions and ideas about a mutual joy.

So, that’s my story, and I’m sticking to it. Masturbation is something to celebrate and feel positive about. I’m convinced that those of us who enjoy loving ourselves are mentally healthier than those who have hang-ups about it.

I intend to go on indulging, celebrating and sharing till the day I die.

My wife hates how often I masturbate. – – Slate Magazine

Dear Prudence,

I have been married for seven years, but I am still troubled by how to speak openly about masturbation with my spouse. I masturbate pretty much every morning after getting up and every evening before I go to bed, unless I think my wife and I will make love. The problem is that my wife sees my masturbation as a declaration that she does not please me, which is not true. I enjoy our lovemaking, and I’d prefer to make love to her as often as I masturbate; she’s simply not interested in doing it that often. (Believe me, I’ve tried.) Moreover, she complains that I “take too long” and says she would be more willing if I were “normal” and didn’t last so long. My wife also has suggested there is something wrong with me for wanting to make love or masturbate as often as I do. I accept that I’ll never be able to make love to my wife as often as I would like, but how do I convey to her that masturbation is normal and that she shouldn’t see it as evidence that she’s inadequate?

via My wife hates how often I masturbate. – – Slate Magazine .

Edging and Denial…why they work!

A member of OnaniaSupport offered this:

There is an interesting article in Psychology Today which discusses the chemical effects of orgasm, and suggests that repeated, gentle stroking–without orgasm–may be the best way to stay in love. I have a passion for edging and denial,stroking for days without orgasm, and this would explain why.

“Both sensual Romans and sex-positive ancient Chinese Daoists recognized that sexual satiety shifts perception. Over two thousand years ago, Ovid, the elegantly earthy poet, wrote that the “cure for love” is to satiate oneself with orgasm. Want to stay in love? The earlier Chinese Classic of Su Nu states, “If one engages in sex without emission…exercising self-control and calming the passion, love actually increases.”

And there is an explanation for our addiction to masturbation:

“….We humans, of course, often don’t wait. We find it easy to boost sagging dopamine after orgasm. Some options help restore balance without throwing us back onto the dopamine roller coaster: friendly interaction, time in nature, meditation, exercise, and so forth. But many of us reach for stronger “medication” (higher dopamine surges). We gamble, spend money, grab junk food, drugs or alcohol, or fantasize about, click to, or engage in, more sexual stimulation.

“Bouncing from lows to new highs, we need never experience equilibrium again! However, as biologist Robert Sapolsky observed, there is a price for blasting our reward circuitry too enthusiastically in our efforts to counter the blues. “Unnaturally strong explosions of synthetic experience and sensation and pleasure evoke unnaturally strong degrees of habituation…. Our tragedy is that we just become hungrier.” In short, there are advantages to steering for equilibrium initially, rather than always reaching for more stimulation to cope.”

Frequent fertilization-driven sex is often followed by growing alienation.  However, daily stimulation WITHOUT orgasm can increase affection and bonding.  I have to say, if a girl wants to win my heart…edging and denial is definitely the way!

http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/cupids-poisoned-arrow/200908/the-passion-cycle

First night at ranch I had to watch pin dick hubby get humiliated as he tried to fuck wife!

First night at ranch I had to watch pin dick hubby get humiliated as he tried to fuck wife!

I was put in a chair next to the bed, she was telling him about me as they got undressed and climbed onto the bed. His cock was short AND thin, maybe four and a half inches long and not very round, I looked down and my cock in my hand suddenly looked mammoth.. She had him like her pussy for a bit, she wanted to hear what I would do to her with my big cock if i wasn’t such a jerk-off. …

My wife is intimidated by how often I pleasure myself.

Dear Prudence,
I have been married for seven years, but I am still troubled by how to speak openly about masturbation with my spouse. I masturbate pretty much every morning after getting up and every evening before I go to bed, unless I think my wife and I will make love. The problem is that my wife sees my masturbation as a declaration that she does not please me, which is not true. I enjoy our lovemaking, and I’d prefer to make love to her as often as I masturbate; she’s simply not interested in doing it that often. (Believe me, I’ve tried.) Moreover, she complains that I "take too long" and says she would be more willing if I were "normal" and didn’t last so long. My wife also has suggested there is something wrong with me for wanting to make love or masturbate as often as I do. I accept that I’ll never be able to make love to my wife as often as I would like, but how do I convey to her that masturbation is normal and that she shouldn’t see it as evidence that she’s inadequate?

—Illicit Self-Lover

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Married masturbator

a masturbator said:

I have been married for over 27 years to an attractive lady that has
always had a very low sex drive.  We made love only rarely ever since
the beginning so I masturbated a lot. In the beginning she gave me
regular handjobs several time a week. When I failed to get hard for her
she said she didn’t like jerking a limp dick so she began to refuse and
told me to just do myself, so I did. She thinks all guys do it from an
early age. When we would have sex she noticed the vaseline residue on
me and would ask if I had been masturbating. I always said yes and that
was the end of it. I finally began masturbating in front of her in bed
when she said no and refused to make love or even give me handjob. I
masturbate all the time now and we almost never have sex at all. She
doesn’t mind since she never liked it anyway. If we do have sex
together it’s only masturbating now, nothing more. I’m impotent and
can’t get an erection for intercourse or masturbation. I have been
masturbating limp for about 6 years now and edge all day long when I’m
home and she is at work. About once every 2 or 3 months she joins me
and we masturbate together.