Porn, Masturbation, and Delayed Ejaculation

On January 1st, 2012 I stole away from a meal with family and masturbated to porn videos on the internet. Afterwards I returned to my family for the rest of the evening.  But before going to sleep, I had another wack-off session, once again stimulated by internet pornography. A week before this I had received a very unenthusiastic blowjob from Ashley. Before that, I don’t remember the last time we had had sex. Probably wasn’t in December. Mostly likely some time in November.

I felt like shit. I was sick of porn and sick of jacking off. I wanted to have sex with Ashley, but I had become tired of initiating sex only to be told she wasn’t in the mood. Porn and masturbation had become my primary source of sexual stimulation. Ashley had become secondary. Sex with Ashley was a roughly once-monthly break in the monotony of porn and masturbation (p&m).

P&M was roughly a once-a-day event for me basically since my family got a PC and an internet connection. I must have been around 17 or 18. Before that I had a couple pornographic magazines stashed away. But, as is becoming abundantly clear, internet porn, sometimes in HD, ever available, with endless variety, is a whole other monster.

One of the fears me and my virgin friends used to joke about in high school was premature ejaculation. No one wanted to be a “minuteman.” No one wanted to have a girl go tell people that we couldn’t please her. Once I finally lost my virginity, however, I felt a great deal of relief that I did not have that problem. I could last a long time. I took some pride in the fact. Although now I realize it’s no real accomplishment. It’s not that I can resist cumming too soon, it’s that it takes me a long time to be able to orgasm.

To orgasm via vaginal sex I have to strain and do it in certain positions. To orgasm from oral sex the girl has to really have some good jaw stamina and excellent technique, otherwise I just can’t cum. Many times I’ve resorted to fantasizing, or calling to memory scenes from pornography to help myself reach orgasm during vaginal sex or oral sex. My difficulty reaching orgasm is no cause of pride. I can’t brag that I “can go all night.” It prevents me from being able to have “quickies.” I think it’s made Ashley less enthusiastic because once we start it’s going to be a while.

I’m convinced that my “stamina” is really “delayed ejaculation,” the result of excess porn and masturbation. A symptom of over stimulation by pornography, and desensitization of the penis from frequent masturbation. It negatively impacts my sex life.

via Game Revelation: Porn, Masturbation, and Delayed Ejaculation.

Masturbating Graffiti | Betty Dodson with Carlin Ross.

Christian VII of Denmark suffered from a Chronic Masturbation Problem. – OMG Facts.

Well, he was a super rich, super powerful, and he got to sit around playing with himself all day long, so I’m not sure exactly how much he SUFFERED. However, his masturbation often interfered with his duties. He prioritized it over his job in many cases. He did it so much that the court physicians were actually worried that he would eventually render himself infertile.
Read more at http://www.omg-facts.com/History/Christian-VII-Of-Denmark-Suffered-From-A/55265#kioY5qyOOXEWby7B.99 

I write this to offer a perspective that is new to me. I am always looking to understand and to provide new ways that couples with limp libidos can excite themselves. – and each other. Trust me, this is not an easy job. Besides the practical difficulty of being so consistently creative, taking into account individual issues around sex, and around each other and around their relationships, makes this a challenge.

I discovered the other day what real power a vibrator can have – for a guy. I have heard that most men are intimidated when a woman wants a toy in the bedroom. But what happens to a toy “out” of the bedroom.

via The Vibrator as Man Porn | Betty Dodson with Carlin Ross.

Female masturbation has come to be known as the open secret. Almost every woman does it, but talking about it is somewhat taboo

via Who doesn’t like watching a lady masturbate? | CathyPlus.com.