One of the tasks of a good friend or accountability partner to someone who is entrenched in pornography is to help them understand their own heart. Why do they run to porn again and again? Solomon reminds us that “The purpose in a man’s heart is like deep water”—we often can’t see our own motivations—”but a man of understanding will draw it out” (Proverbs 20:5). A wise friend helps to draw out of others the deeper motivations they are unable or unwilling to see in themselves.

As an accountability partner, it is important to understand the allure of pornography: What deeper motivations keep men coming back to it again and again? What are good accountability questions we can ask to get to the root of the problem?

via 4 Reasons Why Men Like Porn | Covenant Eyes.

The first part to quitting porn is you really have to want to quit. You need to be sick and tired of porn and the sickness that it causes you in order to quit. If you are not committed, you will only be quitting until the next time you look. Deep inside you have to want to stop.

via How to Quit Porn: 6 Essential Steps | Covenant Eyes.

For the next couple of hours, they took turns running up to random people and asking if they had ever heard of a penis cage, or if they might be interested in flicking my package. Surprisingly, a lot of people took them up on the offer and took turns smacking my crotch before pointing and laughing. It was like high school all over again. Or Christmas with my family.

via The Wet Spot: 24 hours in the penis cage – Minneapolis Music – Gimme Noise.

Can I get a job as final QC product tester?

An unromantic yet fascinating peek behind the curtain of the global adult novelty economy, just in time for Valentine’s Day! For many of you lonely hearts, this is where tonight’s date came from. WARNING: Even though these are the least sexy photos you could imagine, they’re still slightly NSFW

via 30 Surreal Photos Of A Chinese Sex Toy Factory.

Gangs of women in Zimbabwe have been capturing male hitchhikers — sometimes by drugging them, other times by holding them up with guns, knives, or LIVE SNAKES — and raping them so they can harvest their sperm for good luck.

via Zimbabwe’s ‘Sperm Hunters’ Are Coming for Your Semen.

Inside The Fleshlight Stoya Destroya Texture – YouTube.

It’s really hard to get erections when I’m trying to [have intercourse]. Takes about 20 minutes or so to get it up. Really embarrassing. But if I’m sitting and watching my pornz, it’s almost instant.—Porn user in his 20s

Are you a heavy porn user who, during lovemaking, cannot consistently produce/sustain an erection or penetrate a real partner, feel much sensation, or climax (without difficulty)? If your doctor has ruled out organic causes for your woes, he/she is likely to hand you a trial pack of Viagra and refer you to counseling for your “sexual issues.” The medical assumption is that your issue is psychological (performance anxiety) rather than physiological. After all, if you can get it up for porn, your penile health is fine.

via Why Do I Find Porn More Exciting Than A Partner? | Psychology Today.

For the last half-century, Western sexologists have advised men to ejaculate as frequently as the urge arises, on a par with nose-blowing. At the same time, doctors assure guys that there’s no risk of excessive ejaculation because they’ll stop when they’ve had enough.

But what if this advice is not supported by the data biologists are turning up? We’ve been fascinated by a debate going on over on Amazon about the realities of primate sex and mating. This debate and the self-reports from young guys on a variety of forums are making us question the standard ejaculation advice.

via Exiting the Gene Pool Due to Low Sperm Count or ED? | Psychology Today.

It’s worth noting that, regardless of where WEIRD sexologists may set the bar for normal masturbation, its frequency is a rapidly moving target. Sexuality counselor Ian Kerner recently estimated that men are masturbating 50 to 500 percent more than they would without Internet porn—with adverse repercussions in the bedroom. We, too, hear from lots of (young) men who can now only sustain an erection while masturbating to Internet porn.

via WEIRD Masturbation Habits | Your Brain On Porn.