a masturbator said:

Two members have responded to my experiences with a
Special Friend and they have raised a couple of
points worth consideration.  How did I find the right
guy? and How would I feel about touching another man
in that way?
Members who also enjoy the same fantasy with dreams of
some day making it real will have the same
concernsand many others, too.  I spent several years
enjoying this thought and recognised many problems,
including those same concerns, but also worked out
ways to eliminate or at least to minimise them.

The very first thing you must do is realise that you
are not alone.  There are many, many, otherwise
perfectly straight guys, that fantasise about having
another cock to play with.  They are not homosexuals,
bisexuals, gays, queers, pooftahs, fags, or whatever
else non-masturbators might choose to call them.  They
are simply decent ordinary heterosexual guys that
genuinely love the feel and sight of a penis and the
pleasure it brings, and I DONT mean just the orgasm.
To answer your concerns properly would take much more
space than is available in a simple post like this,
but I would be more than happy to write to any
individuals, male or female, that are interested and
would like to know how I dealt with the potential
problems.  For now, I will simply try and give a very
brief over-view of some of the steps and problems to
be considered.
The very first thing to tackle is yourself.  This
addresses the concern How would I feel about touching
another man that way?  You have to seriously think
about lavishing a lot of tender loving care on another
mans penis and it is because you are straight that
you have such a problem with that.  For now, I will
simply remind you that you are not alone, there are
others, just as straight, just as concerned, and with
just as strong a desire to do what you enjoy
fantasising about doing.  All you need to do is get
together with another guy, KNOWING that he is as
straight as you are, KNOWING he loves the thought of
having another cock to play with just as much as you
do and KNOWING he is just as anxious and concerned
that nobody else ever gets to know what has been, up
till now, a very private and secret desire.  That is a
part of what makes him the right guy.  And theres a
lot more to being the right guy than just having the
same desire.
So what makes a guy the right guy and how do you
find him?  Theres quite a bit to consider about what
makes a guy the right guy for you and Ill leave that
for now and just consider the mechanics of finding
him.  First step is to advertise but to do so in a
certain way that is more likely to attract a true
masturbator instead of the regular guy that would love
to get wanked off and is attracted by the novelty of
doing it with another guy.
Next is to exchange a few thoughts by mail (email is
best for this although much can be learned from
hand-written letters).  If the thoughts you are
exchanging match, try a phone conversation (or two).
Next, a BRIEF meeting is arranged, somewhere public.
It lasts no more than five to ten minutes and must be
a one-on-one over a beer or a cup of coffee and with
the understanding that this meeting is just to
introduce yourselves.  No decisions are made, nothing
is discussed concerning masturbation, you both behave
absolutely normally and civilly, chatting about the
weather, what was one TV last night, anything at all.
That first face-to-face meeting is followed by two or
three days thinking it over then another phone call.
If theres anything about one guy that the other isnt
happy about its easy to say that youve decided not
to take it any further.  Theres no embarrassment, you
should have previously discussed the fact and agreed
that, just because you both have the same interest,
doesnt mean youll get on OK or feel comfortable
with each other.  You must be prepared to accept that
what you want to be able to do will be impossible WITH
EACH OTHER unless BOTH of you want to do it, each with
the other, and since what you want to do is extremely
personal and so much against the grain for
heterosexual guys, feeling totally comfortable with
each other is vitally important.  Thats why its so
important to have come to terms with your desire and
totally accepted yourself as a straight guy with the
desire to enjoy another cock.  You need to separate
the idea of wanking off another guy, touching another
man, from the idea of having another cock to play
with.  Its the COCK youre playing with and wanking
off, NOT the guy.  A fine distinction, I agree, but
one the other guy will fully understand and
appreciateif hes the right guy!  Neither of you
will be wanking off the other or being wanked off by
the other, both of you will be indulging in your
secret pleasure of playing with another cock.  Of
course, the ultimate result will be that you both get
wanked off, but thats not the aim of the exercise,
thats just the fantastic bonus at the end (or near
the end) of each meeting.  Since what you are doing is
to the other guys cock, youre NOT doing it for
him, youre doing it for your own pleasure and hes
giving you the opportunity to do it because he
understands your desire, having the same desire
himself, and in exchange for you giving him the
opportunity to enjoy your cock.  You want to play with
another cock, so does he.  Another cock is, of course,
attached to another guy, you cant avoid that fact.
Youre not swapping wanks, youre recognising each
others secret desire and giving each other the
opportunity to realise it, sitting back and offering
up your genitals for the other guy to enjoy for a
while in exchange for him doing the same.  Its as
though you have a pet cock to play with but it is
looked after by the other guy and he brings it round
from time to time for you to make a fuss of; you, of
course, are looking after his pet cock.  Thats why
I described this as like having two cocks to play
with.
These brief notes skip over a lot of problems that I
would be happy to expand upon if anyones interested
but, for the time being, I will leave it at that for
this post.  I hope this gives you some food for
thought, your dream IS possible, so long as you are
aware of the possible pitfalls and how to avoid or
minimise them.  Any females that would enjoy reading a
description of a typical meeting between two straight
guys getting together for a session is more than
welcome to contact me, you might learn something that
enables you to pleasure your guy more than hed ever
imagined!!
Rick