Dear Alice,
I play tennis at a high level in India. But I masturbate and somehow my friends have come to know and tease me on it. I wanted to know does masturbation have any bad effects and especially on sportspeople? Please reply my question as I feel very guilty after doing it.
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Most everybody (speaking of you who will admit to it) is doing it, so why is it so difficult to talk about? Well, we’re talking now — about masturbation.
We do realize that sexuality exists from birth to death, right? There is no specific age which indicates the beginning or the end for our sexual lives. As soon as infants can reach, they touch their genitals with appreciation and fascination. We see toddlers rocking and rubbing on their toys with a distant look in their eyes. Teenagers spend countless hours in the shower or bathroom learning about their bodies. Adults, whether in or out of relationships, are taking the time for self pleasure. Elderly folks are looking for ways to gratify themselves even in the convalescent homes. So why is this still an embarrassing topic? Do you have difficulty discussing it? Are you squirming right now? More importantly, have you educated your children in a healthy, open way? Do you and your partner discuss or share this experience? Women are more likely to masturbate with their partner than a man is. Why is this so? Social boundaries? Old myths you still believe? Were you told that if you touched yourself sexually you’d go blind?
via As You Desire: Taking Pleasure Into Your Own Hands | A News Cafe dot com.
Let’s walk through those five steps in regards to a touchy topic: masturbation.
1. Affirmation. Children need validation about their questions, concerns and feelings.
If you find your son alone, watching TV with his hands nonchalantly down his pants, you can start the conversation by saying, “I know it feels good to touch yourself.”
2. Information.Children need clear and concise explanations.
Guide your children and give them the facts. Studies show that 95 percent of adult males and 89 percent of adult females masturbate. Also, dispel arousing myths. No, hair won’t grow on palms that masturbate; and no, masturbation doesn’t cause blindness.
3. Value clarification. Every family’s beliefs differ, so clearly explain yours.
Some parents may approve of self-pleasuring at any age, while others encourage reserving sexual feelings for married life. It’s important for parents to know their own beliefs, and discuss it with their partners before conveying values to their children.
4. Limits. It’s a parent’s responsibility to teach right from wrong.
Depending on family standards, it can be as simple as saying, “It’s okay to touch yourself,if you’re doing it in your room.” Another parent may counsel, “Wait to arouse sexual emotions until marriage.”
No matter your opinion on the topic, teach children to shun pornographic materials. Today’s youth can easily access pornography via the Internet; but degrading sexual images quickly mutate into damaging addictions.
5. Anticipatory guidance. Proactively anticipate children’s needs.
It’s easier to initiate an open, positive, two-way dialogue about masturbation before finding a bottle of lotion stashed between the sheets.
It’s time for “the sex talk” – How to teach sexuality without shame – Ask a Local Doctor
Many men like to masturbate with some kind of lubrication and others don’t bother. One factor to consider is whether or not you’re circumcised. If you were never circumcised then you probably don’t need lubrication as the uncircumcised hood that covers the head of your penis protects it from being abraded by movements that cause friction.
If you’re circumcised, you can either “go dry” or “go wet.” In the dry technique, you either grip your penis and make the most of the mobility of the top layer of skin (most effective if the skin is somewhat loose), or you grip lightly and slide your fingers across the surface of your penis. However sometimes dry masturbation creates too much friction and makes the penis feel numb. For this reason, many guys prefer to masturbate “wet” — they use lubrication.
more via Cam4 blog | Masturbation – To “Go Dry” or “Go Wet”.
Now over to the boys, who present an entirely contrasting issue. My main concern is this: How often can you beat the bishop without becoming a one-handed, sore-dicked, sun-deprived psycho? Don’t get me wrong — I understand how playing a little game of pocket pool in class might pass the minutes, but do yourself a favor and set some log flogging boundaries. For example, you know that chick you’ve been jerking off with for the past month is finally going to put out tonight; now would be an acceptable time to beat your meat. Or, you’re stressed out about an upcoming final; also a suitable occasion to take your dog for a walk. You start the day off with an extended shower session or some alone time in the evening opens up before bed; go ahead buddy, pump that python.
Just remember to preserve the sacredness of your pipe cleaning tradition, or it will cease to be special. More specifically, does 0-4 times per day sound reasonable? And girls, how about squeezing in some rubbing it out alone time at least once a week? I promise you there is nothing healthier or more natural — in moderation, of course.
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An interesting application to synchronize your masturbation stroking. Good for edge training.
Sexuality is an urge, a desire, an appetite and a want. It’s not a need. It’s not something we must have to sustain life. It’s much like other wants we have. We may want chocolate, rich desserts and other sweets, but we don’t need them. If we overindulge in these types of foods, they become destructive. We have to use them in moderation and within normal, healthy boundaries.
There are also healthy limits and boundaries we should place around our sexual appetites. When we exercise our sexual desires responsibly within a healthy, long-term committed relationship, we can experience our greatest happiness. If we don’t restrain our sexual desires and activities, we can lose time, relationships, happiness, respect, employment, sleep, and contract terrible diseases—some that can even kill us! Controlling appetites is really not so unusual, we do it all the time with many things. It doesn’t mean we don’t have these desires, it just means we must direct, manage, limit, regulate and use them wisely.
via Redirect Your Sexual Urges to Achieve Your Highest Goals.
Masturbation addiction is an act where a person masturbates compulsively. This addiction is so overwhelming that a person can’t stay without it and in a large way is the base or paves the way for other forms of sexual addiction. Masturbation addiction may begin when viewing pornography or simply when people conjure vivid mental images and arouse themselves at the drop of a hat.
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Masturbation Addiction
What is Masturbation Addiction?
There is no standard definition for over-masturbation or excessive masturbation. Masturbation is considered healthy form of releasing sexual feelings until or unless it starts hampering your daily life.
If masturbation becomes a habit, it’s performed on a daily basis, it hampers the daily emotional, behavioral and psychological functioning of an individual. And leads to emotional and psychological stress which manifests as physical symptoms, it can be determined to be an addiction.
What are the symptoms?
The following are symptoms seen in cases of masturbation becoming addiction. If majority of symptoms are present than a person is suffering from the same:
a. Performed on daily or most of the days of a week
b. Masturbation might be followed by guilt.
c. Constant unsuccessful attempts to stop the habit.
d. Even a minor form of sexual stimulation can lead to the act.
e. An individual spends quality time on daily basis thinking about the same.
f. An individual cannot concentrate on daily tasks as preoccupied with thoughts about the same.
g. An individual postpones or cancels other assignments to be able to perform it.
h. Increased time is spent searching for sexually arousing material.
i. Decreased social interaction because of fear related to the same.
j. Sleep and appetite disturbance are seen due to the stress levels
k. An individual cannot control himself from performing the habit, even thou he is experiencing sleep, appetite and sexual problems due to the same.