a masturbator worried:
Are u serious???….your impotence is due to your habit of masturbation????…in that case we’re all due to become impotent soon????…..please say you’re joking or i miss understood u. I love to masturbate a lot, but i also love to fuck pussy and will really go crazy if i couldn’t penetrate pumpum again, so pleeeease clarify John cause I’m worried!!!.
other masturbators confirmed:
I think several other chronic masturbators here will also attest to this phenomenon. Some of us tend to grow more and more dependent on manual stimulation, to the point we can no longer penetrate a loving and willing partner. I call it “masturbatory impotence”.
In my case, I am now functionally impotent as far as sexual intercourse goes, due to excessive masturbation dependency. I have become so accustomed to the intense gratification I get in my own hand that the stimulation of intercourse is insufficient for me to maintain erections. I either fail to penetrate, or go limp after penetration.
I freely admit that there is a large psychological component to this, and it may never happen to you, or most other chronic masturbators. I simply find masturbation more exciting and rewarding; I have little difficulty staying erect for long solo masturbation sessions or for receiving handjobs. And if I lose erection temporarily during masturbation, there is no performance anxiety associated with it; I simply stroke a bit limp and the hard returns. But in sexual intercourse there is a performance anxiety that makes me more likely to loose erection and less likely to recover if lost.
Age is a factor; when I was younger and more physically vigorous I could get it up for both intercourse and masturbation, usually in the same day. With age intercourse competency became increasingly marginal and then failed altogether. Interestingly, as a teenager I had so much performance anxiety I rarely erected the first time with a girl; it took a lot of “relationship” before I could copulate successfully. So perhaps the seeds of masturbatory impotence were there all along.
By the way, the performance anxiety also happens sometimes in masturbating on webcam or in my self-made masturbation videos. Somehow the mental effort of balancing the “audience expectations” with my own inner excitement can cost me an erection. I still love to webcam (and often with full erection), because of the exhibitionistic thrill.
I usually do not post..more of a lurker, but this topic speaks to me. There is no doubt that
I have become a chronic masturbator, and have had difficulty with maintaining an erection.
In my case I think that the root problem has at least two seperate causes. First of all, I
have not had sex with my wife for about 4 years…the reasons are not important, however,
it has forced me to become dependent on my own hand (or someone’s hand) to bring me
satisfaction. I have noticed over the years that it takes more and more stimulation to reach
orgasm, particularly if I do a lot of edge playing (this is what I like best). Second, I have
had heart problems and am on four seperate medications, each of which has a libido side
effect. Frankly it has been so long since I have been with anyone, I don’t know what would
happen… Be very interested in sharing experiences with another mature male just to see!
Added to these problems, my penis has shrunk somewhat in size…both length and girth.
LOVE IT! LOVE IT! LOVE IT! This latest thread is neat! Yes, I too
would have I/course performance problems! And how delicious it is!
I think folks know of my “masturbation fidelity” cherishings,
and “being limp” except for masturbation fits right in. I mean, a
wife can be confident that Hubby is faithful, because he can only
cumm by masturbation.
The fantasy part of it also is Wifey physically CRAVES orgasm, but
wants the utlimtate safe sex, and so wants a masturbation impotent
husband. Part of the fantasy, if one wants, is to have Wifey “so
big” down below that she is only satisfied with a bigg bigg toy!
What do others think? Also, what do some of the Ladies among us
think? Wouldn’t a husband or partner like WE be appealing?
Also, do we all agree that we need porn to “jump start” our limp
I think this is a very individual and as at least one post alluded to very likely at least (I qualify as I’m no doctor, either) partially psychological thing. Many guys masturbate like crazy for their lives and do not become impotent. However, I have seen medical evidence that infertility or lowered fertility is a likely result of constant orgasming for males – basically a life-long pursuit does “wear out” your reproductive capacity. The only medical things I have read about masturbation and impotence have indicated no causal relationship, however those studies centered more around regular rather than extreme masturbatory habits.
Personally, I prefer masturbation to intercourse strongly, but I prefer sex with other to masturbation a substantial portion of the time, and I do have some pursuits that I pay attention to besides masturbation, so I am not nearly as extreme as some here, though I have gone through many a lost weekend and so forth. That said, I have never had problems aside from isolated rare instances with being hard for intercourse. However, I sometimes do cum far too quickly in intercourse OR if I keep going a while I occasionally lose it for a while and can’t stay hard inserted (but quickly will get hard again outside). But that hasn’t seem affected by masturbation – in fact, it seems that the latter problem of staying hard has gone away over time as I’ve worked my penis so much it is much more capable of “behaving” as I desire, and the former problem of cumming too soon is not eliminated but rarer. That said, my wife also has thankfully moved away from wanting intercourse much at
all, so I don’t have to do it much these days, and rarely want to.
And btw I’ll be masturbating most of this evening, starting as soon as I get rid of a guest :) around 6 PM-ish Pacific time, feel free to email or IM me, anyone, not sure when I’ll be on, but I will be occasionally and will be interested if anyone wants to talk, preferably but not necessarily females, I love to confess my sissy slut secrets and so on…sorry for the plug – but I’m in the mood.. ;)