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Orgasm denial for treatment of male impotence

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I am a married male totally addicted to masturbation and no longer able to have penetrative sex because of it. I have tried orgasm management several times to see if that would help me regain the ability to perform sexual intercourse. I have tried to restrict the frequency of masturbation on my own as well as using a male chastity device under the supervision of my wife. Unfortunately it did not seem to work for me. Though I was able to reduce masturbation, it did not increase my copulatory competence. In fact, before I succumbed to total masturbatory impotence, I noticed little correlation between masturbation frequency and copulatory success. Of course, if I exhausted myself with intense and repeated masturbation in a short period, I would certainly fail to achieve or maintain erections for coitus. But if I abstained from masturbating for 3 or 4 days (a very long abstinence for me), I was no more likely to remain erect and potent in a vagina.

From Treating – erectile dysfunction and male impotence with mandatory chastity. : Orgasm Denial As Therapy – Femdom Chastity

Warning of the dangers of “overmasturbation” and selling miracle cures is one of the many shabby little businesses that about on the web.

But some men can make too much of a good thing. A heavy grip, high velocity can desensitize a penis. And it is possible to become too habituated to the way the penis is held. Unknowingly a man conditions himself to associate orgasms with physical conditions another body can’t reproduce.

Similarly fantasies of beautiful women, forever obliging or other unrealizable fantasies may impede a man from enjoying sex with a real person.

A man becomes impotent except when having sex with anything other than his own hand.

Enforced abstinence may allow the penis to recover normal tactile responsiveness. And step away from dreams of perfection and more able to enjoy his flesh and blood lover.

For a limited group of men orgasm denial may serve the purpose Viagra and Cialis do for others.

Masturbating for Geeks

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Masturbatrix Liz wrote:

I have always loved geeks.  My preference in men has
always been the silent reserved type (who often are
not that way in the bedroom) and I never went for
macho "stereotypical" men.  Those into sports, beer,
etc..never appealled to me. I always was drawn to
introverts; those who like to read or are
creative–the   philosophers, thinkers, musicians,
artists, spiritualists.
On the afternoon I got my computer fixed..little did I
know I’d also get something that I didn’t pay for.
I was 4 days without my computer and at my wits end,
not only for my play time, (and you know how important
that is to me) but also personal business that
actually has nothing to do with masturbating or sex.
I called one of those tech geek companies where a rep
will come to your house and fix your puter.  I decided
to take the chance since I had no car to lug it into a
repair shop and this one established a good reputation
in my area.  I was given a two hour window of when the
tech would arrive.

 

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Removing Pornography

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More of Sean’s battle with masturbation and pornography addiction. Personally I have tried this approach, deleting my porn stash, many times and found that I always fall back into the habit.

 

Sean’s Blog- Removing Pornography

Being addicted to pornography, I had accumulated a pretty extensive library of images, video clips and movies onto CD’s. Almost all of my pornography was from the Net. In the past few years, I had filled 33+ CD’s. Maybe other people have more than that, but for me, it was never enough. I would look around on porn. sites for hours and hours saving images and video clips that appealed to me. I would save the porn. images and clips in a file on my hard drive until I had close to 700 MB, enough to fill up a CD.
So, when Ms. B ordered me to get rid of all my porn. a couple weeks ago I was at first hesitant. I thought all that time I had spentaccumulating my porn. library was now going in the trash! The first thing I did was delete all the porn. on my hard drive. Then erase the porn. websites I had bookmarked in my browser. The final act was destroying my porn. CD library and throw it in the trash.
I knew getting rid of porn. from my life was going to be difficult. It wasn’t just the throwing it all out, it was also staying away from it that was going to be difficult. Not browsing porn. sites every morning like I’m used to. Breaking habits is difficult, especially old ones.
Even though it has been a couple weeks already from being porn. free, I still having with drawls. I still crave wanting to peruse porn. site after porn. site. To help combat this, Mr. B has me "write lines" for 45 minutes each morning before I perform my corner-time and masturbation session. Hand writing the line, "Viewing porn. is not healthy for me" helps curtail the "drive" or "need" to view porn. It helps me focus and concentrate and in some ways relaxes at times.

Masturbatory Impotence

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a masturbator said:

I think several other chronic masturbators here will also attest to this
phenomenon. Some of us tend to grow more and more dependent on manual
stimulation, to the point we can no longer penetrate a loving and willing
partner. I call it "masturbatory impotence".
In my case, I am now functionally impotent as far as sexual intercourse
goes, due to excessive masturbation dependency. I have become so accustomed
to the intense gratification I get in my own hand that the stimulation of
intercourse is insufficient for me to maintain erections. I either fail to
penetrate, or go limp after penetration.
I freely admit that there is a large psychological component to this, and it
may never happen to you, or most other chronic masturbators. I simply find
masturbation more exciting and rewarding; I have little difficulty staying
erect for long solo masturbation sessions or for receiving handjobs. And if
I lose erection temporarily during masturbation, there is no performance
anxiety associated with it; I simply stroke a bit limp and the hard returns.
But in sexual intercourse there is a performance anxiety that makes me more
likely to loose erection and less likely to recover if lost.
Age is a factor; when I was younger and more physically vigorous I could get
it up for both intercourse and masturbation, usually in the same day. With
age intercourse competency became increasingly marginal and then failed
altogether. Interestingly, as a teenager I had so much performance anxiety I
rarely erected the first time with a girl; it took a lot of "relationship"
before I could copulate successfully. So perhaps the seeds of masturbatory
impotence were there all along.
By the way, the performance anxiety also happens sometimes in masturbating
on webcam or in my self-made masturbation videos. Somehow the mental effort
of balancing the "audience expectations" with my own inner excitement can
cost me an erection. I still love to webcam (and often with full erection),
because of the exhibitionistic thrill.

Chronic Masturbator’s Blog: I wasn’t always a Chronic Masturbator

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 Here is a great new masturbator blog

Chronic Masturbator’s Blog: I wasn’t always a Chronic Masturbator

But I am now!!!! I beat off probably of couple times a week for most of my life, then about five years ago in the span of around a month I went from a couple times a week to several times a day. I don’t know what changed or what might have triggered this but I can’t get enough of beating off. From the moment I wake up and grab my cock till I fall asleep while still stroking it, all I want to do is masturbate. I don’t know if anybody will understand how the only thing I want to do is masturbate, I spend most of my waking hours in a state of pure pleasure, mid orgasm, right on the edge. I absolutely love it and hope I don’t ever slow down.
I probably cum with the same frequency I used to, I just spend 12-18 hours a day stroking my cock, I don’t cum every time I beat off, cumming isn’t really why I masturbate. Like right now, I feel like I am floating, mid way into an orgasm, and every pump of my hand sends stronger wave out of my cock and across my body. I can keep it like this for hours, I spend most of my waking hours mid orgasm, it is the most intense, incredible thing i have felt, ever. I am fine with my totally freakish constant masturbation, I don’t want to change. I also am not trying to tell anyone to masturbate more, everyone has their own amount they like.

Sean is trying to control his masturbation addiction

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A long-time friend and fellow masturbation addict is taking a different direction. We all wish him best of luck.

Sean’s Blog- Introduction May 18, 2009

I decided to take my blog in another direction. I will instead, write about my addiction to pornography and my addiction to chronic masturbation.

I have been addicted to pornography since, and I’m estimating here, 2001, about eight years. To me, addiction means I can not stop doing or performing a certain act and the addiction has negatively affected my career, relationships and health. I have tried to “ease back” the amount of time I view porn. and rarely succeeded.I would spend hours perusing pornographic websites and bookmark my favorites. I save images and video clips in a folder on my hard-drive and when I had accumulated about 700 MB’s, I would burn them onto a CD. The images I had saved I would spend hours putting them throughPhotoShop; lighten & darkening, sharpening, changing the contrast and viewing size.

My other “addiction” is I am a chronic masturbator. That is, I used to masturbate for hours and hours each day/night forgoing my responsibilities. I would isolate, view porn either on my computer or printed material for hours at a time and masturbate. Most of the time I would orgasm, other times saving it or “edge play” making my masturbation time period longer and longer. The amount of time I spent viewing porn. and masturbating was determined by my work load and other outside factors and responsibilities. I usually averaged 5-6 hours per day viewing porn. and masturbating. In extreme cases, I spent a total of 6-10 hours per day.

I want to make it clear I do not feel viewing pornography and masturbation are “bad” or negative things. I believe they can be healthy outlets on a number of physical and psychological levels. However, like other forms of pleasure such as drinking, gambling, eating, prescription drugs, etc., etc they can and often are abused.

I will write more about the steps I am taking to control my addiction to pornography and chronic masturbation soon.

Jacking for Liz

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a masturbator said:

Hey group, thought you might like to know what happened to me
today.  I read Liz’ post about staying home today.  It was about
2:30 pm PST when I checked out her profile.  I  noticed whe was on
line and thought, what the hell, I am going to IM her.  I assumed
she was probably playing already and told her to ingore me if she
was.  About a minute later she responded.  I was surprised and of
course thrilled because I have read a lot of her posts.  I think we
all know what I’m talkin’bout.  All of a sudden I am chatting with
the FEMstar of this group. 

 

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Jack off for girls

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a masturbator said:

An erotic essay about how I like to jack off for girls ever since I
was a teen. It’s something of a CFNM fetish. (MF, exh, mast)
Back in the day when ff.net allowed erotic stories like these, one
reviewer wanted to know more about why & how I liked to jack off in
front of girls as a teenager. I wrote most of this as a reply to her
email, later I expanded it and posted it on a few sites. It’s an
essay and not a story but it’s raw and explicit so why not share?
I like to jack off in front of a girl for the rush of adrenaline. It
always makes me excited and nervous to know that I’m going to get
naked (while she stays clothed) and that I’m going to show her in
full my cock and balls and all they and my body go through from the
moment my little, soft penis twitches to life to the point when I
ejaculate, shivering and shaking for her.

 

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Is masturbation wrong?

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a masturbator said:

Mercy, I wonder how many of these "Is masturbation wrong" threads
I’ve read and posted to over the years in countless groups and other
places also. This poor horse has been absolutely beaten beyond
recognition. Yet, someone (was it you this time, Richard) who
started it up again? I have been masturbating regularly, often and
have continued masturbating for almost 48 years. I’ve done it
married, single, with my wife, without my wife in more ways and
places than I can even remember. It was fantastic pleasure the first
time I did it and it continues to be. This "is it wrong" business
has to be one of the most ridiculous ideas that has ever been
perpertrated on mankind or womankind. There is nothing, repeat,
NOTHING wrong with a man or a woman masturbating themselves to
orgasm and enjoying the pleasure it gives. If it’s interfering with
their sex life together there may be a problem, however, if it’s all
either of them have, so be it. You will not go crazy or grow hair in
the palm of your hand. You will not go blind. Most probably you will
experience a very high degree of ecstasy with the impending orgasm
that you will give yourself. Masturbate, masturbate, masturbate,
enjoy, enjoy, enjoy, alone, together, wherever and whenever. Let’s
talk about how we do it and how we love it and not if it’s right or
wrong. Maybe we can put this thread to rest.

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While I certainly agree that intellectually there is nothing wrong with
masturbation, there is a lingering emotional conflict in many of us. For me
it always results in a bit of "shame" that in itself is exciting, so I
continue to provide the "other" side of the debate, mainly for the little
guilty thrill it gives. (And fair warning, this won’t be the last.) For
those whom masturbation has no negative associations, feel free to ignore.
For the rest of us, we continue "processing" our childhood conditioning, and
having a jolly good wank doing it!
Also it’s good to remember that there are millions of people out there who
really are seriously conflicted about masturbation. Think of them with
compassion next time your penis feels so nice in your hand.

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It’s true that there are many people out there who are seriously conflicted about masturbation. There are also many more who are seriously conflicted about all kinds of sexual issues, let alone issues like war, poverty, hunger, injustice and seriously damaging the planet. Like all of us, I cannot carry the world. What I can do is offer support, friendship, and convey the positive and healthy aspects of masturbation which I have enjoyed over the years. If that helps just one person, then I have done some good, and maybe have done all anyone has a right to ask.
  I won’t ignore the negative messages, as my experience tells me that masturbation is good, whereas shame and embarrassment are shackles others place on us only if we allow them to. So let’s accept that wanking is fun, and be positive about the horny group of perverts we all are, and not trip ourselves up on sombody else’s labels and guilt.