a masturbator said:
Mercy, I wonder how many of these "Is masturbation wrong" threads
I’ve read and posted to over the years in countless groups and other
places also. This poor horse has been absolutely beaten beyond
recognition. Yet, someone (was it you this time, Richard) who
started it up again? I have been masturbating regularly, often and
have continued masturbating for almost 48 years. I’ve done it
married, single, with my wife, without my wife in more ways and
places than I can even remember. It was fantastic pleasure the first
time I did it and it continues to be. This "is it wrong" business
has to be one of the most ridiculous ideas that has ever been
perpertrated on mankind or womankind. There is nothing, repeat,
NOTHING wrong with a man or a woman masturbating themselves to
orgasm and enjoying the pleasure it gives. If it’s interfering with
their sex life together there may be a problem, however, if it’s all
either of them have, so be it. You will not go crazy or grow hair in
the palm of your hand. You will not go blind. Most probably you will
experience a very high degree of ecstasy with the impending orgasm
that you will give yourself. Masturbate, masturbate, masturbate,
enjoy, enjoy, enjoy, alone, together, wherever and whenever. Let’s
talk about how we do it and how we love it and not if it’s right or
wrong. Maybe we can put this thread to rest.
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While I certainly agree that intellectually there is nothing wrong with
masturbation, there is a lingering emotional conflict in many of us. For me
it always results in a bit of "shame" that in itself is exciting, so I
continue to provide the "other" side of the debate, mainly for the little
guilty thrill it gives. (And fair warning, this won’t be the last.) For
those whom masturbation has no negative associations, feel free to ignore.
For the rest of us, we continue "processing" our childhood conditioning, and
having a jolly good wank doing it!
Also it’s good to remember that there are millions of people out there who
really are seriously conflicted about masturbation. Think of them with
compassion next time your penis feels so nice in your hand.
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It’s true that there are many people out there who are seriously conflicted about masturbation. There are also many more who are seriously conflicted about all kinds of sexual issues, let alone issues like war, poverty, hunger, injustice and seriously damaging the planet. Like all of us, I cannot carry the world. What I can do is offer support, friendship, and convey the positive and healthy aspects of masturbation which I have enjoyed over the years. If that helps just one person, then I have done some good, and maybe have done all anyone has a right to ask.
I won’t ignore the negative messages, as my experience tells me that masturbation is good, whereas shame and embarrassment are shackles others place on us only if we allow them to. So let’s accept that wanking is fun, and be positive about the horny group of perverts we all are, and not trip ourselves up on sombody else’s labels and guilt.