Forced Abstinence

By Fergus MacDougal

This may come as a surprise to those who know what a compulsive masturbator I am. But I recently went a full ten days without doing myself. Not because I was trying to give it up (never!) or to store up libido for my next session. It was because I contracted a bladder infection. Cause unknown, cure an easy course of penicillin.

When the infection was raging it was very painful to urinate, and there was a stinging sensation in my urethra at all times. I was not tempted to play with my penis at all, though I could feel the necessity building up.

I took the pills for ten days, and after four days the stinging went away so I gave myself a trial wank. A little painful, so I kept it short, and I only ejaculated a small amount. It was interesting to see that my semen, which normally is creamy white, was completely clear. Obviously something had changed. At the end of the medication, when I was completely cured, I was still only shooting small amounts, and it was clear.

Yesterday, after two days of abstinence, I woke up horny and spent an hour masturbating in the morning. It was a good juicy cum, volume back to normal, and a bit milky. A few hours later my hand was back down there and I ended up doing myself for another half hour, with a good spurt.

This experience reminded me how important masturbation is to me, and what a great loss it would be if for any reason I had to stop. To celebrate my renewed ability to pleasure myself I plan to masturbate all day today.

Does masturbation make you impotent?

a masturbator worried:

  Are u serious???….your impotence is due to your habit of masturbation????…in that case we’re all due to become impotent soon????…..please say you’re joking or i miss understood u. I love to masturbate a lot, but i also love to fuck pussy and will really go crazy if i couldn’t penetrate pumpum again, so pleeeease clarify John cause I’m worried!!!.


other masturbators confirmed:

I think several other chronic masturbators here will also attest to this phenomenon. Some of us tend to grow more and more dependent on manual stimulation, to the point we can no longer penetrate a loving and willing partner. I call it “masturbatory impotence”.
In my case, I am now functionally impotent as far as sexual intercourse goes, due to excessive masturbation dependency. I have become so accustomed to the intense gratification I get in my own hand that the stimulation of intercourse is insufficient for me to maintain erections. I either fail to penetrate, or go limp after penetration.
I freely admit that there is a large psychological component to this, and it may never happen to you, or most other chronic masturbators. I simply find masturbation more exciting and rewarding; I have little difficulty staying erect for long solo masturbation sessions or for receiving handjobs. And if I lose erection temporarily during masturbation, there is no performance anxiety associated with it; I simply stroke a bit limp and the hard returns. But in sexual intercourse there is a performance anxiety that makes me more likely to loose erection and less likely to recover if lost. 
Age is a factor; when I was younger and more physically vigorous I could get it up for both intercourse and masturbation, usually in the same day. With age intercourse competency became increasingly marginal and then failed altogether. Interestingly, as a teenager I had so much performance anxiety I rarely erected the first time with a girl; it took a lot of “relationship” before I could copulate successfully. So perhaps the seeds of masturbatory impotence were there all along.
By the way, the performance anxiety also happens sometimes in masturbating on webcam or in my self-made masturbation videos. Somehow the mental effort of balancing the “audience expectations” with my own inner excitement can cost me an erection. I still love to webcam (and often with full erection), because of the exhibitionistic thrill.


I usually do not post..more of a lurker, but this topic speaks to me.  There is no doubt that
I have become a chronic masturbator, and have had difficulty with maintaining an erection. 
In my case I think that the root problem has at least two seperate causes.  First of all, I
have not had sex with my wife for about 4 years…the reasons are not important, however,
it has forced me to become dependent on my own hand (or someone’s hand) to bring me
satisfaction. I have noticed over the years that it takes more and more stimulation to reach
orgasm, particularly if I do a lot of edge playing (this is what I like best). Second, I have
had heart problems and am on four seperate medications, each of which has a libido side
effect.  Frankly it has been so long since I have been with anyone, I don’t know what would
happen…  Be very interested in sharing experiences with another mature male just to see!
Added to these problems, my penis has shrunk somewhat in size…both length and girth. 
Oh My.


LOVE IT! LOVE IT! LOVE IT! This latest thread is neat! Yes, I too
would have I/course performance problems! And how delicious it is!
I think folks know of my “masturbation fidelity” cherishings,
and “being limp” except for masturbation fits right in. I mean, a
wife can be confident that Hubby is faithful, because he can only
cumm by masturbation.
The fantasy part of it also is Wifey physically CRAVES orgasm, but
wants the utlimtate safe sex, and so wants a masturbation impotent
husband. Part of the fantasy, if one wants, is to have Wifey “so
big” down below that she is only satisfied with a bigg bigg toy!
What do others think? Also, what do some of the Ladies among us
think? Wouldn’t a husband or partner like WE be appealing?
Also, do we all agree that we need porn to “jump start” our limp


I think this is a very individual and as at least one post alluded to very likely at least (I qualify as I’m no doctor, either) partially psychological thing.  Many guys masturbate like crazy for their lives and do not become impotent.  However, I have seen medical evidence that infertility or lowered fertility is a likely result of constant orgasming for males – basically a life-long pursuit does “wear out” your reproductive capacity.  The only medical things I have read about masturbation and impotence have indicated no causal relationship, however those studies centered more around regular rather than extreme masturbatory habits.
Personally, I prefer masturbation to intercourse strongly, but I prefer sex with other to masturbation a substantial portion of the time, and I do have some pursuits that I pay attention to besides masturbation, so I am not nearly as extreme as some here, though I have gone through many a lost weekend and so forth.  That said, I have never had problems aside from isolated rare instances with being hard for intercourse.  However, I sometimes do cum far too quickly in intercourse OR if I keep going a while I occasionally lose it for a while and can’t stay hard inserted (but quickly will get hard again outside).  But that hasn’t seem affected by masturbation – in fact, it seems that the latter problem of staying hard has gone away over time as I’ve worked my penis so much it is much more capable of “behaving” as I desire, and the former problem of cumming too soon is not eliminated but rarer.  That said, my wife also has thankfully moved away from wanting intercourse much at
all, so I don’t have to do it much these days, and rarely want to.
And btw I’ll be masturbating most of this evening, starting as soon as I get rid of a guest :) around 6 PM-ish Pacific time, feel free to email or IM me, anyone, not sure when I’ll be on, but I will be occasionally and will be interested if anyone wants to talk, preferably but not necessarily females, I love to confess my sissy slut secrets and so on…sorry for the plug – but I’m in the mood.. ;)

Masturbated in front of a woman

a masturbator wrote:

In my 29+ years since I first brought myself to an orgasm, the amount
of times I have jacked off in front of another woman could be counted
on one hand with enough fingers left over to hold a cigarette and
maybe even my television remote control. :-)  And, to be honest, those
few times were not under the best of circumstances…that’s a long,
sad story I will avoid telling for now, especially since what I’m here
to write about is much more pleasing.
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Earl Flen: Hand Pussy

Hand Pussy

by Earl Flen

I like all sex terms and words, but I love these two words very much. They invoke so much about the positive nature of masturbating. Hand pussy is the pussy I have fucked most. Hand pussy is the first pussy I ever fucked. Hand pussy is the pussy that is always there for me. Hand pussy can respond to my fantasies and be any pussy I want it to be. I can close my eyes and fuck my hand pussy as if she was any woman I want, or I can stare into the photographed eyes of my favorite masturbation muse and fuck her pussy in my fist. My hand pussy can turn into the anus (or mouth) of a man I fantasize about fucking. (Or a finger from my hand pussy can be his dick sliding into my anus – my man pussy.)

I can fuck my hand pussy as hard or as gently as I wish. Hand pussy always grips my cock just perfectly and always squeezes at the right time and the right amount. I love my hand pussy. I can fill my hand pussy with cum or let it spurt out the back. I can put my limp dick inside my hand pussy and fuck when I don’t have an erection. My hand pussy can quiver and pulse until it makes me hard, or until it makes me cum even though I’m soft.   Continue reading

On Finding OnaniaSupport

A masturbator wrote of his discovery of the OnaniaSupport group

well, even I can hardly describe my feelings. I started reading some of the most recent posts and could not believe my eyes! I went back to the beginning of the archives and kept reading and reading, all the while with the most erect cock I’ve had in ages but also with this incredibly warm feeling while seeing all of this utter openness and honesty about masturbation and pornography — things I had been longing to ask others in one way or another since I was five years old and never could.

Sure, there were many Yahoo Groups out there claiming to be about masturbation discussion, but nothing like this! Most of those other groups were nothing but places to arrange face-to-face meetings for stroke off sessions. OnaniaSupport…now THIS was a place where people were REALLY talking about masturbation! History, memories, techniques, likes, dislikes, gay, straight, bi, even females…all writing with nothing being held back. I was astonished, amazed, and highly aroused. I knew immediately that I had found a virtual home and that there was no way I could keep from jumping right into this group with both feet…well, maybe after cumming a few times because all of this sensory overload gave me some of the most intense orgasms that I had brought forth in years. ;-)

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NEW: Podcasturbation #17-0810: Goony! Goony! Goony!

Podcasturbation #17-0810: Goony! Goony! Goony!

A quick gooning session by a very goony masturbator. 

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Onania Masturbator Forum: Locked up and the key at home

In the Onania Masturbator Forum, a Masturbator Wrote:

As a Chronic compulsive Bator when ever I take road trips I usually jackoff a few times on the way. Either driving or at rest stops, side roads, fast food bathrooms etc. fellow Bators now what I mean! LOL.  Today however is a different game for me. After denying myself last night and this morning, I locked myself in my new Holy Trainer! It took me about twenty minutes to get it on my bator dick but I am all locked up for a 3 to 4 hour drive and over night stay! I’m leaving the  key at home so I can’t get out!  This the craziest thing I have ever done and I’m so excited. I might have to stop at the rest area and see if I can suck a hot trucker dick or two. I have never had the nerve to show anyone my dick locked up but I think it could be time to show off my bator dicklet on my knees servicing Real Men.  I’m so fucking Hot writing this I want to take it off and Jack off before I hit the road but I can’t and won’t . When I get home tomorrow night watchout This Bator is going to beat it like teenage boy with his first Playboy Mag!   Merry Christmas Fellow Bators  wish me luck! 


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Onania Masturbator Forum: My first pussy was dissapointing

In the Onania Masturbator Forum, a Masturbator Wrote:

 Damn that’s Hot!  My first piece of real pussy I was 14 and my Dad and his buddies set it up! Im had been Jacking off since I was about 7 8 years old and I masturbated that day in the shower. I  kinda knew what was up but I played along. Man that evening in the shower my dick was hard as a rock I played and jerked as always but wouldn’t let myself cum because I knew I was gonna get some Pussy! Man was I disappointed!  She wasn’t even tight! It was like fucking an loose pillow. I couldn’t keep it up and the night was a disaster! I Know she reported back to my Dad who set the whole thing up. And he never said anything but I think he knew that I preferred men or better yet my tight fist pussy! From that night on I was a dedicated Bator!  There was no web sites like this one back then So I didn’t even know that other guys liked to fuck their tight fist like I did. Over the years I have had relationships with other women but I have always hated f-cking pussy! Its not pretty its not sexy I would much rather Jackoff ! I LIKE TO WARM UP MY LUBE AND PLAY WITH MY BALLS My dick gets so hard and my balls tighten up when I wrap my fist around my hard dick! Shit IT FEELS Great!  I meant a guy I worked with when I was in my teens and he like to jackoff too. We beat it together a few times and then I started to jack him and well It wasn’t long before I had to taste that pretty dick! He was 19 and I 14 but he was so hot with a hard dick and when he started to cum I bent down and caught a sput on my tougue! Shit I was hooked I shot my load at the same time!. After that we would jack off together and he would let me suck him a bit. But he  really liked it when I would lick his balls when he jacked off and then just when he was ready to cum he would hold his dick up to my lips and cum!   Id open my mouth and lick his fist and dick head while he came in my mouth! He used to brag about the girls he took home but II think he was just a Wanker like me! Shit I love to beat off and I have a lot of  stories about jacking off!  My most recent thing is driving and jerking off!  Yeah I know its dangerous but I commute 1 1/2 hour everyday. Heres how it starts. In the morning I always have a hard dick! Like most guys!  LOL  Shit I I start jackin and getting it hard !   but then Istop and get dressed and this is the fun part! I let my hard little dick stick out of my fly and I walk out of my Apt and down to my car! (Its 530 am so Im the only one out at the time Its so hot )  My little dick is so hard when I get in my car! Once on the road I start jacking my dick!  Right now its Dark so I can get bold and so last week I pulled my pants all they down around my knees!  I was naked and Jackin off in my car at 60 mph! An on coming car put me over the edge and I came all over my belly and legs!   I had to stop a few miles down the road and clean up!  But Damn It was HOT 



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Hotline #16-0215: Moaning with Jane

Hotline #16-0215: Moaning with Jane

I masturbate with Jane from Chicago (Wet Jane) on the Masturbation Support Hotline. 

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Podcasturbation #17-0722: I’m glad you are pathetic!

Podcasturbation #17-0722: I’m glad you are pathetic!

You are a pathetic masturbator, and I’m glad. It arouses me. I like you that way. Is that wrong of me?  

[chronic]  [masturbation] [embarrassment] [humiliation] [namecalling] [degradation] [JOE] [pathetic] [shame] [philosophy of masturbation]

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