A member of OnaniaSupport offered this:
There is an interesting article in Psychology Today which discusses the chemical effects of orgasm, and suggests that repeated, gentle stroking–without orgasm–may be the best way to stay in love. I have a passion for edging and denial,stroking for days without orgasm, and this would explain why.
“Both sensual Romans and sex-positive ancient Chinese Daoists recognized that sexual satiety shifts perception. Over two thousand years ago, Ovid, the elegantly earthy poet, wrote that the “cure for love” is to satiate oneself with orgasm. Want to stay in love? The earlier Chinese Classic of Su Nu states, “If one engages in sex without emission…exercising self-control and calming the passion, love actually increases.”
And there is an explanation for our addiction to masturbation:
“….We humans, of course, often don’t wait. We find it easy to boost sagging dopamine after orgasm. Some options help restore balance without throwing us back onto the dopamine roller coaster: friendly interaction, time in nature, meditation, exercise, and so forth. But many of us reach for stronger “medication” (higher dopamine surges). We gamble, spend money, grab junk food, drugs or alcohol, or fantasize about, click to, or engage in, more sexual stimulation.
“Bouncing from lows to new highs, we need never experience equilibrium again! However, as biologist Robert Sapolsky observed, there is a price for blasting our reward circuitry too enthusiastically in our efforts to counter the blues. “Unnaturally strong explosions of synthetic experience and sensation and pleasure evoke unnaturally strong degrees of habituation…. Our tragedy is that we just become hungrier.” In short, there are advantages to steering for equilibrium initially, rather than always reaching for more stimulation to cope.”
Frequent fertilization-driven sex is often followed by growing alienation. However, daily stimulation WITHOUT orgasm can increase affection and bonding. I have to say, if a girl wants to win my heart…edging and denial is definitely the way!
http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/cupids-poisoned-arrow/200908/the-passion-cycle