The popular sex press seems to be ignorant of the real world of chronic masturbation and edging. They define the prolonged ecstatic masturbatory state as a “problem”.
But sometimes too much porn is a problem, and lately I’ve been noticing in my practice a new issue: men whose sex skills are suffering because of their propensity for porn and women who are noticing that their guys have gone from good in bed to, well, not so good.
How can too much porn affect your sex-skills?
First of all, it can deplete your libido and lead to a lack of mojo – if you’re masturbating frequently, you may end up being less into sex with your partner and not putting enough time into romance, foreplay and your connection with your partner. And your partner will notice. As men age it’s not only perfectly natural to experience longer refractory periods (the time between erections), but also an increased latency period (the time it takes to reach ejaculation). So in the past, you may have been able to masturbate regularly and have sex regularly, but if you’re masturbating more than you’re having sex, it’s time to stop “laying hands.”
Also, you may be developing an “idiosyncratic masturbatory style.” When a man masturbates, he is often applying significantly higher levels of pressure and friction than real intercourse provides. So, he may get used to a different kind of physical feeling. As a result, there are a lot of men who can only get past the point of no return via oral sex, or manual stimulation (usually their own), but can’t get there during sex anymore.
Also, with so many varieties of porn at their fingertips, men who get in the habit of having a steady flow of sexual novelty and intense visual stimulation, have a more difficult time reaching peak levels of sexual arousal with their real-world partners. They may get an erection, but they’re mentally not at peak arousal. They’re unable to focus fully on the sex they’re having and have become habituated to high levels of visual stimulation.
via Does Too Much Porn Mess with a Guy’s Sex Skills? – Sex on the Brain – Good in Bed.
If you ever suspected that podcasting is just another form of masturbation, you were right! These audio recordings feature both mental and physical masturbation –stream-of-consciousness essays composed during my (too) numerous masturbation sessions. A lot of the podcasturbations are of a personal nature, reflections on living with chronic masturbation addiction.
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