This week’s San Francisco Chronicle column is one of my favorites of the year; it’s called Sex Toys That Will Change Your Life Violet Blue: Can a sex toy change your life? For many, the answer is yes. A short while back I idly asked people who follow me on Twitter what sex toy changed their lives. The question duplicated on my Facebook page and the responses were overwhelming. So many people answered me that I couldn’t take it all in right away; I had to go back and page through the replies — from which emerged some very definite items that had created pivotal experiences for people. The thing is, orgasm is a bodily function, right? Like breathing, eating, etc. But once you have an experience with that function that is about pleasure, it’s like going from navigating a dark room with a flashlight to having the lights turned on. And suddenly, you can see so much more. Being is the room is a fuller experience, and so much more worth it.
Masturbation – over masturbation
Expert: David Carney – 10/25/2006
I am a 30 year old male. Since about the age of 15 I have constantly masturbated 2-3 time a day. I have chronic back, testicle and joint pain. I have weak erections and a poor seamen volume. I have read that there are side effects to over masturbating, including, headaches, eye floaters, hair loss, impotence and pelvic pain. All of which I have, but only on websites that try to sell you some remedy in a pill. What are the real side effects of over masturbating?
I am going to get help for the masturbating as I can’t stop myself. Will abstaining completely from masturbation help?
I think it is safe to say that masturbating 2 or 3 times every day is excessive. Thin, low vulume semen, testicle pain and chronic fatique are tertainly symptoms of excessive masturbation. There can be others, but usually when a person gets the masturbation in control, say even 3 to 5 times per weekor 7 times occaisionally probably would help you to feel much better. If you can abstain for a 2 or 3 week period it would certainly help you.
Perhaps some of you think that masturbation is a poor substitute for screwing. This view holds that masturbation is not real sex, but simply a way of relieving sexual tension until the masturbator has an opportunity for genuine sex. And then there are those unfortunate few who can’t seem to connect with the opposite sex and are condemned to a life of solitary masturbation.
However not everyone would agree with this point of view. In fact, some would assert that masturbation is a form of sex at least as rewarding as intercourse with the opposite sex. I, for one, have on occasion masturbated when partner sex was an alternative (see Partner Masturbation ). I’ve also had partner sex and subsequently masturbated later the same day.
Masturbation offers several advantages over partner sex. The most obvious perhaps is that you can get yourself off almost anytime without having to connect with another human being. I know of this personally having spent many years without the company of a woman. I was nevertheless able to have thousands of quality orgasms. When I got married to my ex-wife it would have seemed that all of that was over. Indeed, my masturbation did slow up for awhile. I especially enjoyed the fact that she had a kinky streak. However the frequency of our intercourse dwindled and soon I was back to having sex with my hand.
more Masterjerker- Masturbation and Screwing
a masturbator said:
As bckground let me just say that I began playing with myself as
early as I can remember. By the time I was 5 I was getting stiffies
watching the teen girls at the corner candy store. I would always
hang out there hoping to see a bra, or braless boob through the
sleeve of some girl, etc. I vaguely remember them tugging my pants
and touching my little hardon, saying that it showed promise. All I
know is that I felt really good.
I beat-off to porn and imaginary girlfriends until I was 24 years old. Then, as if by some miracle, a girl had sex with me. This was really great, and we did it quite a few times. But in the end she dumped me, telling me that I was only interested in sex. I was interested in sex, but that wasn’t really all there was to it.
So I went back to masturbating, or should I say, I went back to only masturbating, since I had really never stopped. I did have a few more opportunities to have sex with girls and now I wasn’t about to miss out. Then I got together with my ex-wife (although she wasn’t an ex- at first).
The first time we were in bed together I was really hot on laying her. We both got naked and were starting to get it on when she wrapped her legs around me, grabbed my cock, and started stroking it. It felt so good, I couldn’t tell her to stop, but at the same time I really wanted to screw her. I tried to hold back by orgasm. But then suddenly I thought about how good she was at jerking me off. She must have been experienced at masturbating guys. As soon as those thoughts entered my mind I blew my load all over her hand and my stomach.
Masterjerker- Partner Masturbation
a masturbator said:
I know I am far down a slippery slope, and there is very little chance I
will ever recover my normal manhood
You have your normal manhood, good buddy: you get a hard on and you can
masturbate to orgasm. All your moving parts are in perfect working order. It’s
not about Viagra, because what you need to stimulate is not your cock but your
Have you heard of the Coolidge Effect? President Coolidge and his wife were
visiting a chicken farm. They split up for the visit in order to save time.
Mrs Coolidge was shown a rooster and was told that it could perform at least
fifty times a day. Her comment was "Please tell the President."
When The President arrived at the rooster’s pen, the guide relayed the story
about the rooster’s prowess and Mrs Coolidge’s comment. The President paused
for a moment, then asked: "Always with the same hen?" "No, Mr President,
with fifty different hens", to which the President replied: "Please tell Mrs
In other words, my friend, to remain sexually active, humans need a constant
stimulus. Unlike other animals, we do not have a limited sexually active
season. We want to be sexually active all the time. So, to make that possible,
we must add the magic ingredient (stimulus) called "imagination" to sustain
our sex drive. With masturbation, it is easy to do so.: our fantasies are
endless and our cocks react accordingly. With a partner in sexual intercourse, it
is difficult.because the same old grind is the same old grind.
That’s the problem. I leave you to work out the solution. More hens? Same
hen, different stimuli? Me, I just stick to wanking these days.
A masturbator said
I was never found out but I did get kicked out of school because of my
chronic masturbating. When I was 15 my mother decided to rejoin the
workforce. Being an only child, this meant I could take a day off
school without my parents knowing. Most days the desire to spend the
day at home naked and wanking was too much to resist, and for most
weeks I would turn up at school only 1 or 2 days. By second term the
school refused to re-enroll me due to non-attendance.