Hunting for Sex: Cautionary Tales from the Quest: Solosexuality

The notion of solosexuality is one that is discussed on blogs and polls and forums on the site.  It’s as if a variant of gay sexuality has come to light – gay men who get off on men (though straight men populate the site too), but prefer to get off alone, using porn, poppers and whatever other accoutrements they like (or conversely, use tantric practices to heighten the experience).  Like in any community that tries to define itself, there is contention about what a true “solosexual” is.  Is it someone who never ever has sex with others?  Can you define yourself as solosexual if bating is your true sexual passion, though you do bate with others or, furthermore, engage in penetrative sex sometimes too?

Source: Hunting for Sex: Cautionary Tales from the Quest: Solosexuality

Onania Masturbator Forum: Pussy Penetration Anxiety Disorder (PPAD)

In the Onania Masturbator Forum, a Masturbator Wrote:


It feels like a cruel joke. When i began masturbating in high school, i wonder if i already had undiagnosed PPAD. i would have given anything to have Real Sex, at least in theory – i fantasized about many of the girls i knew, and felt tormented by my constant erections and wet dreams. Watching teen sex comedies on TV late at night added to my desire but also to my anxiety. Looking back now i can see how those movies helped foster a belief that only by losing one’s virginity could a boy be a Real Man, and that boys who jerked off were to be ridiculed and pitied as perverted losers. So i believe that my PMS – Pathetic Masturbator Syndrome – was a key cause of my PPAD. i worried that my penis would be of inadequate size to satisfy a girl, and i believed that the girls i liked were probably not virgins, so they would have bigger dicks and better sexual experiences to compare me to. On top of that, i had already experienced premature ejaculation from merely talking to and ogling a girl while having one of my uncontrolled puberty-driven erections. One of those times, it happened when a girl was being flirtatious with me and actually rubbed herself up against my crotch. She didn’t notice what i had done, thank goodness, but if that was all it took, i was deathly afraid that i would spurt the moment i saw a girl in her panties. Continue reading

Sean: The No Pussy Pledge

In the Onania Masturbator Forum, a Masturbator Wrote:


I, Sean Z., openly acknowledge being allowed sex (intercourse, anal and receiving oral) is a privilege. I also understand women prefer ‘alpha’ men with long, thick erections who can fuck for long periods at a time.

I admit to being an addicted masturbator with a much smaller than average penis and erection. I also admit to being unable to obtain and keep an erection without the use of constant manual stimulation. Without such manual stimulation, I immediately lose my small/short erection.

 I pledge to surrender and cease all attempts at trying to sexually satisfy women with my penis and remain sexually a ‘beta’ male. I also promise not to date, flirt or in any way pursue women with my pathetic attempts to copulate.  Continue reading

GoneSavage: The Stroke

…The third day was filled with intense lust. Just about every woman who crossed my path was subject to an brief, passionate physical connection — though only in my head. That night I watched the porno again. I stroked my cock noticing the subtleties and nuance of sensation. Every molecule felt ignited with electricity. I knew I would let it happen this time, so I pushed the pleasure to the brink. Drawing it out, such a tantalizing delay. Then I came. The pure volume was ridiculous. A load that huge deserved a facial. I imagined the sense of pride and honor that so many women would have had if allowed to coax that much cum out of me. It is a shame that no one was there to receive this copious gift. Alas, I did it myself. To myself. With only myself. And that was that….

via GoneSavage: The Stroke.

Masturbation Memories

A male’s development as a masturbator.

Masturbation Memories

By Joe Friday (1996)

A male’s development as a masturbator.

This is a true account of my development as a masturbator. A shorter version turned up here a few months ago. I hope it will inspire others to tell similar stories.

It s been said that ninety percent of all people masturbate, and the other ten percent are lying. Yet how little-acknowledged is this obvious and undeniable fact. Masturbation is one of the universal of human experiences right up there with eating, bathing and sleeping but it rarely comes up in polite conversation. Look at the overweening hypocrisy with which Dr. Jocelyn Elders and Paul Reubens were treated. Imagine causing a national controversy by simply stating that it might be useful to teach children that it s normal to masturbate! As if our country has no more pressing problems!

Good Vibrations, the vibrator store in San Francisco, declared May National Masturbation Month, and while the declaration didn t get much play on the evening news, it did show progress toward the liberation of the most elementary of sex acts: a month devoted to masturbation, proclaimed by a business devoted to female masturbation.  Continue reading

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Seeking Well-Written Articles by and for Chronic Addicted Masturbators

We who seek out masturbation blogs know how often they come and go. It’s a shame, because excellent personal essays, insights, histories, or fantasies from chronic masturbators are lost, or never seen widely.  If you are a thoughtful masturbator and would like a permanent place with high readership for your masturbator writings, Onania . Org/asm invites you to become a Contributing Masturbator. We seek masturbators of all genders and sexual orientations, and ladies who support and guide male masturbators.

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Jay Mayo: when I discovered that I was Pathetic

when I discovered that I was Pathetic

by Jay Mayo

I would like to post this short story, if it’s okay, for your” when I discovered that I was Pathetic”, section of your site.  I am so hard just typing this, I am pathetic….
 
I’ve masturbated regularly for most of my life.  However, it was not until this past year that I determined that I was indeed pathetic.

My quest to fulfill my sexual desires as a result of being in a sexless marriage led me to the realization that I enjoyed to masturbate.  Being that I had masturbated my entire life, I guess that I already knew that, and now masturbation had replaced sexual contact with other beings, and became my primary and only sexual outlet.

I found with the help of the internet, site’s just like this one.   I’ve been from cover to cover on the Onania. org site.  I was viewing it, as a movie goer might.  I was detached, watching, listening, and reading about other’s that had this “addiction”.  Others that were unable to control their habits.  I thought them to be weak, they were pathetic.

Then one day, about a year ago, I realized, hey maybe I’m pathetic.  It’s not just them, it’s just not others, I was an addicted masturbator.  I was an edger, I was the daily stroker. I was calling in on masturbation hot lines, I was on chaterbate.  I love to masturbate, I love to edge my penis. At first it was humiliating, me an addicted masturbator, like those others.  Oh but I found the humiliation, aroused me, made my penis go very hard.  I became very ripe.

It’s better now, knowing what I am.  Accepting my fate.  I am pathetic masturbator. 

— Jay Mayo

In Love with Kate Moss: Caught Masturbating by Denise

Caught Masturbating by Denise

BY IN LOVE WITH KATE MOSS

I only consider myself an exhibitionist as far as I like to be seen by people who might be into exhibitionism and voyeurism. I try and respect the comfort zones of those who might not want to unexpectedly see a naked person engaged in solo-lovemaking.

Still, I masturbate often enough and in enough places that sometimes I get caught. And I’ve found that most of the time, the reaction of those doing the catching has not been negative.   Continue reading

Earl Flen: Thoughts on Married Masturbation

In the Onania Masturbator Forum, a Masturbator Wrote:


Thoughts on Married Masturbation

BY EARL FLEN

Why do us married guys masturbate? Can’t we just fuck our wives? (We don’t really have any excuse for jacking off) Does wifey know you masturbate? Does wifey know how MUCH you masturbate? Uhh … does wifey masturbate?

Listen, first of all fucking is not just about pussy. Fucking is a partnership thing. Most husbands are more concerned with giving her what she needs than with just getting some pussy. For most of us it’s about her and about both of us. Fortunately she usually feels the same way about us, and that makes it work out just fine. Wifey makes sure we cum in her pussy and get the whole 9 yards of fucking. Most husbands, most wives. Partnership. Sure, there are some other relationships. Ask somebody else about that. Not us normal run-of-the-mill husbands.

Masturbating is different. Continue reading

Onania Masturbator Forum: addiction to masturbation

In the Onania Masturbator Forum, a Masturbator Wrote:


I want to share the things that are going thru my mind as my addiction to masturbation continues to grow. First, every waking moment that my mind is not occupied with a task, of some kind, I am thinking about masturbating my cock. Porn is no longer always required, don’t get me wrong, I enjoy porn, it’s a fuel, but it’s not always required. My mind goes right to my addiction, so chronic that I want to share it with other masturbators. I don’t need to touch myself every time, heck I’m rock hard just writing about my addiction to touching myself. I can’t clear these thoughts from my head. I was told this could happen, and I never imagined it would continue to this level. I feel so helpless, and this arouses me more. I am touching myself now, I want the feeling all the time. Stroking gives me the feeling, the feeling requires the stroking, stroking gives me the feeling, the feeling requires the stroking……………jay mayo


 

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