from Ruined orgasms as a coping mechanism? | tantalism.org
…I’m curious about the idea of ruined orgasms as a coping mechanism to achieve lengthy denial periods. ohxmy has been without orgasm for almost a year, but has also endured a number of ruined orgasms. And you sometimes read about males who are only allowed to relieve their buildup of fluids that way without ever being allowed to properly climax.
So is it better to have them occasionally, maddening and difficult as it might be to endure, in order to hold out a bit longer? Physically, it seems it could make indefinite denial a possibility without causing the sex drive to shut down entirely.
Could you consider it a form of cheating, or just a way of blowing off a bit of the pressure without sacrificing the delicious frustration? In the case of guys (and some women for that matter) is it preferable to pushing the envelope too far and having a wet dream?
