A ruined orgasm is a technique usually used by the stimulator who is dominating the stimulated during the sexual practice of orgasm denial. The object of orgasm denial is to deny the submissive an orgasm over a long period of time or to allow him or her to orgasm but make it unsatisfactory, awkward or even painful to experience therefore asserting the dominant position of the dominant in the sexual relationship.

This technique allows the physical release of sexual climax while denying or minimizing the satisfaction and pleasure associated with orgasm. The sub is stimulated to the moment that orgasm is inevitable. Stimulation is then stopped by breaking all physical contact with the genitals the moment orgasm begins (i.e. past the “edge”). Alternatively, the stimulator may bring up decidedly non-erotic or nonsexual topics during the orgasm, inflicting non-erotic pain, or stimulating the submissive with an unpleasant smell.

Another technique is to interfere with the orgasm by some sort of constriction. Ruined orgasms expanded to include such methods as Thumbing, Palming, Dictating, Thwacking and several more unpleasant ways for an orgasm to be disrupted or “ruined”. Many of these methods are merely disruptive physical actions that come after psychological or emotional trickery has taken place on the part of the dominant. Deception can play a key role in the effectiveness of a ruined orgasm.

When performed on a man, this practice allows the release of seminal fluid and physical sexual release, but keeps the man in a state of arousal because the orgasm is never psychologically “actualized”. Because stimulation is not continued through the orgasm, that man is left still in a state of want, which allows continued stimulation after a very brief period, unlike after the actualized or completed orgasm which may require a considerably longer refractory period.[citation needed]

When performed on a woman, the effect is similar, but without the ejaculation typical of the male response. The woman experiences orgasmic contractions (though typically less intense than with continued stimulation), but again, the orgasm is never psychologically “actualized”, and the orgasm is considered non-satisfactory. The woman so affected is thus kept in a state of want for a “full” orgasm. Because of the relatively short refractory period in most women compared to that of most men, this practice can often be done many times over a short period of time. If the woman is afterward given a “full” orgasm with stimulation continuing into the orgasmic contractions (and gently afterward, depending on the specific woman), the resulting orgasm is generally very powerful and lasts longer than would be typical.

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