a reader worries in Daily Bedpost - All About Sex with Em & Lo
My current boyfriend and I have been dating for close to a year and we plan on moving in together next spring. But there is an issue: the lovely boyfriend likes to masturbate. Not that that’s the issue, I mean I get bored and horny too, it’s just that he does it about three or four times a week, sometimes for hours at a time. We’ve discussed it before and he knows it bothers me that he can spend four hours at a time looking at fake boobs in lame mainstream porn, and while he says he used to do it a lot more often before we were dating, and that he doesn’t like doing it but can’t help himself, it worries me that he can’t find anything better to do! Come on man, get a hobby! He has half-jokingly said he should go to some sort of sex-addiction group, but honestly our sex life (minus the masturbation issue) is fine — we have sex when we want, sometimes we just sleep instead. I just worry when we move in together I’ll catch him slinking away to go masturbate at all hours, since he "can’t help it." Once he even did it in the bathroom of a hotel room we were staying at when I was reading a book in bed! I guess what I’m asking is just how much masturbation is too much, and is there any way for us to feel better about it?
