Ask A Monk: Pornography and Masturbation (and Addiction in General) – YouTube

“Hello Yuttadhammo, my question is, Through meditation, could I learn to control my mind in a way that would enable me to destroy an addiction, or addictive tendencies? I’m addicted to pornography and masturbation. It’s ruining my life, can you help?

via Ask A Monk: Pornography and Masturbation (and Addiction in General) – YouTube.

“A Remedy for Masturbation Almost Always Successful in Small Boys: Circumcision” | Betty Dodson with Carlin Ross

The true origins of circumcise are seemingly lost in antiquity, although many theories exist. However, in America, non-religious circumcision became popularized only in the mid-1800s during the highly puritanical Victorian era. Although there are many ideas as to why the practice is done today, the original motivation was to prevent children from masturbating (which was called self-abuse at the time, due to the belief that it caused disease, insanity and death).

via “A Remedy for Masturbation Almost Always Successful in Small Boys: Circumcision” | Betty Dodson with Carlin Ross.

Emike Oyemade | Overcoming Addiction To Masturbation

OVERCOMING ADDICTION TO MASTURBATION

Overcoming this habit is really up to you. No one can make you stop it if you do not want to. So, make up your mind and stop thinking about Masturbating.

You are human and humans make mistakes.  You have been making a mistake if you have been masturbating. Are you willing to correct that mistake? Forgive yourself and bear in mind that you are more than all your mistakes

Understand that you cannot do it on your own; without the help of God. Do you know how to pray? Sincerely ask Him to forgive you and tell Him that you need His help to stop. He will answer.

If the temptation comes whenever you are naked, then avoid sleeping without your clothes on. Dress up as soon as you have your bath.   Continue reading

My boyfriend is addicted to masterbating(masturbating)

from My boyfriend is addicted to masterbating(masturbating), what do i do- – Sexuality & Relationship

 

My boyfriend & i have been together for 2 years this June. Our sex life was fine at the beginning till this problem came to light & now its been a year since I’ve been coping with it. About a year ago i started noticing that oursex life was no longer the same. we went from having sex numerous times a week to 1-2 a week. We are both 24 years old by the way. I started to notice if i was to initiate it he would tell me he’s tired or not in the mood. So now i’m to the point where im about to leave him due to this. a couple of months ago my bf confesses to me that the reason we are not having sexas often is because he’s been masterbating (masturbating). my bf goes to the gym daily & takes protein along with another substance that gives him energy so he says that the moment he gets out of the gym he gets thisurge to have sex & since i am at work he opts for masterbation(masturbation) so when i see him later on in the evening he doesnt want to have sex since the job has already been done. this issue has affected me in numerous ways. my self esteem is low, i am insecure about myself & our relationship. he tells me that hes trying to control himself but that its real hard. how do i understand him? what can i do to help & is there even something that can be done to fix this issue? my bf kept this whole “im addicted to masterbating (masturbating)” secret from me for a long time & for a long time i would cry to him & tell him how neglected i feel & how this has affected my esteem & still he would masterbate rather than controlling himself in order to please me. i no longer know what to do i hope you can help.

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Dangerous Sexual Secrets

Do we have any Stage 4 Masturbators reading this blog? Then be warned:

from Dangerous Sexual Secrets – Article by Barrington H. Brennen

… Is masturbation all that bad? Well, research tells us that many single Christian teenagers and young adults are feeding the sexual appetites through masturbation, thereby increasing their risk of sexual dysfunctions during marriage. Let met explain the stages or types of masturbation. The first stage is the discovery stage, which some may not call masturbation. This stage involves little boys or girls discovering their body parts. The attitude of parents during this time will determine whether or not this discovering turns in a habit. The second stage is the pressure release stage when one is fully aware of body functions and may attain sexual gratification from masturbation. This is also the stage or type of masturbation used for therapeutic or medical reason that may be considered healthy. At this stage it is not a habit. However, this is the risk stage when the habit is formed. Stage 3 is the exploitive stage. It is definitely a habit and sexual fantasy is involved. Stage 4 is the compulsive stage when the individual is compulsively addictive. He/she is trapped with the mental and physical addictions of masturbation and finds him/herself in a cycle of repeating a behavior that seems impossible to break.

Masturbation is dangerous because it is addictive. No form of sexual addiction is healthy. One gentleman told me that it was easier for him to stop the use of marijuana than to stop masturbating. God never intended for the sex act to be a solitary experience served through masturbation. God designed sexual intercourse to be shared between a husband and wife as the highest expression of intimacy.

Should Christian single men and women use masturbation as a means of releasing sexual tension to avoid fornication? Certainly not. With the addictive element and lust thoughts and transitory nature, I cannot recommend masturbating as a method for an occasional release of sexual tension.

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