from My boyfriend is addicted to masterbating(masturbating), what do i do- – Sexuality & Relationship
My boyfriend & i have been together for 2 years this June. Our sex life was fine at the beginning till this problem came to light & now its been a year since I’ve been coping with it. About a year ago i started noticing that oursex life was no longer the same. we went from having sex numerous times a week to 1-2 a week. We are both 24 years old by the way. I started to notice if i was to initiate it he would tell me he’s tired or not in the mood. So now i’m to the point where im about to leave him due to this. a couple of months ago my bf confesses to me that the reason we are not having sexas often is because he’s been masterbating (masturbating). my bf goes to the gym daily & takes protein along with another substance that gives him energy so he says that the moment he gets out of the gym he gets thisurge to have sex & since i am at work he opts for masterbation(masturbation) so when i see him later on in the evening he doesnt want to have sex since the job has already been done. this issue has affected me in numerous ways. my self esteem is low, i am insecure about myself & our relationship. he tells me that hes trying to control himself but that its real hard. how do i understand him? what can i do to help & is there even something that can be done to fix this issue? my bf kept this whole "im addicted to masterbating (masturbating)" secret from me for a long time & for a long time i would cry to him & tell him how neglected i feel & how this has affected my esteem & still he would masterbate rather than controlling himself in order to please me. i no longer know what to do i hope you can help.
response at My boyfriend is addicted to masterbating(masturbating), what do i do- – Sexuality & Relationship
being a guy myself i completely agree with what you have said.It will specially be a turn on if you could let him watch while you masturbate yourself and another thing that could work is fuck his brains out when he is with you so that he will not feel the the need to do it while you are not around, get creative do wild and unrepresentative things sexually.
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Have you ever had oral sex with your boyfriend? If not I think you should try it, and if you learn to swallow, it’s the most intimate sexual act I can think of, but another idea i to buy yourself a vibrator and cum yourself as he watches. That’s exciting to me, and another idea is to go out for dinner and dancing and give every man there a good look at your legs, showing more than usual. Let him know what you’re doing and that may excite. At 24, he should be able to get off more than a couple times a day.
Um, perhaps you can ask if it would help him if he saw someone else making love to you … no, not making love, but fucking you. If he say it would and you could bot stnad the emotional aspect of the act, that might work. Whatever works is my motto but you both have to be illing to experiment for the sake of your love for each other.
I would like to know how you make out, if you try any of these. You can also take a ride and expose yourself to truck drivers and I know they would enjoy it, and maybe the two of you would be ready to get off at the nearest exit and find a motel. I hope you try at least one of these and please let me know if it worked.
Don