As You Desire: Taking Pleasure Into Your Own Hands | A News Cafe dot com

Most everybody (speaking of you who will admit to it) is doing it, so why is it so difficult to talk about? Well, we’re talking now — about masturbation.

We do realize that sexuality exists from birth to death, right? There is no specific age which indicates the beginning or the end for our sexual lives. As soon as infants can reach, they touch their genitals with appreciation and fascination.  We see toddlers rocking and rubbing on their toys with a distant look in their eyes.  Teenagers spend countless hours in the shower or bathroom learning about their bodies.  Adults, whether in or out of relationships, are taking the time for self pleasure.  Elderly folks are looking for ways to gratify themselves even in the convalescent homes.  So why is this still an embarrassing topic?  Do you have difficulty discussing it?  Are you squirming right now?  More importantly, have you educated your children in a healthy, open way?  Do you and your partner discuss or share this experience?  Women are more likely to masturbate with their partner than a man is.  Why is this so?  Social boundaries?  Old myths you still believe?  Were you told that if you touched yourself sexually you’d go blind?

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OpusPenes: Wankin and prayin…

… My early addiction to MASTURBATION is directly responsible for who I am today. A chronic, compulsive, fucking,  member of the Dark Lord’s League of  Cockmongers dedicated to sucking, fucking, and jerking for HIS glory. And, one more thing, I FUCKING love every minute of it! I remember as a young Catholic guy running to confession on Saturday afternoons and confessing my ‘sins of impurity.’ “How many times,” the priest would ask? And my reply was always the same, “How many days did I say since my last confession? That many.” Oh. he would naively absolve me and send me away with Three Our Fathers and Three Hail Mary’s as penance. I would quickly ramble them off and then run home to the garage where I kept my “hand drawn” porn pictures and JERK OFF on the gravel floor….

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Dylan’s Exam | Speculum Pages Rebirth

In less than a minute, Dylan’s legs began to quiver. The doctor picked up the specimen jar with his left hand and reached under and around Dylan’s waist. He pried the teenager’s rigid penis away from its position against the boy’s slight covering of pubic hair, and inserted the glans into the wide-mouthed jar. He held it that way and continued the massage. Dylan let out a grunt and Dr. Rosen felt the boy’s ass clamp down tightly against his finger. His young penis jerked repeatedly, and the doctor could feel the jets of semen hitting the walls of the jar. Dylan went limp. If it hadn’t been for Dr. Roesn’s arm, the boy would have collapsed onto the table. The prostate massage had caused him to have the most intense orgasm of his life. The doctor eased his arm and the specimen jar out from under Dylan and gently let the boy down.

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Meanings – MY NAME IS NOT JACK

I see three specific meanings that we generally apply to the word, “masturbation.” One contextual, one an objective action, and one euphemism.

And of course there are many more. This is, after all, the most common sex our species practices, so there are myriad applications and twists on the word, but I have a theory that a good 90% of us think of these three general meanings when we refer to masturbation. Here’s my grand theory:

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Booming sex trade begins to diversify – The Local

“Sex work is slowly becoming more similar to other professions,” she told the paper.
Red light district jobs are becoming as specialised as those in other fields, she said.
While some prostitution has become concentrated in large high-end “wellness” brothels such as Berlin’s Charlottenburg district Artemis – which boasts a pool, sauna and buffet – other establishments are focusing on the controversial practice of “flat-rate” prices.

Booming sex trade begins to diversify – The Local

Therapy Today – The Porn Trap

… Research shows that, like compulsive gambling and shopping, porn use can lead to a ‘process addiction’, in which a person becomes addicted to a set of behaviours (eg consuming porn) that, in turn, powerfully alter brain chemistry. The internet and other electronic devices allow porn users to click through a never-ending stream of stimulating material as they look for just the right porn site, the sexual activity of interest, or the ultimate fantasy partner. Like a carefully calibrated slot machine, it rewards only intermittently, compelling the user to stay engaged and not give up. Users can end up looking at porn for longer and longer periods, often seeking riskier content to ‘hit the jackpot’ of landing on an extremely stimulating image.

Porn wasn’t just operating like a drug – it was operating like a designer drug, able to give the user multiple types of results: novelty, excitement, escape, mastery, and (with orgasm) relaxation. All the new information about porn we were gathering helped explain why people of all ages and from all walks of life could develop such strong attachments to porn that they craved it compulsively, couldn’t control their use, and couldn’t stop, despite negative consequences….

via Therapy Today – The Online Magazine for Counsellors and Psychotherapists.

It’s time for “the sex talk” – How to teach sexuality without shame – Ask a Local Doctor

Let’s walk through those five steps in regards to a touchy topic: masturbation.

1. Affirmation. Children need validation about their questions, concerns and feelings.
If you find your son alone, watching TV with his hands nonchalantly down his pants, you can start the conversation by saying, “I know it feels good to touch yourself.”

2. Information.Children need clear and concise explanations.
Guide your children and give them the facts. Studies show that 95 percent of adult males and 89 percent of adult females masturbate. Also, dispel arousing myths. No, hair won’t grow on palms that masturbate; and no, masturbation doesn’t cause blindness.

3. Value clarification. Every family’s beliefs differ, so clearly explain yours.
Some parents may approve of self-pleasuring at any age, while others encourage reserving sexual feelings for married life. It’s important for parents to know their own beliefs, and discuss it with their partners before conveying values to their children.

4. Limits. It’s a parent’s responsibility to teach right from wrong.
Depending on family standards, it can be as simple as saying, “It’s okay to touch yourself,if you’re doing it in your room.” Another parent may counsel, “Wait to arouse sexual emotions until marriage.”

No matter your opinion on the topic, teach children to shun pornographic materials. Today’s youth can easily access pornography via the Internet; but degrading sexual images quickly mutate into damaging addictions.

5. Anticipatory guidance. Proactively anticipate children’s needs.
It’s easier to initiate an open, positive, two-way dialogue about masturbation before finding a bottle of lotion stashed between the sheets.

It’s time for “the sex talk” – How to teach sexuality without shame – Ask a Local Doctor