What’s the best way for women to have an orgasm « Getluvtips

If you don’t know exactly what it is you like or what it takes for you to reach orgasm, it’s a good idea to practise on your own.

For some people the very idea of stimulating themselves can seem worrying, or unappealing, or something to be ashamed of. It’s a good idea if women can rid themselves of these feelings.

Masturbation is a great way to lessen tension in your body. It’s a very safe way to have an orgasm. And it’s probably the best way to learn about how your body likes to be loved. . But masturbation, like most things, takes practice. And the only way to learn about your own sexual response is to try it……

If you have never tried masturbation, or you want to do it in such a way that will be more pleasurable and satisfying then it has been in the past, then you might need to plan how and when to do it, rather than leave it to chance. For a start, you need to ensure that you’re going to have adequate time to yourself and that you won’t be interrupted

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Yahoo group: Onania Support [periodic posting]

Announcing the Yahoo group Onania Support, a masturbator support community affiliated with Onania . Org/asm. If you are a chronic masturbator, you are cordially invited to join.

Support for People Living with Chronic Masturbation Addiction

OnaniaSupport is a supportive, affirming community of people living with chronic addiction to masturbation. The focus is on our lives as addicted masturbators, and the pleasures / conflicts / impacts related to our compelling habit. Unlike other pro- or anti-masturbation groups, OnaniaSupport is value-neutral and non-judgmental. It makes no assumption that masturbation addiction is inherently good or bad, or that chronic masturbators should seek to change their behavior. Each member is free to form and express his own opinions without fear of criticism or judgment.

In OnaniaSupport we freely share our masturbatory fantasies and techniques, including extreme excessive practices used to intensify autoerotic gratification. We explore our conflicts about the costs of masturbation addiction on career, family, friends, and life goals. We process residual feelings of shame, guilt, and humiliation that for some attach to chronic masturbation. We offer understanding, encouragement, and validation — both to those still struggling with their compulsions and to those finally reconciled to permanent and incurable masturbation addiction.

The group is primarily male in gender, from gay to straight in sexual orientation. Female chronic masturbators and partners of chronic masturbators are also welcome.

Please join at Onania Support. You may also subscribe for email-only (Yahoo ID not required) by sending an email to OnaniaSupport-subscribe@yahoogroups.com (be sure to state your age and gender and reference masturbation in your email to indicate you are not a spammer).


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Confessions of a Female Masturbator | Eden Cafe

My latest search was for one of the most mythical people I had sought yet; the female masturbator. It’s common to hear jokes or comments about male masturbation, but once the subject of female masturbation comes up, every woman in the room clams up faster than you can say “dildo”. My ambition was not only to find such a creature, but to learn the beginnings, the habits, and most importantly, the reason for the mystique surrounding the female masturbator.

via Confessions of a Female Masturbator | Eden Cafe.

Is Female Masturbation Really The Last Sexual Taboo? | The New Republic

Male self-pleasure came out of the bedroom (and into the kitchen) with Portnoy’s Complaint. But is female masturbation really the last remaining sexual taboo? Women are “as hidden as our clitorises,” writes Nancy Friday, the female sexuality pioneer, in the twenty-fifth-anniversary edition of My Secret Garden, her best-selling book about women’s sexual fantasies. In her research, Friday wrote, she found not a single woman who claimed never to masturbate. Yet, more than two decades after her book first appeared in 1973, she was still receiving letters from women thanking her for writing it because “I thought I was the only one.”

via Is Female Masturbation Really The Last Sexual Taboo? | The New Republic.

Polly has a climax [Open Zipper Project]

zipper Polly (yes, guys, a lady maturbator) provided this wordless but heartfelt celebration of her female masturbatory pleasures. Enjoy. She did.

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For the record, all opinions are those of the conversation participants and not necessarily those of Onania . Org/asm. The recordings are made with knowledge and approval of the participants. Click Open Zipper Project for more information on this series.

Is Female Masturbation Really The Last Sexual Taboo?

Most book parties are G-rated affairs. So I did a double-take at the invite in my mailbox from Taschen, the once-prestigious art publisher that now has what must be a more profitable sideline in erotica. Some of their recent XXX offerings include The Big Butt Book, The Big Penis Book (with an Anthony Weiner-esque cover shot), and now, the coyly titled La Petite Mort, an investigation of “the ultimate intimacy”: women masturbating. After taking pictures of call girls for their own advertisements, photographer Will Santillo got interested in the idea of “photographing real sexuality in an aesthetically defensible way,” explains Dian Hanson—formerly the editor of raunch magazines such as Juggs and Leg Show, now in charge of Taschen’s “Sexy Books” division. The third project in a sex trilogy that also includes Flagrante Delicto (photographs of couples having sex) and a series of fetish photographs, Santillo said La Petite Mort was the hardest to pull off. “You don’t walk up to a woman you just met and say, ‘How would you like to masturbate in front of the camera for me?’” he told Hanson.

via Is Female Masturbation Really The Last Sexual Taboo? | The New Republic.

The orgasm that lasts FOUR months

…..Daedone stresses that OM is not foreplay; it’s practised separately from sex and away from the bed and is not designed to induce orgasm, but to keep the woman on a plateau of sensation.

The way I read things, OM is a form of recalibration that prepares the body for better, more intense sex. It seems far-fetched until you consider how the intense practice of Pilates and stretches are an essential preparation for ballet.

Daedone believes most people don’t know the lightest touch can produce the greatest sensation in the female body and that the most important thing is stripping away the barriers to true feeling and becoming joyfully, guiltlessly connected.

The lights-on, talky-talky strategy is designed to help dismantle inhibitions….

via The orgasm that lasts FOUR months… and how achieving it involves keeping your clothes on and not turning out the lights! | Mail Online.

The Sex Positive Photo Project … San Francisco Bay Area: “I masturbate…” Day Thirty-One

My first memories of masturbation occur in water.

I would recline on my back in the tub, my legs spread under the facet. I used my toes to grip and gently nudge the temperature controls hotter or colder, teasing myself with the threat of scalding kettle water boiling-over, or shocking iceberg freeze. In my fantasies, hot was lava and I’d sink the back of my head underwater letting the rising flow spill into my ear canals and smother me in hot liquid magma while the burning branded my crotch. But cold was worse: it started with me being dragged kicking and screaming outdoors into the yard and sprayed down with a high pressure water hose for being very dirty. And then the fantasy would continue from there to nefarious situations…

via The Sex Positive Photo Project … San Francisco Bay Area: “I masturbate…” Day Thirty-One.

why it is natural for women to be the dominant sex.

Which explains why it is natural for women to be the dominant sex.

The way scientists have presented Stone-Age people to the public, isthat Stone Age men were brutes who dominated their women throughviolence. Yet this is disproved by the existence of the clitoris. Theonly function of the clitoris is to give women sexual pleasure and sogive her a desire to have sex with men. But if men were the dominantsex this wouldn’t be a consideration, as men would initiate allsexual encounters and could even rape women. So it wouldn’t matterif a women enjoyed sex or not, she still would get pregnant by men, sothe clitoris wouldn’t be needed, as what is not used, disappearsover evolutionary time.

So the existence of the clitoris does show us that women did initiatesex herself and could choose whom she had sex with. But another problemis that many women cannot reach orgasm with penetrative sex. The reasonis that the clitoris is on the outside of the vagina and for many womenthe penis doesn’t touch the clitoris. So the only way a man canbring these women to orgasm is stimulating the clitoris with his fingeror tongue. So what evolutionary pressure would bring about thissituation? That the penis is not always the best way to bring a womanto orgasm.

There is also the problem of timing. Men can quickly ejaculate inside awomen in a couple of minutes, but women themselves prefer long sensualsex play. So again for what evolutionary pressure brought about thesituation where the sexual timing of men and women are so different?

Human beings also it seems enjoy oral sex, but again in evolutionaryterms this shouldn’t happen, because this sex-act doesn’t resultin a women being fertilized. The same is true with homosexuality. Inevolutionary terms homosexuality shouldn’t exist, because sexbetween people of the same sex does not produce children. Which meansheterosexual people are far, far more likely to have children thanhomosexual people.

None of these things make sense if we think in terms that men were thedominant sex over the millions of years of our evolution. But they makea lot of sense if women were the dominant sex and she dominated men tothe degree she could demand that men pleasure them in whatever way shewanted.