Giving up control, Female Led Life: Caged vs Hard, Denial vs Orgasm

I seem to have opened a can of worms. Since I introduced Lo7 to this lifestyle we have learned together about Chasity and Denial. Lo7 although confident and naturally dominant she is also very Loving, nurturing and always wanting to please everyone. I had fantasies of Chastity and bought a cage. Lo7′s take on Chastity was that it was a punishment and did not like me to have it on much, Just as her take on Denial was that it was almost cruel! This was a relief to me because in my fantasies I was still hard thinking about being caged but actually being in the cage was frustrating and some what uncomfortable. Well My last Chastity post and a post by Miss Honey Has changed Lo7′s way of thinking. Last night as she worked her fingers on my hard cock she explained how she had been thinking that maybe Chastity was not a punishment but more of a training tool. She kept playing with me letting it sink in blocking any attempts by me to fondle her hard very responsive nipples… And maybe denial was OK because it sure kept my mind on her pleasure. Well Long story short she drove me to the edge many times not letting me cum and then would not let me touch her as she brought herself to an explosive orgasm, only letting me get her a warm cloth to clean up. I made one huge mistake, after we had cuddled up to each other she started stroking me saying ,I cant go to sleep without you cumming, I smiled and said I knew it! lo7 sat up and said Am I that predictable? I scrambled No I just knew you would want to please me. Her hand came off me as she lay back down. Come to think of it I like you better before you cum.. so go to sleep and don’t try anything . Well needless to say it was a long night and in the morning Lo7 was quick to start playing with me again. She teased then had me serve her tea.She said I had a choice, wear the cage today and be free and hard tomorrow or the opposite free and hard today cage tomorrow. I chose cage tomorrow because I am hoping she will let me cum tonight, so the strain of a hard on against the cage will not be as bad. Lo7 is very interested in denial and Chasity now and has asked me to publish this post to get some feed back on how other Domme women use these tools to “make better husbands”.

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PS A sarcastic thank you to Miss Honey for peaking Lo7′s interest in the cage

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Telecom New Zealand has cancelled an ad campaign asking fans of New Zealand’s national rugby team, the All Blacks, to abstain from sex for six weeks in order to help the team win the rugby World Cup in Auckland next month…..

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History of Masturbation

…Here are some examples antimasturbation devices:

1. Simple Bondage– For some, the simple answer was to tie the masturbators up and prevent them from touching themselves.

2. Leather-Jacket Corset– A corset made out of leather and steel to be used by boys, was created by Dr. Fleck in 1831. It included a metal penis tube and “a steel band riveted to the shield permanently and attached to the body with an encircling steel band in such a manner that it cannot be removed and prevented access to the testicles.” The doctor once reported that “it closes with greatest accuracy, fits to perfection, and the boy wears it continuously without having succeeded even once in reaching his genitals or pulling the machine away from his body so as to produce friction on his genitals.”

3. Spike-lined Ring– Created to prevent the nocturnal emissions and any display of nighttime sexuality, spike-lined penis rings were created in the 1950′s by doctors in Boston.

4. Spermatorrhea Bandage– These devices kept the penis tightly bound, thus making it impossible to have an erection….

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Aroused in a chastity cage

in http://groups.yahoo.com/group/OnaniaSupport/ a masturbator wrote: 

So the below is an excerpt from what I just sent to a group dedicated to caging
cocks, but as so many here are interested/do this, wanted to please get the same
feedback…

“On to the subject matter now directly, I wanted to get feedback on how  people
masturbate while in their cages or otherwise how they like to get  themselves
aroused enough for one’s penis to strain against the device,  trying in vain to
get hard.  Would love to hear your stories.  I’m  sending this as I’m finding
now the real pleasures and frustrations of  getting myself this aroused,
especially as I deliberately watch porn and  read dirty stories and fantasize.
I touch myself all over a lot more  now, something common from what I hear.  I
sometimes hold the device by  where the key holds it and I shake the whole thing
to provide  stimulation to the penis and a sense of more interactivity, this is
also  a less frustrating position.

Hard to type this as currently very aroused.

And that’s the other thing, arousal in the cage is amazing, the attempt  and
failure at being hard makes me feel so verty very aroused, it’s  almost like
when you’re near orgasm, sort of vaguely.  Anyway,it’s so  fucking intense.  So
in a way masturbation is so much better, at least  right now when it’s novel.

But it’s also so frustrating.  Can’t of course get hard actually.  Last  night
got so aroused and got myself so hot that the penis was holding  the whole cage
up at an angle such as 45 degrees, although from the  bottom side (so in other
words if you think of the traditional degrees  as being measured from the
stomach to wherever the line the cock is  making, this is really being measured
from the legs upward due to the  cage holding the penis down naturally).

Anyway, that’s such a strange erotic feeling, especially when knowing  thereis
no release.  Wife sleeping now adn anyway she’s busy tomorrow so  I dont’ want
to pester her for the key and anyway just for this first  time it’s only a
minimum wait until Saturday night.  Although I do see  why the more attention
thing, more wanting to touch, as one hopes the  wife will get frisky enough to
break out the key.

So a bunch of newbie notes….interested in your experiences around this  topic
of deliberate arousal and masturbation when locked up.  Oh, re  that
masturbation part, have found a nice and somewhat relieving method  of one hand
on each ball cupping from under and kneading forward.  Feels  kind of like
“regular” masturbation especially as so close to the  penis…yet so far, so
frustrating.  ”

Will add that I am staying home today largely to keep myself aroused and wrapped
in feeling this way.  Last night was an interesting “masturbation”/arousal
session.  Strange not to actually be masturbating yet getting so aroused.

A masturbator in chastity

in http://groups.yahoo.com/group/OnaniaSupport/ a masturbator wrote: 

Cross-posting a bit as I put this on the cb-3000 listserv, but since I started

discussions here on this figured I’d also post here and some might be
interested.

So now it’s official – 7 days in chastity minus 10 hours on one day (had  a
doctor’s appointment, and note was working and neither erection nor  touching at
all during that time) and minus like 15 minutes a few days ago for  thorough
cleaning and refitting.   If you’d asked me a week ago I  wouldn’t have expected
this!  Wife is still holding the key and has made  no offer, just said (with
humor but without qualification) “right,”  when I joked that having done
something little thing wrong earlier  (nothing much) and therefore “that’s
another day of chastity.”
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Denying Thumper

This blog started way back in October of 2008, and it has kept going strong! It chronicles the very personal and erotic journey of Thumper, a man who is devoted to his wife of 11 years and exceptionally turned on by male chastity. These blog entries discuss the physical, emotional, and intellectual sides of prolonged sexual frustration and management. He also discusses practical information like how to choose clothing to conceal chastity devices, and how to address hygiene concerns. I love the tone of this particular blog and want to share an excerpt: “This is the game we play, right? The ‘oh god I want to so bad (but not really)’ game. I mean, I really do do want to fuck her, but more than that, I want her to tell me I can’t. I want to feel the desire flame and burn in me. I want to feel that I have no control over my own sex. She knows it, I know it. We play the game. It’s pretty awesome, actually.” I don’t know about you, but that seems pretty darn hot to me! Thumper also writes helpful and thorough reviews of chastity devices including the CB-6000, Stealheart, Jail Bird, PA-5000 and more. Hot, honest, and intelligent! – Vamp

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Uh-oh, newbie didn’t make it…

in http://groups.yahoo.com/group/OnaniaSupport/ a masturbator wrote:

Hey guys and girls,

Well, I failed on day twelve, this past Saturday, and had a spectacular
cum. Of course, I feel badly that I didn’t even make it two weeks, but
I will certainly start the clock again. I guess I’m going to have to
find a device of some sort, or I will never make it any significant
length of time given how much I like to wank! What was amazing was how
sexually charged I was during the time I was denying myself an orgasm.

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