a masturbator wrote:
I am glad I found this group, I have joined others in the last few
months (onania, edgingdenail etc) but this seems to be more my
niche,I am very much a long term masturbator and have been looking
for a place to share my sessions and get new ideas. I masturbate even
though I do get a regualar bout of sex from my girlfriend and even
when I was married I bated a lot. Just like it. I love long sessions
of just pure bliss where at times I lose my sense of where and what
is going on. I don’t enhance the experiance with drugs or alchol I
just love the bate. Recently I had a tremedous bate session which for
me was very long lasting 5 hours, I had posted a report on it in
another forum but this forum seems far more appropriate for it. I am
providing it below to share with those I feel share my passion. I
usually bate on Saturdays and Sunday mornings and am always looking
for those who care to cam and edge for more than a few minuites. But
I digress so heres last Saturdays bate session, enjoy:
Well I am a long time masturbator and a on again off again member of
various edging groups. I began at the age of 10, and as you can
Fleshlight Online Blog » Intercourse Style Masturbation With Couch Cushions.
How Long Does Recovery Take-
“How long does it take to break out of pornography addiction.” The answer is—”It’s different for each individual.” There are so many physical, mental and emotional factors and variables that play a part in this addiction, the recovery process and time table. Knowing that everyone’s situation is different, we designed the Candeo program to be as universal and inclusive as possible. We also designed it to work in harmony with all of the people who might be involved in an individual’s recovery journey—a therapist, counselor, spouse, parent, clergy, etc.
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Does this describe your attempts to stop masturbating?
…The Avoidance Cycle
When it comes to bad habits and addictions, people typically use one primary strategy in their attempt to break free—avoidance through willpower.
When they feel an urge to indulge in unwanted sexual outlets, most individuals who are trying to break free of the behavior, attempt to force the thought or urge out of their mind and avoid the situation. All of us have heard the traditional advice, “You just need to try harder.” This is the worst advice there is because it usually plunges the struggling individual into what we call the Avoidance Cycle.
What happens when you try to force a thought out of your mind? For instance, right now I don’t want you to think about a big, bright, yellow school bus. No matter what, DO NOT think about that bus! Of course, the more you try to fight and keep the image out of your mind, the more it forces its way in. In psychology we call this an intrusive thought. Continually attempting to force the same intrusive thoughts, urges or feelings out of your mind can hopelessly plunge you into the Avoidance Cycle.
In the Avoidance Cycle, the struggling individual fights the sexual thoughts and urges and does everything he can to resist them. But they just continue nagging at him and trying to force their way in. Finally, worn out from the constant battle, he gives in and indulges in the same old sexual outlets. Temporarily, he feels relief—he doesn’t have to fight the urges anymore. But then, after the experience—the “rush”—is over, once again all of the negative emotions set in. He makes a new vow—“That’s the last time I will ever do that!” And he heads in to the Avoidance Cycle all over again.
After years of being trapped in this cycle, many people simply resolve themselves to their sexual habits—“Why bother trying. I’m never going to get past this. I might as well just give in and stop fighting.”
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Chastity Device Reviews- The CCS&S Scale « The Edge of Vanilla
Some of you might be surprised that I didn’t mention Security right at the beginning. That is because, based on everything that I’ve read in the last ten years from guys describing their own experiences, if a device is not comfortable or convenient, then they aren’t going to wear it anyway, so the security is moot. By Security, I’m referring to whether or not you can masturbate while wearing the device, and if so, how successfully. While presumably any device will prevent intercourse, many allow some (most?) men some degree of manipulation to the point of orgasm (or at least, something that allows an ejaculation of sorts). For example, the Birdlock failed here because the squishy silicone that made it so comfortable allowed me to manipulate myself enough to have a rather pleasant orgasm. The hard polycarbonate plastic of my CB3000 and CB6000 obviously prevent that, however I need to add the KSD-G3 device to keep from being able to pull out. Other people rely on using tighter cuff rings or opt to get a piercing so they can anchor the end of their penis to the cage.
New masturbator social network
The B8M8 Network a place for men from around the world to share resources and information relating to masturbation and porn. We all appreciate a good wank, and at the B8M8 Network, we believe that this can be shared between guys without embarrassment or fear. Members share media in the Social Network, chat, communicate, find other men for friendship and often meet other men to enjoy porn and a good stroke. We welcome gay, bi, straight and curious men, and we don’t fixate on the labels. You can limit your enjoyment to talking about wanking, or agree to meet other guys, it’s entirely up to you.