masturbators said:

I have a major project I’m supposed to be working on, due in June. It’s something that I enjoy and want to do well on. And yet … and yet … all I can think of is masturbation. I want to do it, to blog about it, to chat about it. I can keep my thoughts focused on the project for a few minutes or maybe an hour, but masturbation is always in the background, calling to me. I’m like a swimmer in a strong current: I can make progress, but it’s an effort; and when I relax for just a moment I’m swept away.

I know why I’m like this. Years of masturbating, especially long slow marathon edging, have burned the urge deep into my brain. It’s always there, waiting for me to give in. I’m everything the anti-masturbation sites warn about.

Has chronic masturbation brought you to this point? Can you still concentrate when you need to?

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I clearly cannot concentrate.  I genuinely think if it weren’t for masturbation, I could be president, or a senator…..or something.  But that is an "if" the size of Texas.  I can no more quit masturbating–and all of my supportive kinks along with it–than I could breathing.

Luckily, the Good Lord blessed me with a decent amount of skills, so I can function decently in society at what is really only about "half throttle". 

What a blessing and a curse!

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I always think of the same thing: how much better off in life’s material and spiritual rewardsI could have been if not for the constant insatiable companion between my legs. But as you say, a blessing and a curse. So few males ever know the intensity of gratification that we enjoy every day as chronic masturbators.

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I know I’m late but just read this. Used to be a much bigger problem
when I was single.
Oddly enough it became a problem with the first Onania group! So much
to read and view (and play with my cock to) that it really took up a
lot of time. I tend to go thru phases. I’ll waste a ton of time
masturbating daily for awhile then get real busy with other stuff and
slow down.
I went on a trip a couple weeks ago and had to go several days without
it! Thought I was gonna explode. (And did when I was able.) Had to
stop by a vacant home I’m selling for a half hour, so I bought some
old porn at a pop culture store and jacked off in the empty house
which was fun…almost wish I could have spent hours there doing it
over and over.
Good thing about my job is that the deadlines are insane when work
comes in so it forces me to hunker down, then I jack off after I’m
done as my reward.
One of the only good things about not having the old site is that I
was able to focus and concentrate more.
(Now I just have to balance this new one!)

The signs of chronic masturbation and porn addiction: 

SO you sense that something is not quite right in your relationship. He seems distracted and when it comes to sex, his requests have been getting stranger and stranger. Red alert, your man may be hooked on something and it sure ain’t you sweetheart!
Here are 10 ways you can be sure.

1 His hours on the Internet are out of whack. At one time, the Internet used to be essential for checking mails, doing some researching or catching up on the latest gossip. Now your man seems to be totally hooked on it. He wakes up to go to the bathroom and he has to "check in" before he comes back to bed. Something is keeping him there, and it’s not his emails.

2 His Playboy collection is huge. Buying one or two copies of Playboy is a nice little hobby, but obsessing with every issue and even buying similar magazines in that nature, is taking a joke much too far.

3 His obsession is beginning to affect your relationship. You can hardly get any TLC time in as he is too busy surfing porn sites to attend to your needs. No amount of complaints will budge him from off those sites.

4 Losing interest in activities. He used to be the life of the party and one who could be counted on to get the fun ball rolling. Now, all he wants is to be left alone. He needs ‘quiet time’ (in front of the computer) and seems really upset if you try to change his mind.

5 Strange sex requests. You’re thinking your man has totally lost his mind. Suddenly he wants to do things that are totally out of whack. Sure you are adventurous when it comes to sex, but there are some requests that are just too weird to even mention.

6 DVD collection. He is no longer interested in action movies…well not the gun kind anyway. His porn DVD collection is piling up and what’s worse, he doesn’t seem interested in getting anything else.

7 He’s moody and restless. These days he is totally restless, moody and it’s really hard to have a conversation with him. When you try to find out what’s wrong, he brushes your concerns aside and seems less inclined to talk.

8 Your sex life is beginning to suffer. Your sex life is practically non-existent and he doesn’t seem to mind! Honey, if he is not getting his needs taken care of by you, then there is something else that’s keeping him satisfied.

9 He’s into masturbation. He has suddenly taken up the habit of masturbation. Even when you want some real action, he wants to include that into you lovemaking session. Your man is a porn-goner.

10 Needs a lot of stimulation. It’s getting harder and harder for him to be aroused. He needs a vast amount of stimulation before he can be sexually aroused and even when you are putting your all into it, he seems more distracted than anything else.

10 dead giveaways your man’s - JAMAICAOBSERVER.COM

 Good advice:

Most pervs have fetishes of one kind or another, and some of us have intense and specific fetishes. It’s pretty typical for us, at one time or another, to have an overwhelming urge to act out those fetishes. The urge can come on so powerfully we feel like we’ll go nuts if we don’t do something about it. Like… RIGHT NOW. That frenzied sense of urgency makes us fantasize about doing things we know are risky or illegal or just plain stupid. Fortunately, most of us understand that imposing our fetish needs on non-consenting partners is crossing the line and we strictly limit our activities to consenting adults.

Unfortunately, not all of us do. And when the law gets hold of fetishists who do not control their impulses, they’re usually doomed to being labeled sex criminals for the rest of their lives. Like this pathetic jerk. … Gloria’s Oversexed Mind: It’s called impulse control

masturbators said:

Oh yes! You’re right. The older we get the more time we need to
efficiently regroup and reload. Also I postulate that the way we get
used to ‘getting off’ affects the way we are with our spouses too
and reduces the effectiveness of intercourse over that of
masturbation.
mmmm still it feels good to j/o!
what to do? I try and take time prior to when I want to be with my
wife and not j/o to completion.

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I jack for hours looking at ass pics. I love a woman’s asshole. Love
pics of hard cocks too.
Just wanted to add that one thing that I am proud of is that I spent
my entire teen years jacking off. Never had sex at all! Now I’m
hoping that I can ween my wife off of sex so I can have my penis all
to myself again.

More…

from Gloria’s Oversexed Mind: Fucking Science . Regular readers of Onania . Org will have no disagreement.

… Yet even when methods have scientific anchors — for example, when studies show (as they have, repeatedly) that an active sex life contributes to the overall health and longevity of the human organism, and they’ve got the medical evidence to prove it — there is still the question of the researchers’ assumptions about sex. Researchers’ biases, in terms of how they think people should respond or what they believe should be normal behavior in bed, distort the data they report. Nowhere is that clearer than in recent studies which have concluded that fucking is good for you. Don’t get me wrong: fucking IS good for you. If you like it. If you’re not that into it, it’s not so hot.

What researchers are less inclined to admit is that it is not the act of fucking itself that is so healthful: it is the arousal and orgasm. Arousal begins the process of the brain sending out those lovely and delicious chemicals; suddenly, our hormones are jumping to attention and informing every molecule to prepare for a thrilling event; our heart rate increases, our pulse quickens, our blood rushes into our genitals, and ultimately orgasm completes the experience, with its own complement of swooningly sweet brain chemicals and, finally, deep relaxation.

Fucking is just one of untold numbers of ways that human beings can produce the above effects. Which is why celibates may enjoy all the same benefits of sex as the fuck monsters, provided they masturbate. Actual male/female intercourse doesn’t add health benefits, except in two ways. Fucking requires a good bit of energy and coordination and is reasonable (though not great) exercise for toning and stretching muscles (including the ones between your legs and buttocks). If you never work out, fucking may be the least you can do to stay in shape, though, frankly, yoga is probably better for you, with less chance of accidental injuries or strains. For women, maintaining vaginal health and flexibility after menopause requires some form of penetration — though not necessarily by a penis. So if you want a happy vagina, put something inside it and move it around. Of course, that could be your lesbian lover’s strap-on, your favorite vibrating dildo, or that shampoo bottle you secretly molest in the shower. (Do I know my readers, or do I know my readers?)

… The truth is that even if you’d rather go to bed clutching a shoe than a partner, even if you’d rather fuck the laundry than a member of the opposite sex, you can still enjoy all the positive health benefits of sex, as long as you get aroused and have orgasms.

Gloria’s Oversexed Mind: Fucking Science

from How Online Porn is Destroying Relationships 

… the sex began to decline, to the point where they were doing it only half a dozen times a year. He would bring his laptop into the bathroom, and with them on vacation. One day, she hacked into his computer and found he was in a chat room with a woman she knew. “I said, ‘Either it goes or I go.’ He didn’t do it for three days, and then I found him on again. He said he was working, but there was a window behind him and I could see in the reflection that it was a girl bent over with her fingers up her crotch.”

Part of her anger came from incomprehension—she was stunned he could choose streaming video over her. “This wasn’t even another person. He had a choice between jerking off in front of his computer or having sex with me, and he chose the computer.”

 Problems masturbators worry about:

I am a 15-year-old boy. I play football and I usually have a lot of stamina, but of late when I run the 400 metres, I get terribly tired. My friends attribute this loss of stamina to masturbating. Does masturbation decrease the level of stamina in my body? Please tell me because I need to have enough energy to play the 90 minutes that each game of football lasts.

—Long-Distance Boy

? My boyfriend says he masturbates six times a month and that, as a result, he is now ejaculating much more quickly than he used to. Will this cause any problems during our married life? Will he be able to satisfy me? We have never had sex before so I am very nervous and worried about this.

—On Behalf Of The Boyfriend

? I am a 20-year-old. Whenever I see some hot scenes (such as scenes featuring hot women in sexy poses and appearing nude) I become completely uncontrollable. I masturbate very often because of this. Is it right to masturbate so often? I have lot of goals that I want to achieve but this habit seems to be restricting me. Is this a good practice or are there any remedies for my problem?

—High Achiever

? I want to share some stories about the wrong things I have been doing. I have been masturbating for about 10 years and I really enjoy it. However, I am looking to get married and I want to know whether my habit of masturbating will affect my sexual relationship with my partner.

—Wondering About Masturbation and Marriage

? I am a 24-year-old man, and from the age of 15 I have had this habit of masturbating. I learned it from some bad friends. I have since realised that this is a very bad habit but I am sorry to say that I am unable to keep any of my resolutions and stop this habit. Is masturbating wrong? If so, then how do I stop myself? If it is not wrong, then why is my sperm count so much lower than it used to be before I started masturbating? With a low sperm count, will I be able to make my future wife happy and have children? Will my children have any birth defects? If I marry will my sperm count automatically increase, or should I consult a doctor and take medication for this?

—Man With Low Sperm Count

answers at Express Buzz - Don’t worry, be a wanker

a reader worries in Daily Bedpost - All About Sex with Em & Lo

My current boyfriend and I have been dating for close to a year and we plan on moving in together next spring.  But there is an issue: the lovely boyfriend likes to masturbate. Not that that’s the issue, I mean I get bored and horny too, it’s just that he does it about three or four times a week, sometimes for hours at a time. We’ve discussed it before and he knows it bothers me that he can spend four hours at a time looking at fake boobs in lame mainstream porn, and while he says he used to do it a lot more often before we were dating, and that he doesn’t like doing it but can’t help himself, it worries me that he can’t find anything better to do! Come on man, get a hobby! He has half-jokingly said he should go to some sort of sex-addiction group, but honestly our sex life (minus the masturbation issue) is fine — we have sex when we want, sometimes we just sleep instead. I just worry when we move in together I’ll catch him slinking away to go masturbate at all hours, since he "can’t help it." Once he even did it in the bathroom of a hotel room we were staying at when I was reading a book in bed! I guess what I’m asking is just how much masturbation is too much, and is there any way for us to feel better about it?

Daily Bedpost - All About Sex with Em & Lo

from The lure of the Internet; porn addiction and can there be found intimacy on line? « Synergetics

Pornography on the Internet.

Another way to search for intimacy is to create a fantasy world with pornography. It creates an unreal world that brings a person deeper and deeper into a dependency (NOT unlike drug and alcohol addiction!!!) that influences us throughout our development stages and that sets the tone for our further life. The problem is that an addiction is developed that forces us to find sexual relieve through masturbation and can (and often will) develop into compulsive sexual behavior / masturbation. Emotional and sexual needs are geared towards the encounter with “airbrushed models and porn stars and “nameless strangers” estranging us from our reality and our relationships. Torbjörn Fjellström who runs Sweden’s only state acknowledged clinic for”relationship abusers” (relationsmissbrukare) categorizes compulsive masturbation and Porn dependency as addiction!  …more The lure of the Internet; porn addiction and can there be found intimacy on line? « Synergetics

from Reasons for Over Masturbation 

In this article, we shall discuss masturbation issues in men. The penis is a highly sensitive organ, which can be aroused by a mere thought. But while masturbating, the man fondles the penis with various kinds of movements. The penis achieves an erection, and there is an ejaculation of the semen at the end of the session.

People all over the world are in a sort of debate as to what is the right frequency for a person to masturbate, i.e. what qualifies as over masturbation in men. Some men masturbate once a week, while some may go up to several times a week. There are also some men who claim they do not masturbate at all. Though there are vastly different trends in the frequency of masturbation, nothing can be said about the advantage or disadvantage of over masturbation.

Some experts maintain that over masturbation can lead to a person’s obsession about his own penis, which may interfere in the day-to-day life of the person. The person may become so much maniacal about masturbating that even in the midst of some work, the man may take a quick ‘toilet break’. This is a psychological behavior and therapy might be needed to cure it. Men obsessed with over masturbation could reject their social life just in order to be able to enjoy the pleasures of masturbating in private. In extreme cases, this could occur in marriages, leading to divorces.

Some men who are unhappy with their sexual life also resort to over masturbation as a way of relieving their sexual tensions. Over masturbation is also prevalent in boys who are just beginning to learn about their sexuality. Boys who grow up in a sheltered and introverted kind of family atmosphere might become more obsessed with their own genitals. Hence over masturbation could indicate a deep-rooted trauma in the past of the man, or some fault in the upbringing like overtly strict parents.

more at Reasons for Over Masturbation