About Onania . Org/asm

Onania . Org/asm is a resource for people living with chronic masturbation addiction. It is owned by Richard Lovel and expresses his life-long fascination with masturbatory behavior — especially in its more chronic and compulsive manifestations.

Eight things you didn’t know you could do with human sperm

Sperm are single-purposed: They’re optimized to get to an egg and inseminate it. But that doesn’t mean there isn’t more to this cell than meets the ovum. Sperm, along with its travelling companion, semen, are surprisingly versatile and adaptable substances. Here are eight unconventional things you can do with human sperm.

via Eight things you didn’t know you could do with human sperm.

BBC NEWS: Does sex addiction exist?

Some pros and cons about whether sex can be an addiction

It’s a very serious addiction, says Paula Hall, who runs a group therapy course for “sex addicts” in Warwickshire, and it’s believed about one in 20 people suffer from it.

Although not a chemical addiction like alcohol or heroin, it’s a “process addiction” like gambling, she says, with a biochemical element linked to the release of dopamine in the brain.

“It’s a compulsive need to seek out and follow a certain type of sexual behaviour. That behaviour varies but it’s basically an anaesthetising behaviour, something you are doing in order to avoid dealing with something else.

“It’s a coping mechanism and it’s totally and entirely out of control. You are continuing to pursue it in spite of the consequences, like losing your job, your status, your wife and your health.”

Addicts are usually men and they are of any age, she says, and from any background. The behaviour ranges from viewing online porn for a few hours a day, which is usually a starting point and then escalates, to visiting prostitutes at every opportunity.

“It’s a way of escaping from low self-esteem, feelings of anger and insecurity. It’s not really about sex. It’s driven by shame.

“You feel about yourself and one way to stop feeling bad about yourself is to do something nice, but afterwards you feel even worse about yourself.”

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Join the Onania Masturbatorium on Discord

The Onania Masturbatorium on Discord

The Onania Masturbatorium on Discord is a safe and friendly place for chronic masturbators like you. It is open to adult masturbators of all genders and sexual orientations. Our purpose is a supportive community for people who “identify” primarily or exclusively as masturbators. Our focus is on meaningful (and stimulating) communication among masturbators. The Onania Masturbatorium runs on the free interactive site Discord. You can access it with a browser or optionally download an app.

If you are already registered with Discord

If you already have a Discord user account and are familiar with Discord’s functions, you know it provides a reliable and interactive platform for text chat, voice and video chat, — both private and group sessions. Click to Join Onania Masturbatorium 

If you don’t have a Discord user ID

It works best to register and confirm your email address first, before joining Onania Masturbatorium.
  1. Register and create a free account by clicking https://discordapp.com/register
  2. Look for an email from Discord and confirm your email address before the next step.
  3. Click the Join link above to enter the server.
If you don’t know how to use Discord, the user interface can be confusing at first. Once you get used to it, you will love what it can do. Here is a YouTube tutorial to help you get started:

Join the Onania Masturbator Forum

 

The Onania Masturbator Forum

is  a supportive, affirming community of people living with chronic addiction to masturbation. The focus is on our lives as addicted masturbators, and the pleasures / conflicts / impacts related to our compelling habit. If you (or a partner ) are addicted to masturbation, you are encouraged to join. Here are some samples of the discussions:

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In Onania Masturbator Forum  we freely share our masturbatory fantasies and techniques, including extreme excessive practices used to intensify autoerotic gratification. We explore our conflicts about the costs of masturbation addiction on career, family, friends, and life goals. We process residual feelings of shame, guilt, and humiliation that for some attach to chronic masturbation.

Unlike other pro- or anti-masturbation groups, the Forum is value-neutral and non-judgmental. We make no assumption that masturbation addiction is inherently good or bad, or that chronic masturbators should seek to change their behavior. Each member is free to form and express his own opinions without fear of criticism or judgment. We offer understanding, encouragement, and validation — both to those still struggling with their compulsions and to those finally reconciled to permanent and incurable masturbation addiction.

Onania Masturbator Forum welcomes both male and female masturbators (and partners of masturbators), from gay to straight in sexual orientation. Though a large percentage of the members are male, ladies are encouraged to join and are treated with respect.

 

Podcasturbations – Podcasts for Masturbators

If you ever suspected that podcasting is just another form of masturbation, you were right! These audio recordings feature both mental and physical masturbation — stream-of-consciousness essays composed during my (too) numerous masturbation sessions. Some of the podcasturbations are of a personal nature, reflections on living with chronic masturbation addiction.  Others are directed to you, the listener, offering advice, guidance, or support for your masturbation habit.


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In order of date of production


WARNING: these podcasturbation contain candid discussion of male masturbation and recordings of actual masturbatory orgasms. The listener may experience sexual arousal and feel an urge to masturbate. Males wishing to limit or refrain from chronic masturbatory gratification are advised not to listen.

Join the Onania Masturbatorium on Discord

The Onania Masturbatorium on Discord

The Onania Masturbatorium on Discord is a safe and friendly place for chronic masturbators like you. It is open to adult masturbators of all genders and sexual orientations. Our purpose is a supportive community for people who “identify” primarily or exclusively as masturbators. Our focus is on meaningful (and stimulating) communication among masturbators. The Onania Masturbatorium runs on the free interactive site Discord. You can access it with a browser or optionally download an app.

If you are already registered with Discord

If you already have a Discord user account and are familiar with Discord’s functions, you know it provides a reliable and interactive platform for text chat, voice and video chat, — both private and group sessions.

Click to Join Onania Masturbatorium 

If you don’t have a Discord user ID

It works best to register and confirm your email address first, before joining Onania Masturbatorium.

  1. Register and create a free account by clicking https://discordapp.com/register
  2. Look for an email from Discord and confirm your email address before the next step.
  3. Click the Join link above to enter the server.

If you don’t know how to use Discord, the user interface can be confusing at first. Once you get used to it, you will love what it can do. Here is a YouTube tutorial to help you get started:

JUST A LUCKY JACKER

“JUST A LUCKY JACKER….” A SHORT BIOGRAPHICAL STORY

I’m just a freakingly lucky guy I guess, I’ve been touching
myself “inappropriately” and way, way to much and often since I was
eleven, and it seems the beat-off-gods have approved and blessed me
and my habit mightily!
Well, here’s what I’m talking about, just about a year ago my friend
Kathleen at work tells me she’s having an affair with a married
man. Not only is the dude married, but he’s here from England, and
since he can’t stay with her he needs a place to crash for six-
months or so. I figure I could use the extra cash flow having a
roommate would provide, I meet the guy, Kenny, and he’s nice enough
quirky accent, a slightly rough but sexy exterior, and so I decide
it’s a “go”.

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Peeping Tom

a masturbator wrote:

It was a dark night and I could clearly see into her window. The
curtains were open and a lamp on the table was on. The humidity was
thick and sweat dripped from my brow. I was hunched behind a bush
hoping no one could see me. I was wearing dark shorts and a dark
t-shirt. Even my sneakers were black. It was too hot for pants and
given my plans shorts were much more practical.
I heard a mosquito buzzing in my ear. I didn’t bother me. I’d been
bitten multiple times tonight and didn’t care. I could smell fresh
mulch at my feet. Her gardens must have been recently tended to. The
shrubs were trimmed and I was able to neatly fit between them. Up
close against the house my face was inches from the window screen. She
must not have had aircondtioning or liked the fresh air since her
window was open.

Continue reading

PeterFiles, A Case Study of Masturbation Addiction

THE PETER FILES, A CASE STUDY OF MASTURBATORY ADDICTION

(These are the “classic” PeterFiles, a series of short fantasies I did early in my chronic masturbator career.)


A (fictional) clinical study chronicling the activities of Peter, a lifelong habitual masturbator. Copyright 1995-2017 by Onania.Org/asm

Published by The Masturbation Dependency Program
Institute for Correction of Sexual Misbehavior
Series Editor: Dr. Margaret Wilson, Registered Genital Therapist

Peter File #01: Introduction to the Series, by Dr. Margaret Wilson

We begin a series of chapters in “The PeterFiles”, a longitudinal case study of masturbatory addiction in the adult male, conducted at The Institute for Correction of Sexual Misbehavior. The series is made available in order to increase the public awareness and understanding of the problem of addictive masturbatory behavior in males, and especially as a resource to those women in a co-dependent relationship with a habitual masturbator.

PeterFiles #02: Overdrawn at the Sperm Bank

Modern techniques of clinical sperm extraction are remarkably effective, but the more powerful physical gratification produced can prove addictive to some men. Here the experience unfortunately exacerbates Peter’s pre-existing tendencies.

PeterFiles #03: Summer Camp

Experiences in puberty often have formative power in establishing patterns of masturbatory dependency. Peter’s spontaneous discovery of self-abuse was unfortunately confirmed by his pubertal social interactions, of which this is one example. Here we also see a connection established between urinary continence and masturbatory practices

PeterFiles #04: Penis Cream

We often tend to overlook the physical harm that the practice of self-abuse causes. Although we are no longer concerned that masturbation leads to vision loss, hair growth, or dermatological abnormalities, we forget that habitual and excessive indulgence often causes penile abrasions and other motion stress injuries. The health-care professional should always be on the lookout for the physical effects of masturbatory addiction and be prepared to apply appropriate treatment.

PeterFiles #05: The Party

This chapter describes an incident while he was in a treatment program that emphasized social aversion conditioning. We are fully supportive of this treatment protocol, which intentionally places the masturbator in social situations where his habit is exposed to others and its humiliating nature may be recognized.

PeterFiles #06: Betting the Ranch

The male’s primal fear of castration is well known in the psychology literature. However, in our work with habitual masturbators we frequently find a counter emotional affect: an actual fascination with the prospect of castration by the hands of a woman, that can be compared only to the attraction of a moth to the flame. At the Institute we are investigating this phenomenon under controlled condition by placing randomly selected males under realistic threat of castration by our nurses and monitoring their sexual response. We find that sexual arousal occurs in a surprisingly high percentage of the habitual masturbators. We are exploring the possible therapeutic applications of this effect. In the chapter below we can see the phenomenon arising spontaneously during a harmless practical joke played on Peter by a young friend.

PeterFiles #07: Beach Balls

Masturbation is often called “the private vice”, but the compulsive masturbator frequently practices his habit in circumstances that can only invite discovery. The reactions of accidental witnesses may lead either to reinforcement of this dubious behavior or to serious legal complications for the masturbator. In his account below Peter demonstrates this strong connection between exhibitionism/voyeurism and masturbatory addiction.

PeterFiles #08: The Diary

The role of heredity in the development of masturbatory addiction has received insufficient study; whether nature or nurture is predominant is still an open question. At the Institute for Correction of Sexual Misbehavior, we hold that, while genetic factors may predispose a man to masturbation dependency, expression of the trait is not inevitable. The development of unwholesome habits depends ultimately on deficits in the personal character and self discipline of the masturbator, and may be avoided by appropriate early corrective intervention. In this chapter, Peter discovers the diary of his great-grandfather, which indicates a family history of habitual masturbation and describes corrective measures common in the last century. While we do not endorse every particular of the treatment described below, we entirely agree with its emphasis on the personal value issues of masturbatory addiction.

PeterFiles #09: Molly Does the Milking

Partialism, the fixation of sexual attraction on secondary sexual characteristics, is commonly associated with masturbatory addiction. The habitual masturbator, accustomed by long practice to manual gratification, loses his capacity to perform normal coitus and may find the primary female genitalia intimidating (see Peter File #05). He transfers his sexual attention to other parts of the female body, most often the bosoms, usually responding strongly to women with generous endowments. The logic of this choice is clear: After her vulva, the breasts are the most feminine part of a woman, and the traditional association of the breast with nurturing and sympathy provides an important reassurance to the sexually insecure masturbator. Peter’s breast partialism is apparent in many of the PeterFiles.

PeterFiles #10: Spanking Salon

The explicit sense of shame that afflicts most habitual masturbators causes them to seek out (sometimes unconsciously) opportunities for punishment and correction. Often this results in a poorly articulated desire to be spanked, especially by a sexually attractive woman to emphasize the humiliation of the experience. The recent growth of commercial “spanking salons” may be largely driven by this phenomenon. While these non-accredited establishments are no substitute for professional genital therapy, they do provide the masturbator with convenient and affordable adult spanking services and can play a useful role in the treatment of masturbation dependency.

PeterFiles #11: Enema Practice

In which Nurse Collins recruits Peter for a demonstration of patient care procedures. 

Nurse Collins soothed, “There, there, of course you couldn’t. Don’t worry, Peter, no one will hurt you. No, Alice, in patient-centered care, we must be sensitive to a patient’s feelings. His erection is an involuntary reaction, and we shouldn’t punish him for it.”

PeterFiles #12: What the Doctor Ordered

Secondary sexual dysfunction is a frequent consequence of excessive masturbation, and premature ejaculation is one of the most common clinical manifestations. Two complimentary processes are at work: frequent masturbation lowers the ejaculatory threshold and accustoms the sexual organs to non-coital emissions, thereby setting the stage for praecox ejaculation; and the moral degradation of masturbation leads to lowered self esteem and increased anxiety with women, resulting in almost unbearable tension when presented with coital opportunity. The result is a loss of normal ejaculatory control, and a habitual masturbator is often unable to accomplish sexual intercourse even with a willing and understanding partner. Usual therapeutic measures are not effective, and the sufferer is well advised to seek a therapist who will take into account the special dynamics of masturbation-induced premature ejaculation.

PeterFiles #13: Aunt Emily’s Boarding House

Extensive clinical experience teaches the importance of early intervention in the treatment of compulsive masturbation. As soon as signs of pubertal excess are noted, steps must be taken to prevent self abuse from becoming habitual. Although we prefer that an incipient masturbator be referred to a professionally trained therapist, we acknowledge that the wisdom and skills needed to treat youthful self abuse are not confined to the professional caste. Many young boys have been rescued from vicious habit by the dedicated efforts of a strong caring female in his environment — an aunt, a neighbor, a teacher — capable of intervening and rigorously enforcing standards of decency and self control. Often these women employ traditional methods of shaming and corporal punishment, which, when intelligently administered in an intimate familial setting, can be remarkably successful. Peter was fortunate to have an aunt extraordinarily capable to address his situation. That Peter received such early attention and yet failed to benefit can be charged only to his unusual predisposition towards masturbatory addiction.

PeterFiles #14: Shooting for Janet

The photographer shoots, and shoots for his model.

 


 

The Impact of Masturbation on Romantic Relationships | Psychology Today

In spite of the aforementioned benefits and concomitant lack of untoward consequences, many men and women are still displeased when they discover their romantic partner is masturbating.  They believe their partner must be bored or dissatisfied if he (she) is masturbating.   Available research however does not necessarily support this assertion and instead finds that that masturbation is actually healthy in relationships. Early on Kinsey discerned a link between sexual satisfaction in relationships and prior

Source: The Impact of Masturbation on Romantic Relationships | Psychology Today