During his second marriage, a man we’ll call Walter Logan had three or four affairs a year, every year, throughout the entire decade he and his wife were together. When the Vancouver lawyer wasn’t screwing around or indulging in pornography, he masturbated several times a day : at the office, on his lunch hour, or in the washrooms of his friends’ homes when he was out for dinner.
Looking back now, the 43-year-old says it didn’t even occur to him that he could be addicted to sex. He wasn’t hiring prostitutes or stopping in at massage parlours—behaviours that, in his mind, signalled a problem. Seeking out women to fuck behind his wife’s back, on the other hand, was more the pursuit of a “sensual vacation”.
some good masturbation photos
Just got back from my friend Jerxalot’s place. He’s a total chronic masturbator, too. I went over after work so we could masturbate our penises together. We were only able to bate for a little while (my fault) but it was very intense. He can popper up and goon with the best of them. His bator dong is huge and he lives to masturbate it, just like I do.
Compulsive masturbation sounds like fun, but trust me it’s not. As with any addiction, too much intense stimulation dysregulates dopamine. Results include becoming desensitized to life’s subtler pleasures, such as the charms of normal partners, and, at the same time, becoming extremely hypersensitive to any cues the brain has rewired itself to associate with “relief.” The user’s brain constantly scans the environment for any sign of sexual stimuli that would facilitate, in this case, masturbation to orgasm. Tolerance builds, making the pursuit of more stimulating materials mandatory to relieve the misery of withdrawal.
This combination of effects can make the world look gray. It is quite normal for men caught in this cycle to feel social anxiety around others, depression, despair, apathy, and so forth. Until they “reboot” their brains, life seems meaningless, but for the single-minded pursuit of hotter stimuli. Ironically, porn does not even ease sexual frustration, except in the very short-term…sometimes. It’s not uncommon for users to binge with orgasm after orgasm because they simply cannot scratch their itch successfully. (Intense highs cause intense lows, and a desire for more.)
Often users don’t realize they are hooked or what they’re passing up until they unhook from frequent porn use and give their brains a chance to return to equilibrium. The lengthy withdrawal required to achieve this can be so agonizing (shakes, insomnia, despair, cravings) that many feel trapped.
Sometimes men develop an "idiosyncratic masturbatory style," as I mentioned before. When a man masturbates, he is often applying significantly higher levels of pressure and friction than real intercourse provides. So, he may get used to a different kind of physical feeling. As a result, there are a lot of men who can only get past the point of no return via oral sex, or manual stimulation (usually their own), but can’t get there during sex anymore.
for fans of public masturbation
courtesy of Masterjerker »
Some time ago I posted a single photo of me using my fleshlight. I’ve somewhat neglected it for a while, it’s just seemed like a lot of effort to get it out, ready and to clean up afterwards.
A few weeks ago I went on a short trip and had the foresight to bring it along with me. With nothing but time to enjoy and an awesome hotel room, I made excellent use of it.
masturbator Ken W recollects his introduction to sex:
When she was finished, she took my tight hairless nut-sac in one hand and started squeezing and rolling my balls around inside it. And then she started to masturbate me again with her other hand. And as she was moving my foreskin up and down on my cock she asked me, “Does it feel nice when I rub it like this?” Well all I can remember was getting more excited by the second as a strange new feeling was building up inside my cock and I think I whispered in a shaky voice, “it’s starting to feel funny aunty.” When I said that she said, “It’s OK sweetie, very soon some thick white sticky liquid will shoot out on the towel and you will feel so much better.”