frequent masturbators said:
I read with curiosity, while masturbating, the report on the side
effects of FREQUENT masturbation. Is “frequent” defined anywhere, by
anyone? Certainly what I consider frequent may not be what other men
consider frequent. My other amusing thought was: couldn’t those
symptoms also be the symptoms of “frequent” Nascar watching?
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Acceptable frequency is a personal question that each male (assisted by his guiding female, if any) must answer for himself. But here is one approach: determine how often you masturbate when there are no constraints of time or duty. Let’s call that your “natural frequency”. Your natural frequency might be a few times a week, once a day, or even many times a day. (If it is less than a few times a week, you are in no danger, and why are you wasting time reading messages in this group?)
Now whatever you natural frequency is, I say that is too frequent, and you should try to reduce it. You should indulge yourself not when you WANT to masturbate but only when you NEED to masturbate. How often is that? It depends on how badly you have damaged your will power through excessive masturbation. Distinguishing WANTS from NEEDS is difficult without a female guide. But we all know we don’t really NEED to masturbate as much as we do, don’t we? So let’s begin by masturbating a little less than our natural frequency, say 80%. That should be achievable for most of us, except for those utterly enslaved by their habits — they will need outside intervention.
Think of the pride, the self confidence, the sense of achievement if we can reduce our masturbation frequency. Our females will be so proud of us and praise our good behavior. We who make the attempt can encourage each other, and keep ourselves “on the wagon”. And when we fail — and we will fail — and slide back into our natural frequency, think of the delicious sense of naughtiness we will have earned for ourselves. The only thing more fun than masturbating is trying unsuccessfully not to masturbate.
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[what is the optimal rate?]
I think that is a personal decision that every male and his guiding female must take together. It should never be so frequent that a male takes masturbation for granted, as a right. Indulgence is a privilege to be earned by good behavior, and should not be allowed to interfere with his responsibilities. In no case should a male be allowed to masturbate as much as he wants too; he will always over-indulge if not restrained.
For males without females to guide them, the situation is more difficult and dangerous. I recommend creating a masturbation calendar, with times set aside for approved masturbation. Wearing a chastity device to protect your genitals from casual and accidental abuse may help regulate your masturbatory frequency. But few of us have the self discipline to use a chastity device consistently by ourselves. Realistically, unguided males are probably doomed.
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Thank you. I feel that those of us who have succumbed to this addiction, whether through ignorance or weakness of character, should try to warn other males before it becomes too late for them. A “moderate” amount of masturbation may be harmless, even healthy. But it is a slippery slope, and woe to him who indulges without restraint. The future will be a helpless compulsion, an unceasing obsession with pleasuring his own penis. In the end, no amount of self indulgence will satisfy his insatiable cravings. The chronic masturbator comes to dwell in a demi-world of constant sexual arousal, countless hours of intense and unnaturally prolonged sexual gratification, hovering in trance-like rapture on the edge of orgasm, and experiencing the ecstasy of ejaculatory release as often as he is capable. Speaking as one who has become a slave to this incurable and irresistible craving, I implore males to stop before it is too late. And ask that all females help the males in their lives, husbands, sons, cousins, friends, to regulate their unnatural male urges.
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. I sure do hope I don’t go blind or
something since I’ve already masturbated twice this
morning and I’m going to try to work a third session
in later today. Is something terrible going to happen
to me. Let’s see, I’ve been masturbating for about 47
years. Am I doing it too much? Is there any advice you
can give me?
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I regret to inform you that after masturbating for 47 years, your prognosis is very poor. The chance of recovery diminishes with age. The ease with which the aging male can attain orgasmic ecstasy through masturbation versus his failing powers for intercourse means he is likely to come to prefer masturbation over intercourse. That is why it is so important for females to assert control early and often. As far as what happens when a male masturbates excessively for extended periods, see for example the advice of Lord Baden-Powell, the founder of the Boy Scouts:
“The practice is called self abuse and the result is that the boy after time becomes weak and nervous and shy. … He gets headaches and probably palpitation of the heart, and if he still carries it on too far he very often goes out of his mind and becomes an idiot. … The use of your private parts is not to play with when you are a boy but to enable you to get children when you are grown-up and married. But if you misuse them while young, you will not be able to use them when you are a man. … Remember too that several awful diseases come from indulgence – one especially that rots away the inside of men’s mouths, their noses and eyes.”
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[how frequently may females masturbate?]
It is permissible for females to masturbate as often as they wish. They are not wasting their vital bodily substance with each act of self gratification as are males. When we ejaculate we spend the energy we should be devoting to our wives or our jobs for selfish unproductive pleasures. Women on the other hand can masturbate and the offer intercourse etc. to husbands with undiminished capability.
However, if a female WISHES to be guided or restrained, here is a blog I just discovered that has suggestions:
http://tantalism.org/her
