In the Onania Masturbator Forum, a Masturbator Wrote:
We all know the stories where family men are watching porn from Internet and masturbating entire night, many nights, years,… The woman feels inadequate, rejected and thinks that there must be something wrong in her as her man rather looks porn. This puts major pressure on the relationship. Sometimes it can be saved and sometimes not. I think that the reason why things go that way, and what actually is the problem, is that those couples who can not find the ‘common factor’ in the porn/masturbation are in trouble. Like my wife encourages my masturbation in order to get more power over me. It works because the abuse and humiliation she gives to me is the hottest thing on earth to me. It’s intoxicating when I get the feeling that she’ being genuinely mean to me. So more I masturbate more she gets.
I think women often miss the other half of the equation. As men want porn and masturbation so much that they stay a wake nights, doesn’t it mean that it is important to them? Why not then using it as bargain? “Yes honey, you can watch porn all night if you take kids to school tomorrow, do the dinner and everything.” More he masturbates deeper he sinks in to relationship. But as I’m not an average woman I can only guess that that’s not the kind relationship women want. It could work though as the normally destructive effect of porn watching and masturbation could be turned in to a constructive force. Ideally the relationship becomes better. In my case, more I masturbate more submissive I come and as a result less we argue. It’s a good effect of masturbation. (The other side is that, sooner or later it always comes to the point where my wife gets upset because I ‘get so much more’, more relaxing and enjoyment I assume. Then I know it’s time to step back with masturbation.)
Recently, in my masturbation binges I’ve been considering taking this way farther. Could the porn watching and masturbation be used to break the man in? Like to create real inequality. When I get the chance, I masturbate as much as I can. Then after maybe three days of 15-16 hours per day masturbation I get these really inferior and bad feelings. I really disgust myself. How could I’ve done something like that vile and nasty? I’m a horrible person. I really need to quit doing this.
How would the partner feel? I’m assuming the same, it is disgusting. Masturbator is a “underachiever”, as servufon nicely put it above. Instead of doing good for two, he’s doing bad for one, himself, as he’s sinking deeper in to addiction and needs ever nastier porn to get his kicks. So could the partner feel some sort of superiority? I would certainly feel that my partner would be mentally stronger and better than me because I would give in on the allure of sexuality to the point of it being abnormal and repulsive. Many of us here, married or not, feel the shame, guilt, humiliation and embarrassment we get from masturbation and actually thrive on it. We are massively getting off of the idea. Could that be used as a constructive force?
The man would get more humiliation knowing that also his partner thinks it is bad for him to get deeper in to the addiction. This would encourage him to masturbate more just creating the self-feeding addiction cycle . The woman would get the feeling of being better, and later even better. Ultimately it will be for real, to both parties.
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