The problem has persisted with the women I have been with since and I am finding while sex feels great, self stimulation is the only way to reach climax. While they all have said I was a good lover, not getting off during sex is a big drawback. Making them feel unattractive or hurting their self esteem.
via Self Stimulation is the Only Way I Can Ejaculate | Betty Dodson with Carlin Ross.
Let’s speculate on the impact that oxytocin release might have on masturbators. Our first masturbator is a teen who is jerking on his dick while he looks at a magazine full of naked women. As he ogles his favorite girl he blows his load all over himself. While his dick was busy spurting cum his hypothalamus was busy spurting oxytocin into his blood stream. Nature had intended that this hormone would cause our young masturbator to bond with his partner, but now it’s the centerfold that it burned into his brain.
Our second masturbator is lying naked on a bed while his naked older brother takes hold of his dick. He’s been looking forward to this moment for some time now. He thought that his parents would never leave but now he feels that intense pleasure that is masturbation. He watches his brothers cock gently sway with each stroke. Suddenly he sees his own little dick spewing out thick white cum. Out comes the oxytocin too! Nature had intended that this hormone would cause our young masturbator to bond with his partner, but now it’s the sight of a cumming dick that it burned into his brain.
I was at a site recently that spoke of the evils of pornography. They said “The women shown in porn come from a very narrow part of the wide spectrum of how real women look. They are young, they are thin, they have large breasts, and so on and so forth. In addition, these women may wear makeup from head to toe, they are filmed with lighting that hides blemishes, and the pictures may be air brushed or digitally altered after they are taken. The women in the pictures and videos do not look “as good” as what is sold to the public, and most women can’t even come close to looking like these women look. How can a man look at these false images of “sexual perfection” and not begin to think less of his wife?”
via Beatin-Off: Porn and unrealistic views of the female body.
in http://groups.yahoo.com/group/Pathetic_Masturbators/ masturbators wrote:
I am new to this group and I want to thank you for letting me join.
I am a masturbator.
I have always masturbated but I thought that when I got married it would stop. Wrong. I would start to mount my wife and as soon as my cock head penetrated her pussy, I would go limp. This went on for a long time in our marriage.
We tried watching porn. I would get quite an erection watching hung men take their huge penises and fuck these hot women.
I would roll over on my wife and as soon as my cock touched the opening of her pussy I would go limp.
She would let me manually stimulate her to orgasm and then I would masturbate myself.
She soon tired of this and one day brought another man into our bedroom. Her reasoning was that maybe if I saw some one else able to stay erect inside her I would be able to as well.
Well, I did get a hard erection watching him mount her and bring her to orgasm with his huge cock. However, I still had the same problem and when my penis touched her vagina, I went limp.
I have now resigned myself to the fact that I will always be a masturbator. Continue reading
Masturbation is something that nearly everyone has experienced in his/her life at least once. Masturbating a few times a week might not cast any long-lasting adverse effects on your body, but it becomes a huge issue when one becomes addicted to masturbation. In this situation, one cannot help himself from masturbating. This might result in embarrassing situations when one starts masturbating in a classroom, in the rest rooms of an office, or even at home when family tree members are present. Sexual education recommends breaking masturbation addiction before such complications arise, bringing long-term hurt to you.
Masturbation addiction is frequently associated with many side effects that include: premature ejaculation, decreased number of sperm per ejaculation, penile and urethral injuries, fatigue, loss of self-esteem, back pains, dragging sensation in the testes, brittle and fragile hair, and loss of apatite. This is why breaking masturbation addiction is advised by all physicians.
via Addiction To Porn | Benefits Derived from Stopping Masturbation.
But where does this leave me? I can cum in my hand. I can cum in Hers. I can save weeks worth of semen till I’m desperate to shoot my load, but still not cum in Her. What does that say? There seem to be two possibilities to me:
First is that Her body is the problem, Her cunt’s not tight enough, or something like that. But I’m not buying that. Her cunt feels fantastic.
The second, as mad as it seems, is that I just don’t get off on pussy any more.
Hi Betty!
I’m a 16 year old girl who has masturbated most of her life. I discovered my clit at a really young age (like 3) and have been masturbating nearly daily ever since. My family is pretty sexually liberal, so I have never been discouraged from my sexual self exploration. I recently saw your video on masturbating with too much pressure and how that can make it difficult to come during sex.
Considering how long I’ve been masturbating, I’ve built up quite a tolerance to clitoral stimulation and can only get off by using a lot of pressure and vigorus stimulation. I’m now really concerned that I might have a lot of difficulty having orgasms when I finally have sex. Is there any way to reverse the possible “resistance” I could have built up from years of intense self pleasuring?
via I’ve Built Up Quite a Tolerance to Clitoral Stimulation | Betty Dodson with Carlin Ross.