The Open Zipper Project: an oral history by chronic masturbators [periodic posting]

Note: click to see current recordings in the Open Zipper Project and the Wank Bank

 

Wanted: Men and Women to talk about themselves for an Oral History of Chronic Masturbation Addiction

Are you a chronic masturbator? Would you like to metaphorically “open your zipper” and share your story of living with chronic masturbation addiction? Would you like to tell complete strangers (safely and anonymously) about the most secret, most private, and most important thing in your life? And do it with your real zipper open and let your listeners know you are masturbating as you speak, perhaps even orgasming for them?

Onania . Org/asm is conducting the Open Zipper Project, an oral history of, by, and for chronic masturbators. By telephone I will interview you and record a frank, open, and revealing confession about your masturbation addiction. The recording will be posted to Onania . Org/asm in a public oral history archive. (See current Open Zipper Interviews)  

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Addiction to masturbation can spell trouble

 
From the web
The magazine says sex can be far from satisfactory for both partners if the man is compulsively given to masturbation, indicating that a problem like premature ejaculation can sneak in if self-pleasuring becomes a habit. In an interview to the mag, sex therapist Ian Kerner says mostly two 

Doctor: Pornography addiction may affect sexual performance

 
From the web
 explore the unknown world of sex and may lead to sexual self-gratification (read masturbation).  It can be addictive, meaning that even in a normal relationship, these persons may need to watch  For your boyfriend, it seems like an addiction; therefore, you may need to see a counsellor 

I can’t ejaculate during sex. Is it because I masturbate? | Life and style | The Guardian

Usually chronic masturbation results in erectile failures, but sometimes it causes problems with coital ejaculation.

I enjoy sex with my girlfriend but can’t ejaculate during sex. We have had sex six times and no matter how much I try I still can’t. Does my masturbation habit cause this?

 

…Your frequency of masturbation is probably not an issue; however, men who’ve become accustomed to self-pleasuring in a particularly rough way eg using high friction with a towel, sometimes have difficulty climaxing during intercourse, because no vagina feels like that.

via I can’t ejaculate during sex. Is it because I masturbate? | Life and style | The Guardian.

British patients are flocking to take part in ‘sex addiction’ recovery programmes – Infidelity, Love & Sex – The Independent

…Andy is in his late thirties now, a well-spoken, suited, high-flyer in the city. His frame is imposing, but the subject makes him vulnerable. He’s embarrassed, talking about his compulsive masturbation and the marked change in his personality, as time went on, from relaxed to angry. But he has found a way of speaking about it, when previously he refused to acknowledge how his life was meandering out of control. It was his girlfriend who confronted him – none of his friends know about his addiction, or the subsequent therapy he’s been undergoing for over two years. “There’s so much online; everyone talks about being anaesthetised – you see an amount of a certain subject and you become completely immune to it,” he says. “You don’t think about the person behind it, the impact, it’s there for your pleasure. That was the most worrying thing. I think it just leads you on to so many different avenues you wouldn’t even think about. The more you look at something, the more you think, ‘That’s boring, now I want to find something else’. You can end up in serious trouble.”

Andy had a routine. Every night, he’d come home from work and go online to look at pornography for a couple of hours before dinner. After dinner, he’d go out for a drink or to do sport, and then he’d log on just before bed – which often lasted until the early hours of the morning. The next day at work, he’d be exhausted – and then repeat the same activities when the working day was over and he’d find himself at home again. He stopped trying to have relationships with any emotional intimacy; he went out with someone for a year and manufactured so much travel and business work that he only saw her about six times before ending it….

via British patients are flocking to take part in ‘sex addiction’ recovery programmes – Infidelity, Love & Sex – The Independent.

Sex Makes You Smarter- Can ‘Virtual Sex’ Do The Same?

Great news for chronic masturbators: it makes you smarter, not stupid.

Here’s a question to ponder: If sex makes you smarter via changes in synaptic strength  following the act, can you get the same benefit from virtual sex, as long as your brain is convinced it is real at the time?  I’ll discuss this idea in a bit, but first let’s look at the methods and the data from the actual study.

via Sex Makes You Smarter- Can ‘Virtual Sex’ Do The Same?.

Masturbation Changed Male Full Body Example 17 » The Master Of Bation

This Male Full Body Analysis was written at the request of the owner of said body. A conversation took place on the internet where the individual stated he did not believe his body was changed by masturbation. He provided a picture of himself for analysis as a challenge, and asked for it to be analyzed. The post below is the answer to that request.

via Masturbation Changed Male Full Body Example 17 » The Master Of Bation.

Is Claiming You’re a Sex Addict Just an Excuse for Bad Behavior? | Sex and Intimacy

…So, all of that being said – it is my belief, as well as all sex addiction treatment professionals and those that accept sexual addiction as a valid diagnosis – living a life of secrecy (a “double life”) is not fun, NOR is claiming to be a sex addict an excuse for bad behavior; rather it is the acknowledgment that there is an aspect of one’s life they cannot control and they need treatment in order to regain what has been lost or displaced because of their addiction.

via Is Claiming You’re a Sex Addict Just an Excuse for Bad Behavior? | Sex and Intimacy.